“We’re 100% Divine and 100% human. It’s in that shared common connection between the two of those that real magic happens.” Drew Horning

Hoffman teacher, coach, and podcast host, Drew Horning, sits in the guest chair today to share about his time in the Process and so much more.

Drew originally came to the Process in 2013 for support with marital relationship issues, having heard about Hoffman from someone in his men’s group. Looking back, Drew says Hoffman was one of the most profound experiences of his life. Just a year later, in 2014, he began his training to become a Hoffman teacher.

Drew shares two vulnerable moments from his week. He shares about the profound student-teacher relationship he experienced with his teacher, Raz. More like a mentor or coach than a teacher, Drew knew Raz had his back all the way through the Process.

The deeper story here, though, is how the Process opens the way for us to experience the full range of being human. Drew sees the Process as an exploration into what it means to be human, both the light and the dark within us. In one experiential exercise, Drew says he “touched this part, this base part of being human,” and it “caused him to recoil.” In the very next moment, he and his group were led directly into a compassion exercise. And what transpired was the transformation so key to the Hoffman Process. Moments after he touched into this darkness, he found himself held in love. Love is always embracing us, even in our darkest moments as human beings.

Here we witness Drew’s vulnerability and wisdom as a human being and a Hoffman teacher. He holds the human heart with gentleness, dignity, and respect. We hope you enjoy this conversation.

A former licensed private practice psychotherapist, Drew has a Master’s degree in clinical work from the University of Michigan. He is trained in EMDR, Mediation and Dispute Resolution, Gottman Couples Counseling, and Brené Brown’s Daring Way. He hosts his own podcast on relationships. Drew has also coached high school basketball.

Drew published his book, Grappling: White Men’s Journey from Fragile to Agile, in May 2021. He is currently a manager of the faculty as a core faculty member of the Hoffman Institute.

Drew is on the board of his extended family’s real estate business. He is committed to his own family, his two adult children, and his wife of nearly 25 years.

Drew is committed to his own personal growth work and supporting others on their own journey towards wellness. Healing requires incredible courage and a commitment to kindness. The alchemy of these is what Hoffman and Drew are all about!

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Raz Ingrasci, Founder of the Hoffman Institute and Hoffman teacher, was Drew’s teacher.

The Body Keeps the Score, by Bessel van der Kolk MD

White Sulphur Springs

Dr. Dan Siegel, “feeling felt”

Listen to Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor on the Hoffman Podcast: Your Brain From the Inside Out

“Ed” McClune, retired Hoffman teacher and coach:

“I close my eyes so that I may see.” Paul Gauguin, French painter, sculptor, printmaker, ceramist, and writer…

“This will grow inside you.” Liza Ingrasci, CEO of the Hoffman Institute Foundation. She has been with the Hoffman Institute since 1990.

Drew speaks of “the surprising power of Self-compassion,” also called Inner-Compassion by Dan Siegel.

Carl Jung and the power of Paradox

Original Sin

Vindictiveness – “…part of what it means to be human.”

The Cycle of Transformation:

“You can act yourself into a new way of thinking, but you cannot think yourself into a new way of acting.” Quote from the Hoffman Process

Left Road, Right Road

Process Integration Weekend:

The Ceremony of Integration:

Hoffman Pre-calls:

What is Transference?

The Quadrinity:

Hoffman Feelings and Body Sensations List (PDF)

Essence

Be-Do-Have vs. Do-Have-Be:

“I am love, loving, and lovable.” The Hoffman Process