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July 13, 2020 16. The communication mistake that is preventing you being heard and how to fix it
The communication mistake that is preventing you from being heard and how to fix it.
What to do to finally be listened to.
If you’re wanting to feel close, connected, listened to, respected, understood, and like you matter. This is the episode you have been waiting for. To really feel heard there ARE certain communication styles that put a dead halt on passion.
In this episode we discuss the concept ARE, Are You With Me? From Sue Johnson’s book, Hold Me Tight, and what this has to do with being listened to. We learn from her concept a couple of simple steps to take to increase our chances of finally getting our partners to listen to us.
Other episodes referenced in this show are Episode 5: 4 Doomed Communication Patters.
This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent, or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship issue. If your relationship is struggling check out local couples therapy in your area for help, or a local health provider. Before making changes it’s a good idea to check with your local provider.
17 min
July 06, 2020 15. Why Some Relationships Survive Affairs- And Other’s Don’t
What makes the relationships survive different?
Understand what makes a relationship succeed or fail after cheating from the privacy of your home.
We discuss:
Normal reactions to learning about an affair
What not to talk about after an affair
How to make amends for an affair
How to know it’s time to have sex after an affair
How to rebuild trust after an affair.
This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure and medical, mental health, or relationship condition. Talk to a health, or relationship provider in your area before making changes.
14 min
June 29, 2020 14. The Truth About Creating Emotional Intimacy
The Truth About Creating Emotional Intimacy
2 secrets behind getting him to open up.
In this episode we discuss:
What emotional intimacy is to him
Differences in gender and connection
Conditions for emotional intimacy
This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure and any medical, relationship, or mental health problem, check with your health care provider or local couples therapist before making changes.
9 min
June 22, 2020 13. Why Tears Make Your Partner Run Away
When you need soothing the most, it's when your partner turns their back. Understand the mystery about why it is so hard to stay and give comfort.
In this podcast we discuss:
Differences in what tears mean
Fight/flight/freeze response to tears
Softening emotions
Compromise
Repair statements
See repair statements on Instagram @relationshippsych
This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any mental health or relational issue. Talk to a provider in your local area for more support.
9 min
June 15, 2020 12. 3 Secrets To Fighting Fair
Don’t let fighting become the root of evil in your relationship. Nasty fighting can turn even the best of relationships sour.
In this relationship advice podcast we talk about:
How to fight fair
How to solve conflict with your partner
How to take breaks
Going to bed angry
Differences in how men and women to conflict
Coming to terms with taking breaks in a fight
Remember the allure to talk about the problem, and talk about the solution instead
Putting conflict into perspective
Optimal Heart Rate for conflict with your spouse (Teachings from The Gottman’s)
This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent, or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship issues. Check with a provider in your area for advice to help your unique relationship.
12 min
June 11, 2020 11: 4 Point Road Map To Increase Sexual Satisfaction In Your Relationship
If your sexual relationship is as stale as month-old bread this podcast will lay the steps to create a passionate and enjoyable sex life.
In this relationship advice podcast episode, we are talking about the following:
How to talk about sex with your partner
How to initiate sex with your partner
Sex idea to keep it interesting
How to decline sex with your partner
Talking about sex likes and dislikes
This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent, or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship issues. Check with a provider in your area for advice to help your unique relationship.
12 min
June 03, 2020 10: If We Are HARD WIRED Differently, Are We Destined For Divorce?
What does it mean about you if you and your partner are very different?
In this podcast we discuss differences in relationships. Some topics include:
Being different than your partner
Arguments
Feeling invisible and taken for granted
The movie The Darkest Hour and lessons from Clementine.
How to accept your partner’s negative qualities.
This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure mental health or relational issues. For Treatment, talk a mental health or relationship professional in your area for advice specific to your relationship.
12 min
May 26, 2020 9: My Partner Pulls Away Under Stress, HELP
My Partner Pulls Away and it HURTS. Help.
How to deal with a partner that pulls away when they are under pressure.
In this episode we are going to be discussing some over-generalizations about how men and women typically do conflict and deal with emotions. Surely this is not the case of all women and all men, and in same sex couples it may look a little bit different, but some patterns will also be the same. Most of the literature comes from research on heterosexual couples.
For more relationship advice check out The Canadian Centre for Psychology and Relationship Resources, CCPRR.ca, where relationship advice is a simple click away.
This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure mental health or relational issues. For Treatment, talk a mental health or relationship professional in your area for advice specific to your relationship.
13 min
May 20, 2020 8: How to Whisper SWEET NOTHINGS
How to say simple words to make your partner blush.
In Gary Chapman’s book, 5 love languages he talked about the language words of affirmation. You use words to encourage, affirm, and appreciate. While this comes naturally to some, I have watched many couples struggle to find the words that connect to their partners hearts and ears.
The whisper of a sweet nothing is just a few words that expresses how you feel, or what your partner means to you. You don’t need to be a poet to craft the right thing to say. Simply expressing your heart is the language of the soul.
This episode was inspired as I watched Season 3 Episode of The Medici. The show depicts the love story of Lorenzo and Clarice. It’s far from a your typical perfect romance, but there is a quiet love that resonates through the show.
It made me think we do not need to wait until our loved ones are ill to whisper words of love, adoration or kindness. We can do it day in and day out, so if they were to ever fall ill, they would already know our true love and appreciation for them.
How do you speak sweet nothings?
1. Speak your truth
2. Take small steps that feel comfortable
3. Use compliments
4. Share memories
If this feels hard, check out the guide Rose Colored Glasses. Each week there is a prompt followed by a place for reflection to share a memory or concept. You could use this as a way to share with your partner how you feel, to share the sweet nothings.
This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any medical, mental health or relational problem. Check with your treatment provider to see if the advice is for you.
9 min
May 18, 2020 7: How To Create EMOTIONAL INTIMACY With Your Partner
The secrets every woman wants to know.
After doing couples therapy with hundreds of couples, I routinely encounter similar problems as I assess couples. It takes different forms, but sounds like this “I can’t get my partner to open up,” “I wish we were closer,” “we don’t have intimacy,” “my partner doesn’t talk,” and many more comments indicating that emotional connection is lacking.
In this episode we discuss the TV and Book Series Outlander by Diana Gabaldon. We look at the scene in season 1 episode 7 The Wedding, where they need to consummate their marriage.
In this episode we discuss:
How questions get your partner to open up
How to create emotional connection
How to pick the right time to talk to your partner
How to talk your partner will listen
For more on questioning and getting your partner to open up, check out the blog Use Questions to Create Emotional Intimacy with Your Partner.
If you want questions, check out our Game Questions Uniting Couples, where couples can get to know each other’s inner world while enjoying a competitive spirit.
Check out the instagram posts @relationshippsych

This podcast, is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any medical, mental or relational problem. Check with your health or relationship therapist before making changes.
12 min