Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships

Drama! It keeps you walking on eggshells, wondering when the next supposedly offence on your part will be jumped on. Or, an event will be blown out of proportion. That event may or not have actually happened, right?

Accepting responsibility for allowing drama to continue in your life is the first step to putting an END to it. I know, the other person does create it. You may be allowing it, even enabling drama in your relationship.

The patterns and persistence of drama and manipulation in a relationship are not hard to spot. What can be hard is deciding where your boundary is, expressing it, and holding it strong. You may have to add non-negotiable consequences if that boundary is crossed or disrespected.

Listen in and learn about expressing your boundaries in effective ways.

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Keeping you in chaos, confusion, and uncertainty is a hallmark of a #Hijackal®.

They do it to keep you on guard and off balance.

That's a very shaky combination that destroys any possibility of stability in a relationship!

Recognizing when a Hijackal is trying to control you (which is always) is an important skill to have for taking back your personal power and sense of self. It's particularly important when that uncertainty has come to feel "normal." There is nothing normal about it, but it is the way #Hijackals roll. You might need to "roll" away!

You may find it difficult to clear your head and examine how you really feel at this point.

You've likely been told you're wrong so many times that you've come to believe it. You may have been told everything is your fault so many times you've come to think it's true. If either of those things are true for you right now, this is the perfect time to listen in and gather some insights and strengths.

Clarity is required. Being with a #Hijackal--maybe a #narcissist--leaves your head spinning.

Because you are a good person, you've likely given the Hijackal the benefit of the doubt too many times. You've excused his/her behavior repeatedly. You've justified their crazy-making more times than is healthy. Actually, once is enough!

It's time to stop. Today's episode is a good place to start.

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Holidays or any celebration can be stressful. It may be exciting--which is stressful in itself--and it may be distressful.

Give yourself permission to recognize and act on the three empowering tips for surviving the holidays with other humans.

In fact, these three tips will always help you feel empowered.

Are the holidays duty, dread, or delight for you?

Can you look forward to any celebration, without concern that it will be ruined by others?

If you have a #Hijackal parent or a #Hijackal partner or ex, you know there is downside potential.

You likely cannot control anyone in your life, nor would you want to. (Kids excluded, of course...lol)

You also don't want to be controlled.

You're an adult and you have choices, right? You also don't want your happiness in other peoples' hands. It isn't, but often, folks think that it is. Happiness is an inside job. Place yourself in places, and situations where you can be happy. Remove yourself from situations where you historically cannot find happiness.

I know that sound simple, and is anything but easy. That's why I've given you these three insights today, and I hope you will take them to heart.

#Hijackals want to be the center of attention--whether they are present or not! They simply feed on having the power to control people and situations. They can refuse to come to something, or come and demand center stage. Still, they will be the topic of conversation. Just what they want.

Use these three empowering insights to stay centered and calm, and away from potentially volatile situations. You're an adult, right? You can choose. I hope you'll choose in favor of peace, happiness, and joy!

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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• 3 Empowering Tips to help you be more centered and calm in the holidays
• How to take care of yourself around toxic people
• Know that you can choose JOMO over FOMO
• Control what is within your control--you--and leave the rest

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What a pleasure and honor to have this deep conversation with Patricia Evans, author of The Verbally Abusive Relationship. !

Patricia Evans stepped up, spoke up, and spoke out about verbal abuse. Her first book--with four following--is a tribute to her indomitable spirit and unwillingness to stay silent about this gateway behavior.

Before a partner hits you, you will have been verbally abused: demeaned, discounted, dismissed, blamed, manipulated, and deceived. Domestic violence starts with verbal abuse.

Toxic relationships are verbally abusive. In today's episode, we talk about the aspects of verbal abuse, and Patricia offers insights and strategies to recognize it, and find the strength to move away from it.

If you have ever been verbally abused, or think you might be right now, you need to listen now.

ABOUT PATRICIA EVANS:

An internationally recognized Interpersonal Communications Specialist, Patricia Evans draws upon research of more than thirty thousand cases of verbally abusive relationships. She speaks and conducts workshops throughout the country.

Founder of the Evans Interpersonal Communications Institute, now, EICI, Inc., Patricia offers workshops and training programs. She has single-handedly brought the subject of verbal abuse to the forefront of American consciousness, starting with her landmark book, The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond(1992). Newsweek commended her for it, saying that the expanded edition in 1996 was “A groundbreaking new book.”

Patricia Evans has spoken on the devastating effect of this secret form of control on more than two hundred radio programs, and seventeen national television shows, including the Oprah Winfrey Show, Sonya Live—CNN and News Talk.

Find Patricia Evan's work at VerbalAbuse.com

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When you have a #Hijackal® parent, you tend to model their traits, or be set up to be the unwitting "prey" for other predators like them. Having a #Hijackal parent can turn you into "Hijackal Bait." Hijackals are attracted to you, and you are attracted tot hem.

Why? Because they seem so familiar. You feel somehow comfortably uncomfortable with them...at least for the first while.

Having a Hijackal parent often means that you become the Golden Child in the family, the one who can do no wrong. Or, the Scapegoat, the one who can do nothing right.

It's important to realize the potential pitfalls for life and relationship that having a Hijackal parent set you up to take. It certainly wasn't your fault, and you did not create. It's important, though, to recognize what actually happened to you.

Today's episode gives you some insights into this.

Read the highlights below, and listen in. Subscribe so you'll receive every episode to help you stay clear about what is really going on.

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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Insights into motives of toxic parents
• What you may not realize about your upbringing
• Why #Hijackals must make you wrong
• Why you might take on too much blame in life

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Difficult, defensive, and destructive behaviors can turn into dangerous ones! These six steps to keep you safer around toxic people, around #Hijackals, are absolutely vital to recognize and take. Keep yourself safer!

In today's episode, I'm defining "dangerous" as dangerous to your well-being in all ways, and to your children's well-being and best interests. I give you six vital questions to ask yourself--honestly ask yourself--and honestly answer.

When you're with a toxic person, you are likely to make excuses for their behavior, rationalize or justify their behavior. Time to stop doing that. And, time to look at your relationship with honest eyes. You need to see what's really happening, not what you wish was happening, right?

Toxic relationships depend on you putting up with verbal and emotional abuse. If you were not willing to, you would not be in the relationship. I know that sounds very harsh and matter-of-fact. You would only put up with these behaviors if you had been taught to, and I want to open you up to see that it is NOT NECESSARY to put up with being treated like anything less than the valuable human you are.

None of us are perfect, and we ARE valuable. You deserve to be treated with honesty, respect, trust, and reliability. You deserve to be safe.

Sometimes, you might not realize that you have rights and you can expect to be treated with respect and dignity. In a loving relationship, you can also expect to be with an emotionally mature person who wants to create emotional intimacy. That's not unreasonable, although, in my opinion, not enough people go for it!

You are the one who can take steps to keep you and your children safe. Information and education are the beginning, and I'm so glad you're listening to this podcast. Enjoy all the other episodes, too, and shore up your knowledge, AND your self-confidence, too!

Read the highlights below, and listen in. Subscribe so you'll receive every episode to help you stay clear about what is really going on.

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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• 6 invaluable questions to ask yourself, and answer honestly
• 6 steps to keep yourself safer when you're around a toxic person, a #Hijackal
• Why #Hijackals are not driven by logic
• Signs of potential trouble when you're with a controlling person
• Why it is essential to whip off the rose-colored glasses and see that a difficult person can actually be a dangerous person

You'll find that in many other episodes of this podcast, and on my YouTube channel, too.

Enjoy my other podcast, Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, here, or wherever you like to find your podcasts.

Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab my

FREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up now, so you don't make mistakes that will hurt you. Grab it!

If you need help with any part of the journey with--and from--a #Hijackal, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.

Make positive changes NOW.

Big hugs,

Rhoberta

Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

TransformingRelationship.com or ForRelationshipHelp.com

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CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Podcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.com

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Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctor

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.

#staysafe #personalsafety #emotionalsafety #keepyourselfsafe #stepstostopabuse #notoabuse #hijackalfree

#saveyoursanity #coercivecontrol #narcissisticabuse #toxicnarcissist #leavinganarcissist #hijackals #saveyoursanity #Hijackals #verbalabuse #passive-aggressive #toxicpeople #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #sociopath #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #toxicpeople

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CRAZY-MAKING! That's what these ten mind-games are!

#Hijackals--those relentlessly difficult, toxic people in life must always win. You've noticed that, right?

They have to be right, make your wrong, and have their way.

That why it is important to recognize these ten mind-games narcissists play to confuse you. Narcissists want you to live in uncertainty. They want the ground beneath your feet to be constantly shifting. AND, they want to be in control of those shifts.

When you come to clearly see what a #narcissist is up to, what a #Hijackal is up to, you will be able to make clearer decisions about your next best steps. When you're too worn down to see these things, get some help. I'm always here to help you. BeAClient.com

Read the highlights below, and listen in. Subscribe so you'll receive every episode to help you stay clear about what is really going on.

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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• All or Nothing Thinking
• Love-bombing Flattery
• "Don't Be Different"
• Convenient Half-Truths
• The "I'm Just Kidding/You're Too Sensitive" Gambit
• Generalizations and Cliches
• Smear Campaigns
• "The Plausability Ploy"
• Exploiting Vulnerabilities
• Playing on Your Emotions

You'll find that in many other episodes of this podcast, and on my YouTube channel, too.

Enjoy my other podcast, Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, here, or wherever you like to find your podcasts.

Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab my

FREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up now, so you don't make mistakes that will hurt you. Grab it!

If you need help with any part of the journey with--and from--a #Hijackal, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.

Make positive changes NOW.

Big hugs,

Rhoberta

Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

TransformingRelationship.com or ForRelationshipHelp.com

P.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.

WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?

You can have that, and:

• access to my Optimize Circles
• my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program
• monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls, sometimes two
• at least monthly insightful videos and access to the library

You can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month! This offer is going away soon, and the prices will double. Join now!

OptimizeCircles.com

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Podcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctor

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.

#co-parenting #co-parentingwithnarcissist #putthechildrenfirst #parentingwithanarcissist

#saveyoursanity #coercivecontrol #narcissisticabuse #toxicnarcissist #leavinganarcissist #hijackals #saveyoursanity #Hijackals #verbalabuse #passive-aggressive #toxicpeople #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #sociopath #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #toxicpeople

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You've divorced a #narcissist, a #Hijackal®. That was difficult, no doubt.

Now, you're settling in--or trying to settle in--to some kind of reasonable co-parenting model. That's tough, too.

I know, I've done it.

It's not easy to co-parent with a #narcissist.

It's not what you expected to have to do.

You're still resentful about the relationship, and devastated by the divorce.

BIG RULE: Never make your children feel like pawns, messengers, or casualties of your divorce.

Yes, that's tough, too, but it is SO important.

In a perfect world, after divorce, your children would only know that life is more peaceful with two homes, and that they miss the parent they are not with. That's it. That's how it should go.

When you have divorced a narcissist, that's not the way it goes, right?

In this episode, I'm giving you the 5 IDEALS for conscious co-parenting

AND, the 10 REALITIES of co-parenting with a narcissist, co-parenting with a Hijackal.

I promised in the episode to give you the five positive affirmations to keep in mind here in writing.

1. I am the model I want my children to follow. Therefore, everything I do and say demonstrates who I want my children to strive towards becoming.
2. I communicate with my ex in the way I wish for him/her to communicate with me. I choose collaboration and conversation, over conflict and acrimony.
3. I focus on my children and what keeps them healthy--physically, mentally, and emotionally. That includes doing what is in their best interests first.
4. I turn my attention from what I don't like about my ex to what s/he does well for the children. It's about the kid, not what my personal issues are with my ex.
5. I allow my children to enjoy their childhood and ensure they're only concerned with age-appropriate thoughts, feelings, and actions. I protect them from being pawns, messengers, and casualties of my divorce.

I clarify the realities of co-parenting with toxic people, and give you ten insights that will help you save your santiy.

Read the highlights below, and listen in. Subscribe so you'll receive every episode to help you stay clear about what is really going on.

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Support Circle now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.

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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• 5 Ideals of Co-parenting
• 10 Realities of Co-parenting with a narcissistic #Hijackal
• How to keep your head above water while saving your sanity when co-parenting
• Why and How to be the most sane parent in the narcissist mix

You'll find that in many other episodes of this podcast, and on my YouTube channel, too.

Enjoy my other podcast, Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, here, or wherever you like to find your podcasts.

Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab my

FREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up now, so you don't make mistakes that will hurt you. Grab it!

If you need help with any part of the journey with--and from--a #Hijackal, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.

Make positive changes NOW.

Big hugs,

Rhoberta

Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

TransformingRelationship.com or ForRelationshipHelp.com

P.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.

WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?

You can have that, and:

• access to my Optimize Circles
• my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program
• monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls, sometimes two
• at least monthly insightful videos and access to the library

You can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month! This offer is going away soon, and the prices will double. Join now!

OptimizeCircles.com

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Podcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctor

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.

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BAIT-AND-SWITCH!

That's an illegal activity in the U.S. and many other countries, when it comes to advertising great deals.

It would be SO good, if it were illegal when it comes to #Hijackals everywhere, too.

In advertising terms, bait-and-switch is described as a scam that entices people with a great product of high quality at a very attractively low price. Once a person buys it, they find that they got a low-quality substitute with a no-return policy.

Doesn't that remind of you of how you become ensnared by a #Hijackal? You're love-bombed, made to believe you are the most amazing creature on earth and that the Hijackal would go to the ends of the earth for you.

Hijackals move quickly. You've likely seen graphics on Facebook that remind you that no one falls in love more quickly than a narcissist who has lost a job and has nowhere to stay. Whether or not that was your case, the Hijackal wants to move quickly: fall in love, move in, get pregnant, borrow money, wham! That's to establish control.

By the time the picture starts to come clearly out of the "love haze", and into focus, you don't want to see it. You want to believe the love-bombing. And, then, the abuse begins.

Does this sounds familiar? Read the highlights below, and listen in. Subscribe so you'll receive every episode to help you stay clear about what is really going on.

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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• How sex is often used once the love-bombing stage is over
• Why you don't want to believe the bait-and-switch
• How something that seems so intensely wonderful could go so intensely wrong
• How #Hijackals use sex as a weapon
• Why #Hijackals can never get enough power over you
• How withholding or demanding sex is often part of coercive control

You'll find that in many other episodes of this podcast, and on my YouTube channel, too.

Enjoy my other podcast, Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, here, or wherever you like to find your podcasts.

Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab my

FREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up now, so you don't make mistakes that will hurt you. Grab it!

If you need help with any part of the journey with--and from--a #Hijackal, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.

Make positive changes NOW.

Big hugs,

Rhoberta

Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

TransformingRelationship.com or ForRelationshipHelp.com

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Emotionally Impaired? There's no breathalyzer for that! So, how do you know some is?

Every now and then, each one of us may be a little incapacitated by life events. There can be temporary emotional impairment.

Where the real problems come is when a person is often emotionally impaired, or more difficult, usually emotionally impaired!

You cannot have the three hallmarks I suggest every healthy relationship with the possibility of being emotionally mature and emotionally intimate must have:

Equality. Reciprocity. Mutuality.

It's essential to creating healthy relationships that each person examine their own behavior first. It's wise to be aware of our own issues.

If you find yourself have the same interactions with your partner or parent, or the same complaints about him or her, today's episode may help you identify what is going on and what might be causing the problems. Perhaps, s/he is emotionally impaired.

Good news. You can get out of the Hijackal Trap. Read my downloadable ebook, Escaping the Hijackal Trap. You can recover from any symptoms of Narcissistic Victim Syndrome. It will take awhile, but you'll recover to live and love and trust again. If you're ready to do that now, let's talk: BeAClient.com

Listen in, and subscribe.

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Support Circle now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. 

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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

• What is emotional impairment?
• How do you recognize someone is emotionally impaired?
• How would I know if I am emotionally impaired?
• What is the impact of being with an emotionally impaired person?
• Why is this important to recognize?

You'll find that in many other episodes of this podcast, and on my YouTube channel, too.

Enjoy my other podcast, Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, here, or wherever you like to find your podcasts.

Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab my

FREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up now, so you don't make mistakes that will hurt you. Grab it!

If you need help with any part of the journey with--and from--a #Hijackal, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.

Make positive changes NOW.

Big hugs,

Rhoberta

Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

TransformingRelationship.com or ForRelationshipHelp.com

P.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.

WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?

You can have that, and:

• access to my Optimize Circles
• my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program
• monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls, sometimes two
• at least monthly insightful videos and access to the library

You can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month! This offer is going away soon, and the prices will double. Join now!

OptimizeCircles.com

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Podcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctor

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.

#emotionallyimpaired #emotionallyimmature #needtomature #relationshipskills #communicationskills

#coercivecontrol #narcissisticabuse #toxicnarcissist #leavinganarcissist #hijackals #saveyoursanity #Hijackals #verbalabuse #passive-aggressive #toxicpeople #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #sociopath #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #toxicpeople

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