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So here you are, trying to share with your partner something that is important to you and something that you feel emotion around… Then they say something like: "you are overreacting, it's not that big of a deal", or even "that doesn't make sense!"

You immediately feel invalidated and maybe that your feelings don't matter, right? This causes many upsets and conflicts for couples and at the very least, disconnects you from love and understanding from your partner.

Today's topic came from a coaching session we had this week, in which we then posted this question to our couples community: "Do you ever notice that you feel your emotions are invalidated by your partner, what has you feel that way?" There were many replies and great examples of the words and actions that caused people to feel invalidated (we will cover a number of them).

From this episode you'll take away:

• What causes you to feel invalidated
• The 3 reasons why this is used as a defensive mechanism
• The new actions to take to keep from invalidating each other's emotions

Quotes:

"Yes there are universal truths, but there are also personal truths, for both you and your partner. What you BOTH are feeling right now are both true for YOU!" - Aaron

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.
2. Get a FREE hard copy of the book 📚 The New Power Couple (just pay shipping)
3. Get 50% OFF The Couples Workshop (online home edition) to practice communication skills, resolve recurring disagreements, and connect more than ever!
4. Follow us on Instagram

You know those things your partner says or does that TRIGGER you? YES trigger, meaning you have an automatic emotion that comes up that then causes you to get upset. Then from there you may both do things that hurt and keep you disconnected for hours, days, or even weeks!

You're not alone, we received hundreds of comments when we asked the community what triggers them in their relationship. This episode comes directly from a post on FB and Instagram about "what does your partner do that triggers you?"

We share what many of those responses were PLUS:

• The root cause of your personal triggers
• 3 things you can do differently when you do get triggered
• And how to talk calmly to your partner about triggers so they can support you

Quotes:

"It's not your partner's responsibility to tip-toe around your emotional triggers. It is your opportunity to identify them, heal them and then ask them to support you." - Jocelyn

"Become aware, then share!" - Aaron

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.
2. Get a FREE hard copy of the book 📚 The New Power Couple (just pay shipping)
3. Get 50% OFF The Couples Workshop (online home edition) to practice communication skills, resolve recurring disagreements, and connect more than ever!
4. Follow us on Instagram

Avoiding conflicts in the short term only lead to resentment building in the long term! Though you may have adapted the philosophy of avoiding conflicts from other examples that you saw, or your own past experiences. It hurts your relationship by turning into resentment. You can even be a happy and growth focused couple but can start to build a rift in just a few days time.

So we took this topic of releasing resentment or getting past old hurts from Andrew on Instagram and Teresa on Facebook. They both essentially asked: "How do I let go of resentments or past hurts in my relationship now?"

So in this episode today you'll takeaway:

• Why and how resentments build up from avoiding conflicts and withholding communications
• The steps to take to release any past hurts or resentments
• How to use the steps to 'close the circle' on future arguments, so that they don't repeat themselves in the future and turn into resentment later on.

From listening you will feel free from keeping things held inside and clear about what you can do next to create connection out of conflict.

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved!
2. Get a FREE hard copy of the book 📚 The New Power Couple (just pay for shipping)
3. Start your on-the-go Communication Course For Couples

Facing any time of challenge let alone a global down economy can have you wondering and doubting if you can pursue your passion. You may be wondering is this really the time to start or even grow a business (especially as a couple)?

You are about to find the answer to that and much more as Chris and Lori Harder share how they went from humiliation in the 2008 crash to building the foundation of the multiple million dollar companies they run TOGETHER.

You will hear how the requirements to be successful especially when you back is against a wall, you pivot, and reinvent yourself individually and as a couple! Learn how even having a good economy is the enemy to a great business! Plus how being business partners will take your romantic relationship to levels other couples won't ever reach.

Questions Ask In The Interview:

1. You two started a business together in the 2008 crash when you were laid off from what many would say is a steady job. How did you get resourceful rather than victims?
2. Can you really pursue what you are passionate about or do you have to do the thing that pays the bills?
3. Do you think now is a good time to start or grow a business as a couple? Or at least be thinking about additional income streams?
4. What challenge did you two encounter in your relationship because you also become business partners?
5. How do you make financial decisions when you don't necessarily agree with each other, and what about if that turns into a fight?
6. How do you start to repair any broken trust that comes up whether in your romantic or business relationship?

Quotes:

"Good is the enemy of great!" - Chris Harder

"You are ever only one conversation away from your desired outcome" - Lori Harder

Resources From The Freemans:

1. Apply to Become a Certified Relationship Coach & start a coaching business
2. Get a FREE hard copy of the book 📚 The New Power Couple (just pay for shipping)
3. Follow us on Instagram

About The Guests:

Lori & Chris Harder aren't your average couple, they are truly a power couple for their strengths as individuals and as a couple. Lori Harder is a best selling author, Forbes Top Rated podcast host, founder of 'Lite Pink' and 'The Bliss Project'.

Chris Harder is an entrepreneur, investor, avid philanthropist, and podcaster. After an 11-year career as an executive and partner in the banking industry, he retired from banking in 2011 and partnered with his wife, Lori, to start and scale four different multi-million dollar businesses, along with investing in several other successful startups.

Connect More With The Guests:

1. Apply for their grant for entrepreneurs
2. Chris Harder's Instagram
3. Lori Harder's Instagram

Ever have those moments that don't feel like they're going your way? It could be that you suddenly got into a disagreement on a seemingly great day, your kids aren't acting like you want them to, maybe one of you lost your job during the quarantine period…..or maybe your dog stepped on a cactus early in the morning (like our story)

This episode is all about how to let go of RESISTING the present moment and what is HAPPENING. When you're resisting what's happening, you can get frustrated and not have a great attitude.

We'll share a relatable story from how our day did not go as we expected this week, but how we switched our attitude about it quickly!

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Things have absolutely changed in the world and in your life from this pandemic. You probably experience a change in your relationship roles (including taking on additional roles you never thought you would have to) and the amount of time you are in your home and around your partner. Plus, no matter what type of job, career, or business you are in; you probably have felt an impact in your finances!

Of course this has always been a top stressor on marriages, but now it can be glaring at you in the face, having you feel a lot of fear and uncertainty. This can bring up additional tension and pressure in your relationship together causing you to fight against each other.

So get ready to hear from iconic Elena Cardone, as her and her husband Grant are no strangers to challenges, financial downturns, and crashes. What you are going to know from Elena is that marriage is what makes you a better individual and how you can handle financial downturns. You are going to have the ways to stop fighting about 'small things' when you envision, create, and defend your vision and empire together (whatever size it might be). Plus the ways to leverage your individual strengths and weaknesses. So you will feel complete trust, support, and confidence to lay the groundwork to fulfilling your dreams together, no matter what challenges arise.

Questions Asked In This Interview:

1. You two had started your relationship 3 years before the 2008 crash. So while many people still feel the impact of that time what was your mindset and belief during those times, that positioned you to be here now?
2. What can couples do (including believing) to keep from panicking and weather a financial downturn together without letting money hurt their marriage?
3. In your book as well as personally in the media, you talk about "guarding your empire"-- what does that look like for couples right now?
4. Many of the pressures on marriages come from forced change in relationship roles. What are some of your strategies for balancing parenting, business, and your vision as a couple?
5. Have you and Grant been getting any couples time or huddle together during the quarantine to always be on the same page?
6. What are ways that couples can come out stronger after this season?

Quotes:

"When you are attacking your partner, you are playing at a very small level and a small game. You need to have goals and visions that are big enough and exciting enough and know who it is you want to be as a couple."

"It's not about male or female, it's about your strengths and weaknesses and who does what best within the relationship. Do what you need to do and have 100% trust in your partner"

"Its vital to be able to change and not be fixed on ideas about the way things are supposed to be."

- Elena Cardone

Other Resources From The Freemans:

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More About The Guests Elena & Grant Cardone:

They are a truly iconic couple that is building an empire. First for their family as they have been married for 15 years and are loving parents to two children (one of which you will even hear join at the end!)

Then second for other families as they are both best-selling authors, host the 10X Growth Conference, one of the largest for thousands of entrepreneurs, and run one of the largest real-estate empires (Cardone Capital) in the world, valued at $800 M. With this they have been able to raise hundreds of millions for charities. As you will hear from Elena, she passionately wants to empower women partners and help make marriage cool again!

Order Elena's book Build An Empire HERE

During these times of uncertainty with the coronavirus, do you find yourself torn between wanting to be really productive and taking time out to relax and just slow down? Or do you see many other people talking about finding the opportunity in these times to serve more people and grow your own influence and impact; and feel pressure to try and do the same?

Many couples are finding themselves in this dichotomy, which is putting even more pressure on the relationship, especially when each partner feels differently about this time.

So where is the balance between being productive and rejuvenating or even being able to just stay positive when you have emotions of uncertainty, fear, disconnection from your partner, or just not being on the same page?

In this episode with brilliant, courageous, and inspirational entrepreneur Jasmine Star, you will be able to find your balance, get clarity on what truly inspires you during this time, how to stay on the same page with your partner and be positive and productive during any challenging time!

Questions Asked In This Interview:

1. During this quarantine, what practices do you have as a couple to stay positive and productive?
2. How do you two give each other appropriate feedback that doesn't trigger defensiveness?
3. Adopting/being parents and being entrepreneurs, how is it going so far getting self-care time, biz time, parenting time and relationship time?
4. As both entrepreneurs and spouses, what kinds of challenges come up and how do you handle them?
5. For couples thinking about starting a business during these times, what would you say?

Quotes:

"Within the projects of our lives we call it the 51-49. There is always one of us that has 51% ownership to make that final decision. This has saved us time, money, and even therapy."

"Many think they will have the support of their partners, but you will never get them to complete assignments or projects when you want it, if you do not have their complete buy-in." - Jasmine Star

Connect More With Us:

1. On Instagram (and tell us what you took away from this episode) ✅
2. Get instant access to 'The Couples Workshop' HERE (right to your home) 🖥

More About The Guest:

Jasmine Star, in partnership with her husband JD, is a Photographer & Business Strategist who empowers entrepreneurs to build a brand, market it on social media, and create a life they love. After leaving a scholarship to UCLA law school, she picked up a camera, pursued curiosity, and built the business of her dreams. A decade later, she is educating entrepreneurs on how to do the same! They even just adapted a brand new child into their life right has the quarantine was taking effect. So with being new parents, romantic partners, business partners, and influencers; she is the perfect person to help you stay positive and productive as a couple during challenging times.

Connect with Jasmine at: jasminestar.com

For all the entrepreneurs and personal brands learn about having your social media curated for you at: socialcurator.com

Start your day off with a dose of laughter + power-packed content! This episode is your moment to gain 3 ways you become Stronger Than Ever during these tough times.

If you follow us on social media, you've heard us say, "this time will either strengthen your relationship or strain it…..all based on your skills, actions and choices!"

Since you're listening to this podcast, you obviously are committed to it STRENGTHENING.

So grab a cup of tea or head on a run to enjoy this episode giving you 3 practical ways to do just that!

PLUS, we're also including 3 clips from our 'Couples Workshop' (recorded home edition) so you can get a sneak peek into why couples are BUZZING around the world talking about how they are more connected than ever!

Connect More With Us:

1. On Instagram (and tell us what you took away from this episode) ✅
2. Get instant access to 'The Couples Workshop' HERE (right to your home) 🖥

In this episode you will know that expectations are the cause of any and all disappointments that have come up, or will come up in your relationship. But this is not a problem at all once you know that it's from the unexpressed or unknown expectations. You will always have expectations whether from the past that you are becoming aware of, or if you are growing and evolving as people and as a couple, there will always be new ones you discover.

From this interview with Patrick and Carrie Antrim, you will have the way to uncover as well as express any and all disappointments (whether from the past or ones still to come as you grow together) with your partner. So that you will both feel understood, on the same page, connected, and ready to become the best partners you can be no matter what challenges arise!

Questions asked in this interview:

1. What are expectations you each now realize you had in the beginning of the relationship?
2. Looking back, what was the impact of any of these unknown or unexpressed expectations?
3. What are some basic needs and wants you have for the relationship?
4. What are some aspirational needs and wants you have?
5. Did you two talk about your needs and wants proactively or did you discover them over time from challenges coming up?
6. What is the best way for you to share new expectations of your needs and wants with your partner that you are bound to have as you grow as an individual, a couple, and business partners?

Quotes:

"Being with someone that is ok with designing a life, verses living a life they are just reacting to." - Patrick Antrim

Connect More With Us:

1. Follow us on Instagram ✅
2. Attend the LIVE Online Couples Workshop (right to your home) 🖥
3. Get a FREE hardcopy of The New Power Couple book (just pay for shipping)📚

Connect More With The Guests:

Patrick and Carrie Antrim are media entrepreneurs that help brands tell great stories and scale their business with video. They are Knowledge Business Coaches that produce high level events and masterminds. Including their own Multi Family business and yearly summit and women's event. They do all of this while being a blended family with 4 kids!

1. Connect with the Multi Family Leadership brand
2. Attend the Multi Family Summit event live or online

This episode is all about the 'Skills for Healthy Romantic Relationships'! No matter what you have heard from songs, movies, or people in general LOVE ISN'T actually enough. Loving each other doesn't guarantee that you'll have a truly healthy relationship. Believe it right now or not what you need are the skills and corresponding habits to have a long term healthy relationship!

In this episode, from our "Empowered Couples Show" on YouTube, you will have 2 skills that lead to healthy relationships and reduce the patterns that lead to unhealthy ones using evidenced based tools for couples! You'll leave feeling confident that you DO HAVE everything you need to have love be the foundation of your healthy romantic relationship!

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