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Establishing boundaries as a couple can sometimes be a point of tension. It can feel like a battle between wanting to feel security, but also not feeling controlled by the other. The thing is, boundaries are critical to agree upon, so you both feel respected, loved, and also fulfilled.

Most couples discuss boundaries as: expressing commands, arguing repeatedly, a resistance to feeling controlled. Yet, they can be discussed in a loving, respectful way that feels like a win-win agreement for you both to create a more connected and collaborative relationship.

In this episode you will hear some areas in which boundaries are important to establish, plus gain the steps to discuss boundaries in a way that is freeing, not controlling.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Make sure you're registered for the Communication Mastery WebClass on July 20th. Almost 300 of ya'll are registered already and we can't wait!

After July 20th: Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

We wanted to give you an update on our pregnancy journey and how we're preparing for parenthood...intentionally. For us, it's important to prepare together for a natural birth AND to get our marriage prepared for parenthood.

Because we talk to couples all day every day (with many being parents), we get to see the behind the scenes challenges that come up with marriage and parenthood. So we've been taking those insights into our conversations and we wanted to share what's been coming up for us in case it inspires you!

Also, make sure you're registered for the Communication Mastery WebClass on July 20th. Almost 300 of ya'll are registered already and we can't wait!

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

It can feel frustrating or unsettling when you and your partner disagree on a big decision. For some couples, this can lead to making no decision and staying in a standstill for a while, which is also not ideal for you.

For others, it can lead to tense conversations, full blown arguments, and feeling like you're limited by the other person. But it doesn't have to go that way…

Whether it's parenting styles, financial decisions, where to move, when to have kids, which job offer to take, etc….you CAN make decisions in a way that feels better and leads to an even better outcome than you imagined.

In today's episode, you'll hear 6 Key Elements to Making a Big Decision Together. Dive in and you might want to take notes :)

Resources For Your Relationship:

Also, make sure you're registered for the ONE-TIME FREE WEBCLASS on July 20th (next week). It's called: Communication Mastery--4 Skills You Must Learn to Understand Each Other's Needs, Create Win-Win Solutions, and Deepen Your Emotional Intimacy. Save your seat here.

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The Arizona in-person events, Couples Workshop, is coming back on August 22nd, 2021. If you are interested, just link the link for details.

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

It's a great personal trait to be considerate of your partner (especially of their needs from the last episode). However there is a danger of being overly considerate or overly pleasing in your relationship.

You might not have ever considered this or realized that it was happening to you, but the effect can be very disruptive. It can make you feel unhappy, unfulfilled, and even disengaged from your partner.

In this solo episode with Aaron, you will be able to recognize this pattern so you can show up even better for yourself and consequently as an even better partner!

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Register for the FREE Communication Mastery Webclass on July 20th, 2021 right here.
2. After that date passes, order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Of course you know that you and your partner are not exactly the same. Yet, how often do you expect them to fulfill all of your needs? Or even how often you assume that they should just know or desire to meet your needs?

When you get to a place where you have conflicting needs, this can feel as if you have to sacrifice or be discouraged that your needs won't be met. When we asked on IG what some of the common conflicting needs for you were, we heard back:

• Togetherness vs separateness
• Physical touch vs quality time
• Time to talk and connect at the end of the day vs quiet time to decompress after working a long day.
• Working vs leading the kids and home

But there are ways, in this case you will hear 5 principles, so that you can work through your conflicting needs together and be sure that you do not have to sacrifice or give up on having your most important needs met in your relationship.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Register for the FREE Communication Mastery Webclass on July 20th, 2021 right here.
2. After that date passes, order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

In this episode you will hear:

• The subtle difference between justifying and explaining
• The major difference between Intent vs Impact
• 4 steps to explain yourself in a way that your partner can receive it

Resources For Your Relationship:

1) Take the Relationship Assessment and do the results call with us. There are 2 spots discounted from the $1000 course to just $147. To snag one of those spots either:

• Text: 602-321-5652
• Email: [email protected]

2) Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Defensiveness is a learned behavior to compensate for something going on beneath the surface.

A few common sources of defensiveness in relationship:

• A lack of feeling emotionally safe because they often feel invalidated
• Taking something personally (and making it mean something different than what was said)
• Fear of being judged, not loved, abandoned, or punished
• An attachment to a certain perspective about themselves or the situation

Here's the thing...if you and your partner perpetually react with defensiveness, you will leave conversations unresolved, build up more and more tension, and/or get to the point where you feel like you're walking on eggshells.

So today's podcast episode goes deeper into understanding why defensiveness shows up in your relationship PLUS how to break this pattern, so you communicate openly and constructively.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Book a private Couples Session with us. The first one is discounted so you can get a sense that our style WORKS! Read testimonials, details, and schedule one here.
2. Read our newest book, The Argument Hangover. Get $200 of bonus resources, including a course and workbook. HERE

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

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Do you and your partner feel perfectly aligned and on the same page? Do you ever feel caught off guard by a comment your partner makes about being dissatisfied somewhere in your relationship? If so, it's time for a Family Meeting Check-in! We define a"Family Meeting" as: a designated time to have an intentional, judgment-free conversation together as you discuss your relationship + life. You each get to share your satisfaction in the 9 core areas of your relationship/life, and openly listen to each other. A few critical benefits of these "Family Meetings":

• it eliminates that frustrating moments where you blindside each other throughout the week to discuss things when it's not the best time
• you can address challenges or areas of lower satisfaction before it BUILDS up into resentment
• you ensure you're on the same page as a couple and feel like a team
• it creates emotional safety and intimacy

But here's what a weekly Family Meeting is NOT: a time to defend yourselves, point fingers, complain, or start a fight.

In this episode you will hear us go through our own family meeting, so that you have the tools to communicate with each other to be even more on the same page.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1) To get your Family Meeting Worksheet either:

DM us on IG @Meet_TheFreemans or

Email: [email protected]

2) Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

No matter the stage of relationship you are in, it can seem like you and your partner have different sex drives. Often we think this means frequency, but in this episode we interview Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist, and her husband Xander who collaborates with her on content, to discover just what sex drive and compatability means.

In this episode you will realize the different forms and types of intimacy, how to raise your satisfaction in your sex life, and most imprtantly how to bring up this conversation with your partner. No matter where your satisfaction is now or how compatibility you feel, you will be able to take the steps to having a more open and pleasurable sex life and drive together.

Questions Asked in this Interview:

1. It would be easy to assume that "sex drive" is just the level of desire and freqency for sex. But what does it really mean?
2. Do you see that most couple of the same or different sex drives?
3. Is it biologically true that your sex drive diminishes with age (for women)? Or what are things that get in the way of sexual satisfaction?
4. Do you think people should say "YES" to their partner's attempt to have sex (if they don't feel like it)?
5. What should a partner say if they aren't enjoying (or are just bored with) certain things in the bedroom without hurting their partner?
6. What are two new questions a couple can ask each other to take the next steps to a more understanding and satisfying sex life?

Connect More With the Vanessa:

Instagram: @Vanessamarintherapy

Learn more about her courses and sex drive guides: vmtherapy.com

Resources For Your Relationship:

The last opportunity for the 5 spots to take the Relationship Assessment and do the call with us. This assessment (paired with the call with us) is literally the most impactful thing you can do for your relationship and it's discounted from $1000 to just $147. To snag one of those 5 spots, either text or email us:

Text: 602-321-5652

Email: [email protected]

What's the main difference between being just "roommates" with someone vs romantic partners? The answer: the depth of emotional intimacy.

Of course you've heard us say that a relationship requires all the functional things (the to-do list, things around the house, errands, etc)...but that can easily consume your attention and diminish your emotional intimacy.

In fact, we received a private message yesterday saying, "how do I create more emotional intimacy with my wife?" Which shows that many people don't know what actually builds emotional intimacy. So we're answering that question in today's podcast episode.

Tune in to hear 4 Keys to Unlock Emotional Intimacy...that can be implemented no matter how busy you two are in life (or the current level of relationship you are at)!

Resources For Your Relationship:

The 5 discounted spots to take the Relationship Assessment and do the call with us went SO fast last episode, that we decided to offer 5 more. Why? Because this assessment (paired with the call with us) is literally the most impactful thing you can do for your relationship and it's discounted from $1000 to just $147. To snag one of those 5 spots, either text or email us:

Text: 602-321-5652

Email: [email protected]

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.