Notes from the chat:

People pleasing tendencies

Saying no and listening to your body makes space for so much more.

Fear : saying yes to your authentic self

Survival phase of healing

Thriving phase of healing

Surthriving :

Myths - she doesn’t believe we have to be fully healed to fully live.

Sometimes we are both surviving and thriving.

Finding joy in pockets of moments. When you’re still in survival mode (making it moment to moment)

“Our goal is to free our self”

“On the other side of trauma there’s so much more than our past self can even envision”

“Repetition rewires the brain”

Consistency

Brain is mailable. We can train the brain by repeating behaviors.

Compassion is crucial. We can develop new path ways with compassion.

First step : “take step over the overgrown grass”

“Take steps in your meadow”

Each time you come back to it it’s less over grown and creates a pathway.

The psychology of seeing yourself wining = manifesting

Mindfulness: greater awareness

Finding time for mindfulness: (5 minutes a day)

More efficient than 1 hour weekly

Make your daily task mindful (washing dishes, brushing teeth, sweeping floor)

Mindful listening: how we show up in relationship. Taking time to listen. (Practice) (pause is listening)

Mindful living:

“You’re not alone” - eases the pain

I am proud of you

You’re safe with me

I’m here with you

I am listening to you

Your feelings are valid

You’re not alone

You matter to me

How can I best support you?

You’re a pain doesn’t define you