On Purpose with Jay Shetty

4 Reasons We Try To Change Others And How To Cultivate Tolerance, Patience, Compassion Instead


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Have you ever wished you could change someone in your life? Have you tried changing someone to fit your ideals and beliefs? If so, have you succeeded? Did it make you happy?

It’s frustrating to try and change someone who isn’t willing to change, especially when your circumstances aren’t helping. This will only trigger stress and anxiety, and will continuously deplete your inner peace and compassion.

In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty discusses why we should stop trying to change others and instead, focus on loving ourselves through cultivating patience, tolerance, and compassion.

Key Takeaways:

  • 01:29 Have you tried changing someone in your life?
  • 02:25 Top 3 reasons couples fight: money, sex, children
  • 03:36 The reasons why we try to change others
  • 05:08 In trying to positively impact the world, we are changing ourselves
  • 05:45 3 things that happen when we try to change people
  • 08:01 Reason #1: We care more for comfort than change
  • 12:52 Reason #2: We can’t understand others because of own narrow thinking
  • 15:20 Reason #3: We think we are always right
  • 18:04 Reason #4: We don’t understand the value of diversity
  • 20:40 Change and the motivation to change are an inside job

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