In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) My girlfriend and I went through a period of not having sex—we were so busy it got forgotten about. We made a point of having sex every Friday night—and now it’s stuck. We now ONLY have sex on Friday nights. She really likes this arrangement, but I hate having sex on a schedule. How can I make her more spontaneous?

2) I am way more adventurous than my wife of many years and sex has become difficult for her lately (mostly due to painful sex). She knows my needs aren’t being met and told me she’d be OK if I had ‘mindless sex’ with someone else, provided there was no emotional attachment. She said there would be ground rules—it can’t be with anyone we know, she doesn’t want to hear or know about it, and I must practice safe sex. So, what should I do? Accept what is a genuine and, I believe, truly loving offer, or turn it down? At my age (I’m in my 60s) I feel it’s now or never. That sexually adventurous side of me has never been explored before, which I think is a bit sad. Any thoughts would be appreciated greatly.

3) I’m a 37-year-old straight man and I’ve always loved sex, but find I’m losing my appetite. During lockdown, my wife and I worked from home. I still work from home—and it’s killed my sex drive. I’m bored and I masturbate too much to porn to relieve the boredom. I know that’s part of the problem, but I’ve lost all motivation to shake myself out of this. I can’t be the only person feeling like this.

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