How to calmly bring up a sensitive topic.

Because past pains can cause current sore spots.

In this episode, we cover 4 steps to bring up a sensitive topic.

We review a predictor of divorce and how to prevent it

We talk about how to calm down and why.

We discuss communication and timing.

The text number is 1(313)710-9683

This podcast is for informational purposes only.

Host- Amber Dalsin is a psychologist and couples therapist in Mississauga Ontario.

Is Healthy Dependency Possible?

Debunking dependency

In this episode where they talk about relationship dependency, when it helps and if it hinders. There are many common myths about relationship dependency. Many people think dependency is a bad thing period but is it really?

We cover if needy really is a bad thing.

How security actually helps create independence.

The dependency paradox.

Calming down so that your partner can meet your needs.

If you want the FREE GUIDE 5text 50 to 1(313) 710-9683 to get your copy of 50 Ways to Calm anger and Anxiety.

This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any mental or relationship problem. It is for informational purposes only. See a relationship professional in your area for advice for your specific problem.

Host- Amber Dalsin is a psychologist and couples therapist in Mississauga Ontario.

Catastrophic Couples Conflict and How To Prevent It

Transform fretful fights to calm conversations.

In this episode, we are going to discuss 2 types of problems in relationships and how couples get stuck in fretful fights.

We will answer the questions:

So why are you fighting with your partner anyways?

Are fights even normal in relationships?

Do all couples fight?

We review common cognitive distortions in relationships.

We discuss the two things that happen in all couples conflicts.

I teach out about the number one predictor of divorce and how to overcome it.

One of the tools to overcome this predictor of divorce is the 3 Step Script: Talking So He Listens. Simply text 1-313-710-9683 to download the simple and powerful template.

This podcast is for informational purposes only. See a couples therapist in your area for specific advice for your specific relationship.

Host- Amber Dalsin is a psychologist and couples therapist in Mississauga Ontario.

Simple Strategy to Be HEARD & Understood

To be heard, understood, respected, appreciated, connected - fundamental desire. This human needs is found in all races, religions, and groups- its woven into the fabric of our being. If you’ve wondered the strategy to use, so that he will listen, this is the episode for you.

To discuss the episode, we are going to use an example from the TV show the Crown and how in this one conversation Prince Charles (at least momentarily focuses on his relationship and not with that of his mistress). You can tell what I have been watching as you listen to the episodes. Princess Diana and Prince Charles and a key moment between them, where they are both feeling, heard, understood, and connected. I want to point out how right they were (or how right the writers of the TV show were).

We are going to look at the 3 steps to be heard and understood.

If you want to follow along with a PDF of this script click the link https://bit.ly/3StepScript.

This podcast is for informational purposes only. See a couples therapist in your area for specific advice for your specific relationship.

Host- Amber Dalsin is a psychologist and couples therapist in Mississauga Ontario.

A Mistake that STOPS Communication

Avoid doing this if you want good communication with your spouse.

To illustrate a mistake that most people make when they are communicating, this episode looks at an interaction between Princess Margaret and her husband that I witnessed watching the TV show the Crown. Now, I have no idea if this is what she was really like, and as TV does it made for some really interesting marriage moments. Season 3, Episode 3 on Netflix.

In this episode we discuss:

This podcast is for information only. See a couples therapist in your area for help with your relationship problems.

Host- Amber Dalsin is a psychologist and couples therapist in Mississauga Ontario.

Secrets To Successful Relationship Repairs

Have you wondered why relationship repairs are the most frequent post I make on Instagram? @emberrelationshippsychology

This episode is about the power of relationship repairs.

Imagine, you and your partner start sliding down the nasty spiral, the way all your big fights start, and then one of you quickly does a ninja move and halts the process, reconnecting you, getting you back on track. A repair.

On a cold snowy January day, I pulled up to a restaurant and saw my future husband sitting outside on a bench in the cold.

My heart fluttered in my chest and I knew that he was special. He would teach me about passionate love, and within 2 weeks he would also teach me about heartbreak.

In this episode we talk about:

Preventing conflict spirals

What makes relationship repairs work

How to stop fighting with your spouse

Emotional connection

How to stop a fight

Communication in relationships

This podcast is for information only. See a couples therapist in your area for help with your relationship problems.

Host:

Amber Dalsin is a psychologist and couples therapist in Mississauga Ontario.

Is Porn Bad For Relationships? Show Notes

In this episode we are going to look at when pornography is helpful and when pornography is harmful in relationships.

We will outline the negative symptoms related to your partner watching pornography. Understanding Porn Use, The Confidential Information No One Talks About.

In this podcast we discuss:

So, is  pornography bad?

Positive and negative impacts on relationships.

How pornography leads to betrayal.

Positive ways pornography can be used in relationships.

Negative emotions related to learning about your partner watching pornography.

Reasons your partner watches pornography.

Check out the free PDF guide:

Do You Have These Negative Symptoms Related To Your Partner Watching Pornography?

This podcast is for informational purposes only. Seek a couples therapist in your area for specific advice to help your unique problems.

Host: Amber Dalsin., M.Sc., Psychologist. She does Couples Therapy in Toronto. She does online individual relationship counseling and online couples therapy.

5 Ways to Build Love Maps

The crux of a solid relationship

In this episode we are discussing LOVE MAPS. What is a love map anyway?

It is knowing your partner’s inner world and having mental space for their experience and what is going on in their life.

We are going to get to know more about these love maps and why they are a foundational part of relationship success.

We look at three evidence-based strategies for building love maps and two strategies thought up by my couples.

We discuss interventions from the Gottman Method and the Book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work : A practical guide from the country's foremost relationship expert by John Gottman and Nan Silver. We specifically look at the chapter on Principle 1 Enhancing Love Maps and the exercises on pages 52-60.

Relationship Psych Episodes Discussed in This Episode Are:

In the previous episode, how to get him to finally listen to you we hear the stories of five women and their emotional reactions to not being heard.

Episode 26 emotional intimacy: a simple strategy that builds connection

episode 16 The communication mistake that is preventing you from being heard and how to fix it

This podcast is for informational purposes only. Seek a couples therapist in your area for specific advice to help your unique problems.

Host: Amber Dalsin., M.Sc., Psychologist. She does Couples Therapy in Toronto. She does online individual relationship counseling and online couples therapy.

The secret to finally getting him to listen to you

Do you feel like this when you're not heard?

Understand normal emotional reactions to an unresponsive partner.

In this episode, we go over the 5 experiences of 5 women when they do not feel heard.

We connect the emotions of grief, sadness, anger, shame, vulnerability, and rejection in response to him not listening or him being unresponsive.

We review 3 components of emotional intelligence and how to use the skills so he finally listens to you.

Remembering some people will never listen no matter what you do.

Episode referenced in this podcast- Relationship Psych- episode 25 communication skills for couples.

The guide How To Finally Get Him To Listen To You. www. Emberrelationshippsychology.com

This is for informational purposes only. Please see a couple's therapist in your areas for specific advice on your relationship.

Host: Amber Dalsin., M.Sc., Psychologist. She does Couples Therapy in Toronto. She does online individual relationship counseling and online couples therapy.