In this episode, Katie Churchman talks with Maddie Weinreich about toxic behaviors. Building on John Gottman’s research into couples they explore how to become more aware and ultimately reduce the amount of ‘toxins’ that show up in your relationship. The 4 Relationship Toxins are Defensiveness, Contempt, Stonewalling and Blaming. When used frequently, these toxic communication patterns are so lethal to human relationships that Dr. Gottman coined the term the “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”.

In this podcast, we discuss: the characteristics of the 4 toxins; becoming more aware of your own toxic behaviors; building a positivity bank account; repair bids; and perpetual problems in relationship.

In this episode, Katie Churchman talks with ORSC coach and Agile expert Terrance Turpin. Terrance has over 20 years of experience in Technology and Software Development and is also a CRR USA staff member. Terrance blends Team coaching – supporting teams in clarifying, aligning & co-creating as a diverse but single entity -and Agility coaching – establishing healthy states of flow across an organization by coaching for alignment in structure, processes, environments, and relationships. Terrance believes that the coaching process is one that generates understanding and alignment for the client, their environments, and those they interact with.  

In this episode, Terrance and Katie discuss some of the synergies between ORSC and Agile Coaching; how ORSC and agile are two sides of the same coin; and how a blend of ORSC and Agile can enable organizations to master continuous change.

In this episode, Floyd Carlson and Katie Churchman are discussing myths and myth change. The idea of a myth connects us with the archetypal roots of the relationship - which has great meaning and power. We are always developing who we are as a couple or a corporation, but often unconsciously. So by revealing this creative process to clients the coach we can make it much more conscious and intentional. 

Floyd is a Front of the Room Leader for CRR Global who focuses on leaders and teams and bringing the best out of individuals based on company and individual objectives. Floyd has more than 30 years of business and military experience which he combines with his coaching, training, and organizational development to help leaders achieve professional and personal goals in alignment with company needs.

In this episode, Marita Fridjhon is deep-diving into principle 3: Relationship Systems Rely on Roles for their Organization and Execution of functions. Roles belong to the system, not to the individuals that inhabit the system

This principle requires the biggest mental shift in teaming and leadership focus as it asserts that every team member has the responsibility to hold a leadership role on behalf of the system. 

Every relationship system has its own functional and emotional needs that must be fulfilled through roles. Without assigned roles, the system can’t function. 

These roles belong to the relationship system, not necessarily to the individuals that inhabit them. How one person embodies a role can be very different from how another person embodies that same role. Personal history, psychology, work style, maturity, etc. all impact how skillfully each individual inhabits that role. 

In this episode, Marita Fridjhon and Katie Churchman deep-dive into the second of the 5 principles of Relationship Systems intelligence: Every member of the system is an information carrier and Voice of the System (VOS).  

You can think of a team or family as a puzzle where every member is a piece. To reveal the picture of the overall team experience, every piece is needed. Each member has critical information about the functioning of that team or family. The information may be transmitted through verbal and non-verbal signals, as well as through the behaviors and actions of the individuals within the team. 

As the Collective Intelligence research indicates, the more input acquired from others, the more informed a team will be in its decision-making. 

In this episode, Katie Churchman talks with Maddie Weinreich about vitality for couples. 

There are all kinds of ways we can be in relationship with our partners. Sometimes it can be very dull to be in a couple and can be very exciting! Relationships are in constant cycles. 

In this episode, Maddie talks about relationship behavioral patterns that can help to foster more aliveness, engagement and vitality.  After two decades of working with couples, Maddie’s noticed 5 recurring ‘elements’ in couples with high levels of vitality. These 5 elements are as follows:

1.     Autonomy 

2.     Interdependence

3.     Constructive Disagreement

4.     Intimacy

5.     Vision

When couples have all of these things going on there tends to be a good amount of engagement, aliveness and vitality. 

In this episode, CRR Global faculty member Neil Edwards is talking about Allyship. An ally is any person that actively promotes and aspires to advance the culture of inclusion through intentional, positive and conscious efforts that benefit people as a whole.

Neil Edwards is a soulful leader and perceptive coach who works at the intersection of leadership, relationships, wellbeing, and Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion. Neil supports leaders and teams and focuses on self-identity, self-authority, values, and purpose. He begins with a relationship lens and draws from co-active leadership, emotional and social intelligence, adult development, leadership embodiment, and health and wellness to help his clients increase their capacity and capability to lead in any context or system.

In this episode, Marita Fridjhon deep-dives into the first of the 5 principles of Relationship Systems Intelligence (or RSI): The Third Entity.

RSI involves the ability to move from seeing a group of individuals to seeing the system itself, as a living breathing entity and this is what we call Third Entity.

Relationship Systems Work holds that there is more present in a relationship than the individual team members. Along with the people involved, there is also the relationship or system itself. It is useful to consider the relationship as a separate “third entity” which has its own needs and voice. In Relationship Systems Work this Third Entity is the ultimate focus.

In this episode, Katie Churchman is talking with master coach Maddie Weinreich. As well as being the past director of faculty and leader development at CRR Global Maddie currently serves as a senior Front of the Room Leader for the ORSC Program and ORSC Certification

Maddie’s passion for personal development and human potential contributes to her success in the field of relationship coaching. For more than 25 years, Maddie’s own marriage has provided her with deep insights into the joys and challenges of a committed relationship. While raising her family in New England, Maddie has developed a great aptitude for helping others to discover the gifts that come from empowering relationships. These gifts serve to transform clients’ lives and help them move forward.

Maddie believes that all relationships have the potential for more growth and in this episode, Maddie discusses how to make your partner your ally.

In part 2 of Ghosts, Faith Fuller is talking about Time Spirits.

Time spirits are cultural ghosts, literally spirits of the times. Time Spirits arise from potent experiences or beliefs which involve the larger societal field. Each region or country has its own time spirits, depending on its history.  For example,  the United States wrestles with the Time Spirit of 9/11 and Germany works with the Time Spirit of the Holocaust,

In this episode, Faith talks about working with a Time Spirit. In order to work through a Time Spirit, we have to become aware of its impact on the relationship or team and design an alliance for dealing with it.