We've been told nice guys finish last, but we're debunking this myth as we chat with return guest Vince Xu about how being the nice guy actually is what got him the girl. We discuss how we need to reframe "the nice guy" and "fboy" tropes, ways that good guys can make their intentions known in a way that builds chemistry, and how as women dating men we can look at the overall character of the person we're dating.

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