Is Your Story Holding You Back? ( How To Take Your Power Back)

Sylvester talks about the steps needed to take your power back if you feel like your story may be holding you back.

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How to Deal with Fear and Anxiety in Relationships (The Walking on Eggshells Feeling )

Navigating fear and anxiety in relationships—often described as the "walking on eggshells" feeling—can be emotionally exhausting. This sensation arises when you’re constantly on edge, trying to manage someone else’s reactions while suppressing your own feelings and needs. But the truth is, you have choices. You don’t have to stay trapped in this cycle.

The first step is to understand where this fear and anxiety stem from. Are you afraid of conflict? Rejection? Or is it tied to a deeper sense of unworthiness or unresolved wounds from the past? Once you’ve identified the root cause, you can begin to decide how you want to move forward.

Here are your choices:

1. Accept them as they are. Sometimes, the person you're dealing with may not change, and it’s up to you to decide if you can find peace in accepting them for who they are without losing yourself in the process.

2. Get out of the middle ground and lean into a hard conversation. This means addressing the tension directly and honestly, even if it feels uncomfortable. Speak your truth, set boundaries, and clarify your needs. Hard conversations are often the gateway to deeper connection or necessary clarity.

3. Invite them to a new level of relationship. If the relationship has potential but is stuck in a dysfunctional pattern, you can propose a new way of engaging—a level of honesty, vulnerability, and mutual respect that elevates the connection. This requires both parties to be willing to grow.

4. Continue people-pleasing.* This choice keeps the peace temporarily, but it often comes at the cost of your own emotional health. Over time, it can lead to resentment, burnout, and a deeper disconnect from yourself and the relationship.

The key is to recognize that fear and anxiety are signals—not permanent states. They are asking you to take action, make a choice, and step into your power. Whether you choose acceptance, honest communication, or inviting change, remember that the ultimate goal is to honor yourself and create relationships where you feel safe, respected, and seen. Want to go deeper with me? Here are the two options.

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Episode Title: The Big Board Exercise: Getting Focused on the Life You Want

In this episode, I dive into the powerful Big Board Exercise that I recently led in my community. This exercise is all about getting laser-focused on what you want, living in alignment with your goals, and refusing to make excuses for the life you deserve. Whether you’re looking to manifest a thriving career, deeper relationships, or personal peace, this episode is a step-by-step guide to clarity and action.

Getting clear on your desires isn’t just a mental exercise—it’s a transformative process that activates the law of attraction. When you focus your energy on what you truly want, you start to notice how opportunities, resources, and connections align to support your vision. It’s not magic; it’s clarity and commitment in motion.

Tune in to hear how the Big Board Exercise can:

- Help you define your priorities with precision.

- Create alignment between your actions and your goals.

- Shift your mindset from scarcity to abundance.

- Unlock the power of the law of attraction to bring your dreams to life.

This episode will leave you inspired, focused, and ready to tackle the year with purpose. No more excuses—it’s time to own your vision and make it a reality.

Key Takeaways:

1. Clarity Is Power – Knowing exactly what you want gives you a roadmap to success and minimizes distractions.

2. Alignment Is Everything – Align your actions, habits, and choices with the goals you’ve set to create unstoppable momentum.

3. Manifestation in Action – The law of attraction works when you’re clear, consistent, and committed to your vision.

4. No More Excuses – The life you want starts with owning your goals and taking responsibility for your journey.

Homework for Listeners:

- Take 20 minutes to create your own Big Board. Write down the top 5 things you want to achieve this year and what living in alignment with those goals looks like.

- Reflect on where you’ve been making excuses and how you can pivot toward action.

Resources Mentioned:

- [Join the Mastery Circle](https://sylvestermcnutt.net/mastery-circle) to access the Big Board Exercise and connect with a community dedicated to personal growth.

- Check out my course, The Art of Living Intentionally for more tools to align your life with your highest aspirations.

Connect With Me:

- Website: SylvesterMcNutt.net](https://sylvestermcnutt.net

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Let’s step into the year with clarity and purpose. Remember, the life you want is waiting for you to claim it!

In this heartfelt episode, we explore the transformative power of being present in the healing process. Through a prayerful reflection, we honor pain, embrace self-compassion, and invite divine light to guide us toward wholeness. Tune in to find peace, strength, and encouragement for your healing journey.

Keep Dreamin'

I'm the type of person who has always gone for my dreams, and I'm okay with losing, failing, and figuring it out. This episode talks about following your dreams, having excitement for your journey, and being thankful for your trip.

How To Manifest Abundance | Practical Steps Based On Neuroscience and Your Actions

This is a chat from my group coaching community, Mastery Circle. We meet every two weeks to talk about life and everything related to how we can step into being a master of our own life. We just finished covering leadership, and now we are talking about all things abundance.

Abundance is your birthright. You deserve it right now, no matter what you think about your story. We were put here to feel, to observe, to share, to create, and the more abundant we allow ourselves to feel, the better. It's actually disrespectful to the people who came before you to downplay your life. I'm serious. It's a slap in the face to the people who have died for you to live. Never take this life for granted. Never sit in your sorrow and think that's it. We talked about this at the top of the call. Yes, some emotions are shadows, are darker, and can make us feel like the idea of "abundance" is not for us. I want to validate what you feel first and foremost because we all will. That's called being a healthy human being, and true healing means taking the time to integrate the sorrow, the sadness, and whatever form of anger or grief we may feel. And, since healing means wholeness, that means that we must look at the big picture. That also means you deserve to feel good, to love the life that you have, and to attract abundance in all things. This is not about greed, taking more, or crushing anyone else. Nope, abundance is the idea and energy that you do not move from fear or insecurity to the mindset of lack. Take full ownership of your life and part of that ownership is accepting that you deserve to feel good, work towards meaningful things, and have healthy people in your life.

To learn more about Sylvester's private group coaching community, Mastery Circle, just click here: https://sylvester-mcnutt-iii.mykajabi.com/mastery-circle

This episode is also streaming on the Free Your Energy Podcast, which can be found both on Spotify and Apple podcasts. Sylvestermcnutt.net/podcast is a link where you can find both links. Below, you'll see the three major sections of today's chat and the time stamps for when each topic starts so you can jump around if you need to or when you come back to this video in the future. If you would like to hire me to be your coach, apply at sylvestermcnutt.net/applyforcoaching

- 1:29 - Creating From A Place Of Abundance

- 9:10 - Giving Yourself Time Off

- 18:12 A Personal Update On Life

When creating from scarcity, you create more scarce environments, lack, and anxiety. You are creating from a place of "I'm not worthy."

Believe that there is enough for you. Enough money. Enough opportunity. Enough genuine energy. Enough healthy food. Believe that there is a simple life of luxury available to you.

When you feel overwhelmed, if you choose to live in an abundance mindset, you easily permit yourself to take things off your plate so you can focus.

In life, there are moments when certain things need to be sacrificed for other aspects of your life to thrive.

My mindset is that I have to attract quality. I have to go at a pace that is organic for me. I create from the place that works for me because I care about my heart, soul, and everything I do to feel authentic.

Are you creating your life from abundance or scarcity? Look at the energy of the two and ask yourself how you are showing up.

Make a declaration that you will no longer live in a scarcity mindset. The second you choose to live in abundance, the universe around you and everyone around you will notice the difference.

If you consciously choose to free your energy and to be a deliberate creator of your life, what will happen is some people will adjust. Some people will support you, help you on the same page, and support you on the journey. Some people are so deep into their wounds that they can't understand your changes. Neither is your business. Your business is to draw boundaries with people who try to disrupt your energy. Your business opens your heart and space to people who want you to live in a place of abundance.

9:10 - Giving Yourself Time Off

Let go of the idea of FOMO. You are not missing out. The concept of "missing out" is taking you away from your life and from appreciating where you are in your journey.

When it comes to giving yourself time off, you must understand that being refreshed is always great. Burnout is a real experience, and it gets created and justified by the idea of scarcity. This is why I preach that we must have an abundance mindset.

The child version of you may have a scarcity mindset regarding money, dating, or relationships. The child has to move to the back seat, and you have to give the wheel to the adult version of you. The healthy, integrated adult version of you fully believes in abundance. The adult version of you can attract and accept abundance in all aspects of life.

What you believe will be true.

What you believe will be true.

If you believe there is not enough, then that will be true.

That will be true if you believe there is enough for you.

18:12 A Personal Update On Life

My mom came to visit. It was a moment that touched my soul as it was my mom's first time coming to Arizona. I feel so full and grateful that she could come out here. If you are at all struggling with the relationship with your parents, understand that they won't always be here. People die. Do you want to continue to hold grudges? Do you want to continue having them to standards they can't reach?

Get to know them for who they are. No person is perfect. We are all on this journey, learning and figuring things out. Your parents have made mistakes, and there is no doubt about it, but how long will we hold grudges against them? And what I am most concerned with is the consequence of holding these grudges.

It feels so good to be back with you. My introverted phase is over, ha, and that means I am back to the Free Your Energy Podcast. In this episode, we talk about Going DEEPER in 2024: Living In Alignment, Accountability, and Who I Am Looking For!

It feels soooooo good to be back to one of my favorite spaces knowing that I have the energetic capacity to be here.

In this track, I talk about step one and lesson one from my new course on people pleasing. You can register for the course here,

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Today's podcast is a short summary of my group coaching community conversation this weekend.

In our recent live session, we delved into some powerful concepts and strategies to help you achieve mastery in your life and business. Here's a concise summary of the key takeaways:

Pareto's Law (80/20 Rule):

- Understand that 20% of your efforts often lead to 80% of your results.

- Identify the most impactful 20% of tasks or activities and focus on them.

- Regularly assess your tasks to ensure you're prioritizing the vital few over the trivial many.

Clarity on Your "Why":

- Define your purpose, values, and long-term goals.

- Understand what truly motivates you and drives your actions.

- Revisit your "why" regularly to stay aligned with your aspirations.

Identifying Energy Drains and Distractions:

- Conduct a thorough audit of your daily activities.

- Pinpoint tasks or habits that consume your time and energy without significant benefits.

- Develop strategies to eliminate or delegate these distractions.

Applying these principles and insights allows you to gain clarity, boost productivity, and focus on what truly matters, ultimately accelerating your journey toward mastery. Keep the momentum going, and stay committed to your growth!

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