Rat Girls

Rory Uphold, author of A Final Girl's Guide To The Horrors Of Dating, joins us to talk about the ups and downs of dating and what she has learned from her experiences! We chat about debunking traditional dating advice, how women can become the choosers, when to leave a relationship, how to take autonomy over your dating life, how to get rid of a limiting belief system, how to heal from SA and feel empowered moving forward, and how to learn to fall in love with yourself! 

TW: We talk about our SA experiences and how we moved forward from them. 

We also nibble on the ick, horror movies, our SA stories, Scream, Chappel Roan, concert culture, sunscreen, and more. 

GG Magree, whose new album SPIT LOVE comes out Oct 22, joins us to talk about sexuality and creativity! S8xuality inspires creativity and vice versa. And when you learn to step into yourself and find your stride, you become completely yourself and unlock your creative potential! We touch on how you deserve to take up space creatively, sexually, and personally. And we touch on how you get to the place where you are completely comfortable being yourself.

We also nibble on pole dancing, horror films, being bi, the spirit world, ghosts, Benson Boone, AI, Sabrina Carpenter, and Gossip. 

This week, my husband Jesse Townes joins me to talk about what men think about during s*x. We answer: Men, why don't you make any noise? Speak up!, Is it true that when you are in doggy, you think about other girls?, Do you have to go somewhere else mentally to finish?, What is going through your head when you are f!ngering me?, What does it mean when a guy doesn't make eye contact during s*x?, How long is too long to go without s*x in a relationship?, Do you judge how our vulv@s look?, and do you care if there is a little poop during booty stuff?

We also nibble on sm*t books, Quicksilver, responsive desire, male insta-cart drivers, plantains vs bananas, Hercules, Disney and more. 

Kaila Yu, author of the newly released book Fetishized, joins us to discuss the fetishization of Asian Women in the Western Media. We cover the 2000s as problematic,  Memoirs of a Geisha, how stereotypes affect mental health, dating, and building up your self-esteem after being fetishized, the nuance of sexualization, and more. 

We also nibble on being a foodie, LA restaurants, Emily Ratajkowski, Sabrina Carpenter, the empathy crisis, menopause, not being honest about plastic surgery, etc.     

It's just me this week, and I decided to put my Personal Trainer Certification to WORK and talk you all through some no bullsh*t fitness advice because I am tired of seeing people who do not know what they are talking about share info on working out. I walk you through the lies influencers are telling you, the secret to being fit, what workouts you should be doing, and the mind-muscle connection, how to apply things you learn practically, fitness goals for all levels, habit stacking, all or nothing mentality, how to eat for your fitness goals, breaking out of the binge/restrict mentality, finding balance and more! 

We also nibble on being in front of the camera, celebrity feuds, Las Culturistas, Love Island, and the Disney College Program.

John York, a voice actor and Quinn Narrator, joins us to talk about what makes something sexy and getting turned on between the ears! We walk through coming up with hot ideas, discovering new fantasies, how fantasies weigh up to real-life experiences, making your partner feel heard, audio erotica, good communication, checking in during a hookup, how to dirty talk, building confidence, and more. 

We also nibble on Hugh Grant, parasocial relationships, alarms, construction sounds, loud neighbors, and so on. 

How to Date People IRL with Cassidy Davis 

Cassidy Davis, creator of Chaotic Singles Events, is on the pod, walking us through how to meet romantic partners in real life! We’re talking about why the apps are dead, the benefits of meeting people IRL, how to approach people you’re interested in, what events to find singles at, where to find hot guys, overcoming rejection and social anxiety, what to do on a first date, and more! 

We’re also nibbling on getting engaged, LA Firefighters, mom stuff, wedding planning, Thailand, cooking classes, dating in LA, The Chicks, Country Music, orgasms, etc. 

Morgan Miller, midwife and co-author of The Cycle Book, joins us to teach us all about our cycle and how tracking it can change our lives! She's walking us through how hormones are actually our friends, explaining the different stages of the cycle, how to track your cycle, and why not to use apps, among other topics. 

We also nibble on birth control pills, endometriosis, the pain gap, conditions for pain, designer dog breeders, etc. 

Kenneth Play, the maker of good lovers, joins us on this week's episode! He teaches us all about how to get the men in our lives to help us come. We talk through how to be the top 1% of lovers, discovering what you like in the bedroom, how men can learn to pleasure women, verbal and non-verbal feedback from your partner, how to tell your partner what you want, how to use sm*t books to get better in bed, positive reinforcement, etc. 

We also nibble on vibes, Oing techniques, squ!rting, dark romance, the importance of breaks, and more. 

Sex therapist and author of Drink Water and Mind Your Business, Dr. Donna Oriowo, joins us to talk about self-esteem and how it relates to every aspect of your life! She teaches us how to identify our self-esteem type, how to build self-esteem, and how to establish boundaries to maintain our self-esteem. She also walks us through the aspects of our lives that having good self-esteem improves-- like our sex lives! 

We also nibble on DC, Fruit Flies, immigrants making America great, air travel, male loneliness, Emily Nagoski, and more.