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Welcome to this new game show type episode called "HE Said/SHE Said"! In this type of episode, on the Empowered Couples podcast, you will laugh, be entertained, and relate to this couple as they find out how they see things differently in their marriage even when they love each other, live together, and have been together for years.

No matter how well you think you know your partner, you can see things differently AND often don't even realize! (remember the newlywed game, yup it's going to be like that!)

In This Episode:

You will meet Gretchen and Mike from Minnesota, who have been married for 13 years. They have decided to explore the area of communication within their relationship, as it's an area that they experience having bigger differences. They are willing to individually be asked the same questions around communication to then be surprised by how each answered these questions whether it be the same or surprisingly different. Welcome to the show "He Said/She Said"!

**Disclaimer: we by no means intend to exclude any type of relationship with the title, He Said/She Said. We just thought it was a fun, catchy name. Please include yourself no matter what type of a relationship you choose. Much love, The Freemans**

Game Show Questions Asked:

Each individually answer:

1. Who would you say is a better communicator?
2. Who do you think your partner would say is a better communicator?
3. What about communication feels challenging?
4. Is communication more about talking or listening?
5. Does either one of you dominate conversations?
6. Who initiates having difficult conversations more often?
7. Who is better at reconciling & repairing from a conflict?
8. Where or from whom do you feel you learned relationship communication skills?

Quotes:

"If it's something I realize will help him, and not actually hurt me, I'm becoming more open to any of his requests" - Gretchen.

"We got into a fight, and looking back all I needed to do was say that this wasn't a good time right now and ask for a different time later on when I could really receive what she was saying." - Mike

Other Resources:

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**This will be one of the most important podcast episodes you ever listen to as a couple**

This year can either be an average year or an extraordinary year, depending on how aligned and focused you are as a couple!

You may find the holiday season stressful, routine, an obligation, or maybe exciting and new.

But we encourage you to set aside some time together to implement the 3 types of goals we're suggesting in this episode to get aligned for the year.

Here is a way to look at goals differently AND have them be things that actually inspire you as a couple!

In this episode you will:

Know- 3 'new' types of goals to set as a couple to get an "R.O.I"

Have- prompting questions to get you two talking and getting on the same page.

Feel- focused and inspired so it can be the best year and decade of your lives!

Other Resources:

1. Register for the ONLINE COUPLES WORKSHOP!
2. FREE hard copy of the book The New Power Couple (just pay for shipping). Then join the "POWER COUPLE Book Club"
3. Follow us on Instagram

In this special episode, you will get to hear us being interviewed on the "Confident Couples Podcast" hosted by Bud and Sara Dunn. This was such a fun, humorous, and much needed topic about the impact that technology and social media has on modern day relationships (who doesn't experience this right?!) Both sides of the positive impact and some of the areas that there may be 'negative' impacts on your connection, both of which you will even be surprised by!

In this episode you will know some of the positive and negative impacts of social media (that you wouldn't normally think about) on modern relationships. You will then be able to make new agreements, set healthy boundaries, release the hold onto some assumptions you may have about your partner, and maintain (even restore) trust and connection within the relationship. With all this said, you will be able to use social media and technology within your relationship to continuously be even more connected and on the same page with your vision!

Questions asked in this interview

1. What are the things you see that are impacting and challenging modern couples with social media and technology?
2. You say a big takeaway for couples is to make agreements around using technology, what are some examples?
3. How can couples use social media and technology productively within their relationship?
4. What advice is there for one partner when they do not agree with the type of content their partner looks at and consumes?
5. How can a couple recover from a "trust breaking event" as it pertains to social media and what they look at?
6. Is it necessary to make these grand public professions of love for our partners for every single life event? If I don't, does that mean I'm not being the best partner I can be?

Quotes:

"Most couples are just holding on to assumptions about their partners, when what they really need is agreements. This makes all the difference in your trust and connection". - Jocelyn

Connect More With The Guests:

Connect with "Confident Couples" and Bud & Sarah more at: 1)Website: https://budandsara.com/

2) Instagram: @BudandSara

Other Resources:

1) Get a FREE hard copy of the book The New Power Couple (just pay for shipping). Then join the "POWER COUPLE Book Club"

2) Follow us on Instagram

If you're alive in 2019/2020, then you're likely 'busy.' We know you're alive because you're reading this ;-) But just because the two of you are busy with kids, career, to-do lists, etc...doesn't mean you can't also keep the SPARK alive in your relationship year after year.

A part of having a truly happy, thriving, connected relationship is being able to keep the spark of passion, excitement, and newness alive.

In this episode you will:

KNOW: that no matter how busy you are, you can prioritize having a passionate relationship

HAVE: 3 practical ways to ignite that spark in your busy life

FEEL: surprised, ready and eager to see your partner and take action!

Quotes:

"Don't wait until you feel like it to make an attempt for intimacy, take action, and then you will feel it!" - Jocelyn

Other Resources:

Get a FREE hard copy of the book The New Power Couple (just pay for shipping). Then you can join the "POWER COUPLE Book Club"!

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Hello friends, get ready to meet Nicholas and Amanda Bayerle! They are the CEO and COO respectively of the 7- figure lifestyle brand for businessmen, Billion Dollar Body and the community the Billion Dollar Brotherhood. Where men can achieve their highest potential in both their business and their health.

Both have been featured in media like Forbes, Oxygen, Huffington Post, and featured in top podcasts. Nicholas is also the host of their own Billion Dollar Body podcast which has over 300,000 downloads, as well as an international speaker and author of the new book Modern Day Businessman: Success Without Sacrifice.

They are passionate not only about people having healthy bodies, but healthy relationships and truly achieving their dreams in life. And welcoming their first child in January 2020. They believe anyone's network is what determines their net-worth!

In this episode you will learn:

There is no need to sacrifice your own personal goals within your relationship. And it's even by focusing on striving to be the best person you can be, that will be your invitation to your partner to strive to be the best they can be.

You will hear 2 activities and conversations that you can have with your partner today, so that you can feel the most collaborative and supportive of each other (and your relationship goals) that you have ever been. This will put you on the path of achieving the most you ever have together.

Questions asked in this interview

1. How do you balance both holding your partner accountable to their goals (both individually and business), but also being their caring spouses and confidant?
2. Is there a certain way you have to approach conversations to not trigger the other, when you want to invite them up (in either their performance or mindset)?
3. Do you hear from men in your group that they don't really know how to gain their spouses support? What's your advice for how to communicate their goal to their spouse?
4. Do you think men today are at all intimidated by a powerful female partner?
5. What do you wish you knew about healthy relationships growing up?

Quotes:

"Always focus on what is good about them, you do not need to try to change them, you wouldn't even want an exact version of yourself" -Amanda

"It may sound like a scary question to ask, but ask how you can be a better partner. The answer will surprise you (in a good way)" -Nicholas

Other resources:

1. Follow us on Instagram
2. Book your Relationship Breakthrough Session here that was mentioned in the episode

PS. Because of demand there is a $97 placeholder to book your breakthrough session.

Connect More With The Guests:

Get a copy of the book Modern Day Businessman: Success Without Sacrifice.

Welcome to another 'Mini Chat with The Freemans'. This time we are talking about this subject of personal development, but as a couple. How do you get your partner on board with first growing as an individual AND THEN doing it together as a couple? Of course without them getting defensive, feeling something is wrong, or thinking you need counseling.

That is exactly what we'll cover, and by tuning into this episode you will learn that progress = happiness, and growing (getting better at anything) is the most fundamental and natural thing in life. You will have 3 steps to actually bringing up this kind of conversation with your partner, in a way that has them feel open and curious about how you can both make positive progress in any area of your life together. Which will have you feeling at ease and a contribution to both your partner and the direction of your relationship. This is the path of happiness and fulfillment throughout your life!

Summary of The Steps To Have The Conversation:

1. Work on your delivery
2. Lead by example
3. Get curious about them

Other resources:

Get a FREE hard copy of the book The New Power Couple (just pay for shipping)

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For all the parents out there! Have you ever thought it was too difficult to balance being a great parent and a great partner to your spouse? Do you feel this is a season that you have to sacrifice some areas of your own life or relationship to 'make it all work'?

If so this is THE episode for you as you introduce you to Figs and Teale O'Sullivan are a powerful couple, both of whom are marriage and family EFT certified therapists from SF, CA. They are the founders of Empathi, a company that provides affordable and convenient relationship support for both individuals and couples. Empathi offers online courses as well as live support from a whole team of licensed and certified therapists; through fun, effective, and simple solutions to help couples stop fighting, stop suffering, and snuggle more. Figs designed Empathi to be available for everyone, no matter their socio-economic status, orientation or station in life. So all couples can "Love better with Empathi"!

In this episode you will:

know that even as you enter into more demanding seasons of life as a parent, that you can truly be a strong individual and strong spouse. You will have ways to create intentional time for you and your spouse, no matter how little time you really have and tools to have arguments in a way that actually benefits your own kids. So that you can feel connection, compassion, and empathy in your relationship no matter how busy (or dirty with kids) your life feels.

Questions asked in this interview

1. What is the biggest challenge for couples to maintain connection and a strong relationship with each other when they are raising kids?
2. 1. Is any parenting season more difficult than others?
3. Have you found that most couples experience being limited in their time and focus toward each other, or to things they want to experience, when they are parents?
4. Since family dynamics have evolved and many more women are working or starting businesses AND wanting to be a mother, are you noticing any new levels of 'overwhelm'? And what can do about that
5. What are some ways couples can still connect when they have young children?
6. Should a couple argue in front of their kids or shelter them from disagreements?
7. Traditional parenting roles were seen in a hierarchy (patriarchy) model. In modern parenting, is there a better model to follow that empowers the entire family to contribute?
8. Why is it important to have empathy and what is it in practice anyway?
9. What is Emotionally Focused Therapy and how can parents best use it to lead and connect with both their spouse and children?

Connect More With The Guests:

As mentioned in the episode, you can take your own Relationship Empathi Quiz Here

Other resources:

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Book a Relationship Breakthrough Session with us

PS. Because of demand the call is a $97 placeholder to book your breakthrough session.

We received a message last week on instagram that powerfully portrayed how many of you might feel about expressing your needs to your spouse. The question said, 'how do I tell my partner I really want (and need) for us to proactively work on our communication and that I want to start working on us more? I don't want to upset her.'

Now the content of what you want to say or ask of your partner might be different, the context is likely similar: you want to share something important to your partner without rocking the boat. So this episode will dive into ways that we bring up these subjects with each other:

In this episode you will:

Know the 3 easy to make mistakes you might be making when trying to communicate your needs to your partner now.

Have 3 game changing ways to better communicate your needs so that keep you both on the 'same team'.

So that you feel empowered to make requests to each other that have you be the best partners you can be!

Quotes:

"The goal of a relationship is to grow, and to grow you need to have tension (just like lifting weights)" - Jocelyn

Other Resources:

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Book a Relationship Breakthrough Call with us

P.S. The Family Meeting Worksheet mentioned in the episode can be given to you on the coaching call, scheduled with the link above. Because of demand, the call is now a $97 placeholder to book your breakthrough session.

Let's all be honest about something, we are all friends here… How many have you heard other people say (or even heard yourself saying), "it would be better if we argued less" or even "things are going so well lately as we have not argued at all"?

However is this really the goal, should relationships be about NOT getting into disagreement, arguments or conflicts? Well NOT to this couple.

In this episode we interview life and business partners CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke, co-founders of Thrive Inc. They've spent 20 years helping men, women, couples, and teams to resolve difficult conflicts and create strong, thriving relationships. They've written two books: The Beauty of Conflict and The Beauty of Conflict for Couples. They do workshops on conflict resolution, communication, and teamwork at Fortune 100 companies like Microsoft and the Gates Foundation.

In this episode you will learn that avoiding conflict or not having conflict at all is NOT the goal as conflict can be beautiful, have you be more connected, and be your true self! You will have their powerful 5-5-5 rules for conflicts as well as the most effective ways to have your conflicts better your relationship before, during, and after. All leaving you feeling confident and at ease about any conflict that arises in your relationship, because you will have the tools to use it to your advantage.

Questions asked in this interview

1. In your book, The Beauty of Conflict for Couples, you argue that the key to a lasting relationship isn't romance - it's conflict. Tell us more about that.
2. How do you define conflict, what is it really?
3. What would you say to a couples that says "we never argue or fight?"
4. What are the unhealthy ways to be in a conflict?
5. In your book, The Beauty of Conflict for Couples, you mention that many of the women you've worked with have worried that they've married the wrong person. What has them say that and how do you respond?
6. What do you do to forgive yourself in the heat of a conflict?

Quotes:

"Conflict isn't something to fear or avoid. When handled the right way, conflict can unlock fresh ideas, build team trust, and create great results."

"The more you are you, the juicer the relationship will be"

Connect More With The Guests:

Thrive Coaching & Consulting

Free chapter of their book: The Beauty of Conflict for Couples

Empowered Couples resources:

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Tour the Empowered Couples University:

Brief description:

Chemistry is what brings you together, your habits are what keep you together (or not).

Can we be real for a second? Every week we meet couples who are wondering why they're not experiencing connection, passion, joy in their relationship. They love each other a lot, but something isn't quite working like they want it to.

Well in this episode, we're going to demystify why that happens by going into the HABITS you must maintain in your relationship to become & stay a power couple.

In this episode you will:

KNOW: Why your habits are so impactful in either positive or negative ways for your relationship

HAVE: 8 Powerful Habits for Power Couples covering--->

1. Mindset/Emotions
2. Physical/Sexual
3. Professional
4. Communication
5. Spiritual
6. Financial
7. Social
8. Family

FEEL: Motivated to implement new habits as a couple that create connection & passion

Quotes:

"Chemistry is what brings you together, your habits are what keep you together (or not)."

Other resources:

Get a free 2-on-2 couples coaching call with The Freemans

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