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Emotional intimacy a simple strategy that builds connection

End loneliness and disconnection in less than 10-20 minutes a day

In this episode we discuss:

What builds emotional intimacy

Questions to ask for emotional intimacy

The difference between creating emotional intimacy in the TV show Love is Blind vs. Raised By Wolves.

This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat prevent or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship problem. Talk to a couple's therapist in your area for help for your specific relationship issues.

Host:

Amber Dalsin., M.Sc., Psychologist. She does Couples Therapy in Toronto. She does online individual relationship counseling and online couples therapy.

COMMUNICATION Skills for couples.

Even the best couples have conflict- how to stop disconnection in its tracks.

In this podcast we discuss:

The enemy in the relationship: the conflict cycle.

Feeling heard and understood

How to do everyday communication

Levine & Heller’s book Attached, and the reasons for effective communication

Tips to help couples communicate:

Use empathy

Use body language

Stop interrupting

Ask good questions

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This relationship podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship problem. It should not be seen as relationship advice for your specific relationship. Seek out couples therapy or marriage counseling by a practitioner in your area for advice for your specific problem.

Host:

Amber Dalsin., M.Sc., Psychologist. She does Couples Therapy in Toronto. She does online individual relationship counseling and online couples therapy.

4 Ways to Create a Fight

If Aliens wanted to know how to have a conflict, this is how you would do it.

In this episode, we explore what aliens would see on their 3D TV screen if they were watching couples on early do conflict in a way that’s going to lead to problems.

What is talked about:

The Gottman’s Four Horsemen

Stonewalling

Criticism

Contempt

Defensiveness

Other episodes discussed in this podcast- Relationship Psych- Episode 5, 4 Doomed Communication Patterns

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This relationship podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent, or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship problem. It should not be seen as relationship advice for your specific relationship. Seek out couples therapy or marriage counseling by a practitioner in your area for advice for your specific problem.

Host:

Amber Dalsin., M.Sc., Psychologist. She does Couples Therapy in Toronto. She does virtual individual relationship counseling and virtual couples therapy.

3 Secrets to Emotional Intimacy

Tips to get the emotional connection you want.

Feeling got and understood by your partner really feels nice. This episode is all about how to feel close, connected and create more security with our partners.

In this episode we discuss:

Psychologist Jim Coan’s research on partner’s buffering pain

How to create emotional connection

Unhelpful behaviors in relationships

Stopping negative conflict

Ending problem cycles

Creating rituals of connection

Ideas for happy homecomings

Relationship Psych Episodes Discussed in this Podcast Episode:

Episode 22: maladaptive relationship behavior

Episode 20: your brain on love

Episode 7: how to create emotional intimacy with your partner

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This relationship podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship problem. It should not be seen as relationship advice for your specific relationship. Seek out couples therapy or marriage counseling by a practitioner in your area for advice for your specific problem.

Host:

Amber Dalsin., M.Sc., Psychologist. She is a Marriage and Family Therapist in Toronto. She does virtual individual relationship counseling and virtual couples therapy.

Maladaptive Relationship Behaviour.

2 Steps towards change.

In this episode, we discuss early childhood experiences and family influences and the impact on romantic relationships.

I've been struck over the last week, doing marriage therapy in Toronto about how our early experience shape our adult relationships.

In this episode we discuss:

Relationship influenced by our history

Emotional triggers in relationships

Perpetual problems

Gridlock perpetual problems

Book Seal Team Six by Howard E Wasdin and Stephen Templin Don Cole, Gottman Trainer, Center For Relationship Wellness and his comments about background history in relationships.

Teresa Wiseman and her 4 parts of Empathy

Episode 2 HELP, My Partner is Driving Me Crazy, on Relationship Psych- The Podcast

Free Guide How to Finally Get Him to Listen to You available at www.emberrelationshippsychology.com

This relationship podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship problem. It should not be seen as relationship advice for your specific relationship. Seek out couples therapy or marriage counseling by a practitioner in your area for advice for your specific problem.

Host:

Amber Dalsin., M.Sc., Psychologist. She is a Couples Therapist in Toronto. She does virtual individual relationship counseling and virtual couples therapy.

The SECRET to GREAT Sex in Long-Term Relationships

How to make your sex life better with your spouse.

It’s normal to want to have sex and it’s normal to not really want to have sex, so there is no road map for how to make sex great in a long term relationship, but there is a secret that can help.

The secret is communication.

In this episode, we explore Masters and Johnson’s research on sexual response and how to communicate about desire, arousal, and resolution.

We cover how to talk about initiating sex, and things to share with your partner that you like.

Episodes references in this episode are:

Episode 20- Your Brain on Love

Episode 11- 4 Point Road Map to Increase Sexual Satisfaction in your Relationship

This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent, or cure any medial, mental health, or relationship problem. It should not be seen as relationship advice for your specific relationship. Seek out couples therapy by a practitioner in your area for advice for your specific problem.

Your brain on love.

Sexual chemicals and how they lead to love in the brain.

Decline of the Hot and Heavy Stage of a Relationship- in this episode we are going to explore the impact the brain’s chemosignals in early attraction.

Chemosingals are the glue that bond early relationships. The primary reason for sexual chemosignals is to bond couples together long enough to start a relationship and possibly a family. While there are many, in this episode talk about two chemosignals that facilitate attraction and relationships.

1.  Pheromones

2. Oxytocin

Keeping connection alive, when chemosignals are quiet

Making the brain work in your favor in a long term relationship. Tips to keep your relationship alive.

This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any medical, mental health or relationship issue. If your relationship is struggling check out local couples therapy in your area for help, or a local health provider. Before making changes it’s a good idea to check with your local provider.

What to do when you’re mad at your significant other

3 steps to being angry and keeping your partner close (ish)

The 3 concepts are

1. Time out

2. Remember the flip flop

3. Focus on yourself

Partner will make us mad… its inevitable… but we can keep working to do anger like our partner is someone we love.

This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat prevent or cure any medical or relationship problem. Seek couples therapy in your area for help for your specific relationship.

How Loving Relationships Become Angry Relationships

And little itty bitty actions that make relationships better.

This episode looks at what happens when we fall in love, actions we take that make love work, how to stay in love, and how to prevent divorce.

In this episode we discuss:

Caring days

Relationship success

What makes relationships work

Why we fall in love

How we stay in love

How relationship problems are created

This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent, or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship issues. Check with a provider in your area for specific relationship advice to help your unique relationship.

Host:

Amber Dalsin., M.Sc., Psychologist. She is a Couples Therapist in Toronto. She does individual relationship counseling and couples therapy.

Why Partners Tune-out of Difficult Conversations

3 ways to keep them engaged

One of the most common problems my clients in couples therapy tell me about their frustrations when their partner emotionally checks out of a conversation, or physically leaves. I’ve seen some couples who can quickly remedy this problem fixing it in a few sessions, where other couples see me for years with the same problem.

If you want to be one of the couples, that the problem is quickly solved for, this is the episode for you.

Theses step are simple in concept, hard in practice. But if your goal is for your partner to stay, think about your role. Certainly, there are things they can do to work on their part and practice staying…. But hey, this episode is about ways you can keep your partner engaged.

The 3 ways we covered to keep your partner engaged are:

1. Commitment to keeping thigs emotionally safe

2. Ask for what you need

3. Explain your feelings in a softer way

This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any medical or relationship problem. Check with your health care provider or couples therapist before making changes.