Have you ever wished you could change someone in your life? Have you tried changing someone to fit your ideals and beliefs? If so, have you succeeded? Did it make you happy?

It’s frustrating to try and change someone who isn’t willing to change, especially when your circumstances aren’t helping. This will only trigger stress and anxiety, and will continuously deplete your inner peace and compassion.

In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty discusses why we should stop trying to change others and instead, focus on loving ourselves through cultivating patience, tolerance, and compassion.

Key Takeaways:
01:29 Have you tried changing someone in your life?
02:25 Top 3 reasons couples fight: money, sex, children
03:36The reasons why we try to change others
05:08 In trying to positively impact the world, we are changing ourselves
05:45 3 things that happen when we try to change people
08:01 Reason #1: We care more for comfort than change
12:52 Reason #2: We can’t understand others because of own narrow thinking
15:20 Reason #3: We think we are always right
18:04 Reason #4: We don’t understand the value of diversity
20:40 Change and the motivation to change are an inside job

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4 Reasons We Try To Change Others And How To Cultivate Tolerance, Patience, Compassion Instead

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.
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Why is it important to listen to your inner voice?
How can you cultivate a stronger connection with your inner voice?
In this episode, let's welcome Laura Lynne Jackson, a renowned psychic medium, author, and spiritual teacher, celebrated for her profound ability to bridge the physical and spiritual worlds. She has authored several influential books, including "The Light Between Us" and "Signs: The Secret Language of the Universe," which delve into the ways we can connect with the afterlife and harness our own psychic abilities.  She is widely respected for her compassionate approach and her commitment to helping others discover the transformative power of their own inner voices. 
Laura shares personal stories and professional experiences that illustrate the transformative power of tuning into the inner wisdom. She outlines practical steps anyone can take to cultivate a stronger connection with their inner voice, such as meditation, reflective practices, and journaling. These activities help clear the mental clutter, allowing the inner voice to emerge more clearly and influentially.
Jay and Laura also explore common challenges people face, like doubts and confusion about following this inner guidance, and provide reassuring advice on how to overcome these obstacles. Laura also stresses the value of trusting and acting on the insights provided by the inner voice, highlighting how this trust can lead to a more authentic, fulfilling life.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to identify your inner voice
How to cultivate genuine connection
How to interpret your feelings
How to trust your intuition
How to apply insights to everyday life
As you become more attuned to this powerful guide, you'll find clarity and direction in areas of life where you need it most. Don’t ignore it; embrace it and let it lead you to a more connected and fulfilling life.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
03:05 The Difference Between a Psychic and a Medium
06:59 We All Have Psychic Abilities
09:50 Discovering Your Own Ability
17:31 My Brainwave Patterns Are Different
22:04 The Psychic Abilities We Aren’t Aware Of
32:17 Weakened Disconnection to Our Inner Voice
35:50 Standing Firm with Your Moments of Knowing
40:41 How to Reconnect with Disconnected Relationships?
49:32 What Does Infatuation Mean?
55:27 Vibrations of Love
01:04:44 Living in the Present
01:10:26 How Important Are Tangible Signs
01:17:02 The Answers is Within Us
01:23:14 Being Still Within Yourself
01:25:19 Death Is Not A Dead End
01:35:02 How to Connect with Your Soul?
01:39:20 Getting Into Your Light Energy
01:42:44 Laura on Final Five
Episode Resources:

Laura Lynne Jackson | Website
Laura Lynne Jackson | TikTok
Laura Lynne Jackson | Instagram
Laura Lynne Jackson | Facebook
Signs: The Secret Language of the Universe
The Light Between Us: Stories From Heaven. Lessons for the Living
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Laura Lynne Jackson: How to Know What Your Inner Voice Really Means & 4 Steps to Tap into Your Own Psychic Abilities

Are you struggling with setting your boundaries?
Do you want to know how to respectfully tell others about your boundaries?
Today, Jay questions the traditional notion that a "good person" is one who never says no. This outdated definition leads to a lack of boundaries, which ultimately harms personal well-being. By redefining what it means to be a good person, one can recognize the importance of investing in themselves and navigating difficult conversations.
What does setting boundaries truly mean? They are defined not by what we want from others, but by what we need for ourselves. Jay explains that boundaries should not aim to control others but should protect the individual from their own triggers and provides practical advice on how to communicate boundaries effectively, suggesting the use of simple, clear statements without over-explanation.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to set boundaries without feeling guilty
How to NO effectively
How to communicate boundaries clearly
How to handle other people's reactions
How to build confidence in setting boundaries
Don't wait to reclaim your time, energy, and peace of mind—take control and become the assertive, self-respecting individual you deserve to be.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:31 Boundaries Are Often Tough to Set
03:45 #1: Redefine What Your Boundaries Are
09:05 #2: Clearly Communicate Your Boundaries
11:48 #3: Be Kind, Honest, and Empathetic to Other People’s Reaction
15:07 #4: You Subconsciously Sound Defensive When Setting Your Boundaries
17:53 #5: Plan a Buffer See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

10 Steps on How To Set Boundaries Without Offending People

Are you struggling with initiating difficult conversations?
Are you struggling with having difficult conversations with family members?
Today's guest is the hilarious and incredible story teller Tiffany Haddish, Emmy and Grammy-winning actress, comedian, and author. Known for her breakout role in "Girls Trip" and her New York Times bestselling book "The Last Black Unicorn," Tiffany has become one of the most influential voices in comedy with her sharp wit, resilience, and authentic storytelling. 
Tiffany and Jay have a vulnerable conversation with a candid look into Tiffany’s life, showcasing her journey from a challenging upbringing to becoming one of Hollywood’s brightest stars. Tiffany shares the emotional and often tumultuous experiences she faced growing up in foster care. Despite these challenges, she credits these early adversities for instilling in her a resilience that later became instrumental in her career. Tiffany discusses how humor became her coping mechanism and how it eventually became a tool for empowerment.
Jay and Tiffany also talk about relationships and the lessons she has learned from her experiences. She opens up about her past relationships and how they shaped her understanding of love, vulnerability, and self-respect. We get to listen to the healing power of laughter, the importance of community, and the role of faith in overcoming life’s challenges. 
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to overcome adversity
How to turn pain into humor and use it as fuel
How to embrace vulnerability
How to handle criticism
How to advocate for yourself 
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
03:08 Built to Have Fun
04:19 Emotional Hoarder
07:16 Celibacy
12:11 Being with the Wrong Person
15:41 Do You Believe in Past Life?
18:06 Who Do You Want to Date?
20:10 Growing Your Own Garden
22:48 Growing with a Creative Mind
25:05 Worst Thing About Being Me
29:11 Dealing with Online Hate
31:36 She’s Not My Mom Anymore
37:46 Processing and Dealing with Grief
43:36 Resenting and Forgiving My Father
48:46 The Phone Call with My Dad
55:24 Let’s Understand People’s Stories
57:59 Self Care is a Process
01:02:15 My Father Was Sick
01:05:07 Make Home in Your Childhood Community
01:10:29 The Love to Entertain People
01:18:07 What Would Little T be Proud Of?
01:20:24 Childhood Dreams
01:25:09 TIffany on Final Five
Episode Resources:

Tiffany Haddish | TikTok
Tiffany Haddish | Instagram
Tiffany Haddish | YouTube
Tiffany Haddish | Facebook
The Last Black Unicorn
I Curse You with Joy
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Tiffany Haddish: 4 Ways to Navigate Complicated Family Relationships & How to Have Hard Conversations You are Avoiding

How do you identify when you're restricting your desires in a relationship?
How can couples work together to align their desires and ensure mutual fulfillment?
Today, Jay welcomes back his good friend Lisa Bilyeu. Lisa is a co-founder of the billion-dollar brand Quest Nutrition and the president of Impact Theory, a digital media company aimed at empowering content. With a strong focus on developing content that speaks to personal growth and empowerment, especially for women, Lisa has been a pivotal figure in shifting paradigms within her industry. Her show, "Women of Impact," addresses issues facing modern women, combining personal anecdotes with actionable advice.
The core theme of this conversation is outlining a roadmap for individuals seeking to overcome insecurities and cultivate a resilient, action-oriented confidence. Jay and Lisa discuss the common misconceptions around confidence, emphasizing that it is not a prerequisite for action but a result of engaging with the world despite fears and doubts.
Lisa shares how her initial need for external validation was a significant barrier to personal growth, sharing transformative moments that reshaped her understanding of confidence and self-worth. She stresses the importance of embracing imperfection and vulnerability as catalysts for genuine self-improvement and empowerment.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to start building confidence
How to validate yourself
How to prioritize personal growth
How to handle fear of judgment
How to transform relationships
Together, let's continue to  question the preconceived notions about success and happiness and to take bold steps towards a life aligned with our deepest values and aspirations.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
03:32 How Do You Define Confidence?
06:54 Believe You’re Capable
09:54 Admitting That You’re Unhappy
16:13 The Frame of Reference
19:36 Everything Is A Risk
27:42 Non-Negotiables in Relationships
34:41 Conversations That Don’t Break Relationships
41:30 Who Leads, Who Follows
49:26 Conflicting Value System
54:57 Don’t Assume, Find a Compromise
59:21 Growth Mindset With Your Partner
Episode Resources:

Lisa Bilyeu | TikTok
Lisa Bilyeu | Instagram
Lisa Bilyeu | YouTube
Lisa Bilyeu | Twitter
Lisa Bilyeu | Facebook
Lisa Bilyeu | LinkedIn
Radical Confidence: 10 No-BS Lessons on Becoming the Hero of Your Own Life
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Why You Are Restricting Your Desires in Your Relationship & How to Stop Blocking Yourself from the Happiness You Deserve with Lisa Bilyeu

Does timing really matter in whether a relationship works?
What are healthy ways to deal with a breakup?
Today, let’s welcome back dating coach Matthew Hussey. Matthew is also a YouTube personality and writer known for offering advice on dating, love, and relationships to both men and women through his online content, seminars, and his book "Get The Guy." His approach typically combines practical advice, motivational coaching, and a bit of psychology to help individuals understand what they want from a relationship and how to get it.
Matthew shares his insights on the complexities of love, self-discovery, and the importance of honest communication. He emphasizes on the significance of creating a peaceful relationship, distinguishing it from a boring one, and the value of embracing vulnerabilities to foster deeper connections. Matthew's reflections on his own experiences, coupled with his expertise, provide a comprehensive guide on navigating the challenges of modern dating, building meaningful relationships, and cultivating self-awareness. 
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to cultivate peaceful relationships without boredom
How to deepen connections through vulnerability
How to navigate modern dating with confidence
How to enhance relationships with effective communication
How to enrich love life through self-awareness
Whether you're single, dating, or in a relationship, this episode offers valuable lessons on love, resilience, and the transformative power of embracing your true self.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
04:20 Where Does Your Idea of Love Come From?
10:34 What Differentiates a Peaceful to a Boring Relationship?
19:35 What Are Your Must-Haves in a Relationship?
31:47 Tactics Are Different From Relationship Standards
39:59 Egoic Standards Versus Setting Standards for Happiness
51:20 Practice Having Real and Difficult Conversations
01:04:48 The Importance of Communicating Your Thoughts and Feelings
01:08:25 Is Your Partner the Right One for You?
01:15:05 Dealing with the Different Phases of Heartbreak
01:26:31 What’s Next for Matthew?    
Episode Resources:

Matthew Hussey | Website
Matthew Hussey | TikTok
Matthew Hussey | Instagram
Matthew Hussey | YouTube
Matthew Hussey | Twitter
Matthew Hussey | Facebook
Love Life: How to Raise Your Standards, Find Your Person, and Live Happily (No Matter What)
Love Life with Matthew Hussey
https://matthewhussey.com/llbook-launch/ 
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4 Reasons We Try To Change Others And How To Cultivate Tolerance, Patience, Compassion Instead

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