Same Team with The Freemans

"I said I'm sorry, can't we just move past this?" Is this a statement that you hear from your partner, or even one that you have said to them before? It most likely is and for some reason saying "I'm sorry" just doesn't seem to cut it to resolve a conflict all the way and reconnect you both. Any idea why this is or what you can say (or do) instead?

Well that is exactly what we are going to cover this episode today, as "I'm sorry" on its own is just not enough. During this episode you will hear the 7 reasons why it's not enough, we will share our story of moving (yes we are still waiting on the trucking company over a week later) and how "sorry" was not enough for us, and then the first two steps of the "5 R Process" to being to reconcile and connect with your partner.

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!
2. Book a Relationship Breakthrough Session (only $97 to hold your spot)

Would you be willing to sell your house in 24 hours, and move across the country in under 3 weeks? Well we are, and we did! Whether that is something that you even thought about or not, the point is about being able to make BOLD decisions together, even during uncertainty, that will ultimately benefit your life and relationship.

Often there are many decisions that go into a BIG decision, and maybe you feel that you are good at coming up with ideas, but get stuck in taking that leap of faith.

In today's episode we want to share with you (because we are very excited and want you to be a part of this journey with us too) about how we came to this decision to sell everything and make a big change in our lives. All so that you can get some of the principles so that you can make beneficial decisions faster and with more confidence together that will ultimately better serve your relationship. Even if it still scares you!

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Also follow along the journey this week as we road trip it from Phoenix Arizona to Charlotte North Carolina! We will be making a number of stops along the way!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!

Yes we know that when you see the word Gratitude or Appreciation you think "I've heard that a thousand times"! Yet giving and showing your partner appreciation is one of the secret ingredients to a truly happy and connected relationship, one that barely gets it's deserved air time. The reason being it's never taken far enough. Appreciation is actually an art to be given so that it has a real impact and it's just as important that you allow yourself to receive appreciation from your partner!

In today's episode you will learn:

• Why appreciation is so important and why it's so easily forgotten about.
• The art to delivering appreciation in a way that will be more meaningful to your partner (which is not just appreciating what they DO)
• That you might actually be blocking appreciation and the feeling or connection because you are unable to receive it (either from your past, or from a belief you have about yourself)

Best Quote:

"You cannot receive what you do not believe about yourself" - The Freemans

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!
2. Get access to The Couples Workshop - studio recording from the Oct 10th live event!

Your immediate reaction to this episode might be "yes my partner definitely has some adult temper tantrums". Which is probably true at times, so we will of course go more into how you can HELP and SUPPORT them, rather than avoiding or getting mad at them yourself.

BUT if you were really being honest, you might see that you yourself have your own tantrums sometimes. These are places that you just don't know how else to express yourself or realize what it is you really want and need. Many of us do this (act like hurt or wounded kids) because we just do not know and were not taught any other way.

Maybe this is ok at work or with friends, but when it comes to a healthy, connected, and lasting romantic relationship… you will just do more damage than good. All because you haven't learned these simple skills.

In today's episode you will learn:

• Why you, or your partner, express yourself like your child-self when you are feeling hurt or misunderstood.
• How to best support and communicate with your partner during these times.
• The tools to move into conscious self-expression and communication.

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!
2. Get access to The Couples Workshop - studio recording from the Oct 10th live event!

Of course this seems like something that could never happen, but being honest, do you feel like you and your partner are just high functioning roommates? We are not talking about your actual college roommates, but at some point the experience of aliveness, passion, and being prioritized was overtaken by getting things done, having half conversations, and even disconnection.

This is happening for a lot of couples in the season however, as even mentioned by Chris Rock this week on SNL (eluding to the 34% rise in divorce rates over last year). Couples like you are finding themselves in difficult places and reevaluating the relationship.

In this episode we give you 3 things to focus on and implement so that you get out of just feeling like roommates and get back to co-creating your life together that doesn't have to look like anyone else's relationship, or how your relationship was in the past.

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Register for The Couples Workshop- LIVE on October 10th. Last chance to register! (message us for code)
2. Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!

It's shocking and contradictory from what you've heard (or even believe), but LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH. You might ask: enough for what exactly? It's not enough for love to last or deepen within your relationship.

Ok, be at ease, love is certainly a requirement for a great relationship and marriage, but what you need for it to last and for you to be a truly empowered couple is learning and implementing relationship skills!

In this 100th episode we explore this topic that we love and give you 3 reasons why love is not enough and then the 3 skills every couple must have to keep love alive. By implementing these skills you will be able to bring love back in any moment that is not feeling as connected or loved by your partner. You will learn that love is not conditional but an experience you always have control over. That's a truly unconditional, empowered relationship!

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Register for The Couples Workshop- LIVE on October 10th. Last chance to register!
2. Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!

Hey friends, a special episode to give you straight-talk to get into action around your patterns, challenges, or pain points in your relationship. (Especially if you have already tried to have important conversations with you partner, and it doesn't go anywhere.)

The Couples Workshop event is coming up LIVE on October 10th, but can be watched from your own home!

Here is the website to read more and save your seats

The promise of this workshop is that You Will Communicate Better & Resolve Conflicts Faster, in 5 Hours Instead of 5 Months!

We're coming to you live from a super high tech studio that literally will feel like you're in person with us, yet you're in the privacy of your own home. This is NOT going to be full of cliches like "communication is the key to a relationship." Everyone knows that!

It will provide you with step-by-step exercises to FINALLY feel understood, and resolve those same 2 or 3 disagreements that keep coming up over and over.

Save your seats here!

Surprise! A $40 off coupon code that's only good for 48 hours (till midnight on Sept 25th). Enter code: workshop40

So here you are having a conversation with your partner, then with the slightest hint of emotion arising, they shutdown. They might stop talking altogether or say "I'm not talking about this, move on" or even "get off my back". This could be because you are trying to have an important conversation with them or it can be out of the blue.

Either way, when your partner shuts down, you feel isolated, left out in the cold, or controlled because they are dictating when certain topics can be talked about. When this happens a few times you get frustrated because nothing seems to change and you are unable to make any progress together when your partner is totally unwilling to open up and let you in.

Hope is not lost (Aaron can vouch for that)! In this episode you will understand why this happens for your partner, as well as 3 things you can do differently to keep this pattern from happening. If you use these 3 things you will feel you can actually make progress in the relationship and understand more about each other's needs.

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!
2. Register for The Couples Workshop- LIVE event streamed right to your home

Ever have those times in your relationship where things are going great, and then BAM... something sabotages it. You might not have identified it as sabotage, but that's often what it is and it shows up as a pattern from your past!

Sabotaging behaviors keep you and your partner from experiencing: more love, more joy, more connection, more intimacy and more fulfillment together. So yea, sabotage is no fun.

In this episode, we dive into how emotional events from either your upbringing or past relationships can/is impacting your relationship now.

But here's what's taking this to the next level….we also dive into how those past events lead to subtle forms of sabotaging behavior. Before you think, "oh, I don't do anything sabotaging," take a listen and hear some behaviors that you might not have noticed before, that could be keeping your relationship in the same place rather than growing.

This is a powerful episode for you to reflect on individually and discuss together. Plus you will get a process to identify what these patterns are, where they come from, and what to do to change them.

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Join the 21 Day Relationship Upgrade starting next week! All you have to do is order a FREE hard copy of our book, then you get access to the private group with the 21 day group and activities coming up.
2. Register for The Couples Workshop- LIVE-streamed to your home

Real talk....we had a 3 hour conversation this weekend about the possibility of ending our partnership.

Not because we haven't been "happy" or that we don't love each other anymore... but because we haven't been living in our full potential as individuals or as a couple. We have high standards for what kind of partnership we're capable of and that's what we invite you into.

So we shared openly and candidly with each other about our disappointments, frustrations, and doubts.

We used our skills to listen and hold space for each other. Which led to a MASSIVE triumph and feeling more connected and loved than ever.

There's too much to tell about this here, so we recorded an entire podcast episode on it. Not only do we share transparently about this deep and vulnerable conversation, but we share with you a COMPLETELY different way of "ending" the relationship so you can truly evolve as a couple.

It's something you never will have heard before and many couples never do...

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Get $40 OFF Early Bird tickets for the LIVE Couples Workshop on Oct 10th, 2020 (only lasts until Sept 11th, 2020 - our anniversary!) Use code: "podcast40" at checkout.

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts.