Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships

Hijackals, narcissists, and other toxic difficult people are mean.

In tender moments, they make you feel safe to tell them your innermost secrets, insecurities, and vulnerabilities. Then, they turn those into weapons! They laugh at you, make jokes about your insecurities in front of others, and exploit your vulnerabilities to their advantage. Sound familiar?

Hijackals want to have the upper hand at all times. Maybe, you share something that embarrassed you, or share something that scares you, or share something you are afraid of. It feels like a tender moment, and you SO want it to be the intimacy that you long for. You want that emotional closeness. It's what you've been waiting for.

Imagine how they rub their hands with glee when you share something with them that puts you in a vulnerable light, or a bad light! They weaponize your insecurities and expose you, blame you, or shame you. They particularly like to do it in public when they hope you'll let it pass without speaking up.

WHY? What's up with these people?

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Learn three kinds of empathy that can help with understanding the Hijackal behavior
• How Hijackals learn what to do to get what they want from you
• Why Hijackals are scornful of your vulnerabilities--even though they encourage you to share them
• What the biggest misconceptions about Hijackals--including those narcissists--is
• Why narcissists seem to hate you but won't let you go easily

GUEST: Kim Saeed

Kim Saeed is an internationally respected self-help author and educator specializing in recovery and rebuilding after toxic relationships. She is the founder of Let Me Reach, a life transformation site that teaches people to flourish after narcissistic abuse. She is the author of the Kind bestseller, How To Go No Contact Like A Boss.

In How To Go No Contact Like A Boss, Kim Saeed wrote,

"During the detox from a toxic relationship, it's very common for those in recovery to ruminate obsessively over their ex and the events that led to the disintegration of the relationship. This results from addiction to the reward-and-punishment peptides that the victim's brain formed during the course of the relationship. Obsessive thinking is often the result of your subconscious mind's attempt to re-abuse you in the absence of your toxic partner. simply in order to get those peptides flowing again."

Kim Saeed has a gift for you. The Beginner's Healing Toolkit

Find it HERE.

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Toxic people--emotional manipulators--have an absolute need to win.

They NEED to have power over you in order to feel safe in their world.

That's their problem. Don't make it yours.

To get power over you, Hijackals are masters of emotional manipulation. And, they serve it up two ways: smooth or aggressive. Smooth approaches catch you off guard because you so want to believe them and enjoy the love and peace. Aggressive approaches make you fearful and unable to think clearly in the moment. Therefore, masters of manipulation!

Hijackals are always homing their skills of emotional manipulation. If you've had a toxic parent--a #Hijackal parent, you may be so used to the games that you don't notice them at first. After today's episode, you will. Don't spend a second beating yourself up for not seeing it, just pick yourself up, face in a new direction (away), and make some new decisions.

You don't deserve to be the prey of a #Hijackal predator. You need to see emotional manipulation

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Examples to help you recognize emotional manipulation
• Why #Hijackals need to win
• Why you need to discard your rose-colored glasses
• Dr. Shaler shares some examples of emotional manipulation from her earlier life
• Why you need to believe your gut instincts
• Why not to override those gut instincts
• Seeing the emotional manipulators need to dominate
• Strengthen your resolve to step away

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

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Key to recovery after emotional abuse is learning to care deeply about yourself again. Whether you call it self-esteem or self-love, it's essential to self-confidence. In today's episode, Dr. Audrey Hope and I have an in-depth conversation about finding that self-love to empower yourself to recover from abuse. That is the pathway to the power of self-validation!

Sometimes, hearing the term "self-love" seems like white noise: you just don't really hear it anymore. You know it's a good idea but, you gloss over it with your mind. Stop today and rethink that with the ideas we're discussing.

Ever had the thought that you're not enough? Maybe there was a person--or persons--in your life who dedicated his or herself to making you feel small, worthless, inadequate, and insufficient.

Now, it's time to recover, claim your personal power, and you can. Those nasty #Hijackals--whether your parent or a partner--were wrong. #Hijackals feed from what they strip away from you: self-esteem, self-love, self-confidence, sense of self, and your sense of value. They were serving their own needs to have power over you. Take it back.

In today's episode, you'll get great insights into just how to reclaim the power of self-validation!

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Dr. Hope's take on self-esteem
• Is self-esteem different from self-love?
• Where is the root of personal power?
• How to connect to your Authentic Self
• Why setting boundaries is important to "becoming sovereign" within yourself
• What self-validation is
• How to self-validate
• Manifesting true love
• Why it's important to not settle for crumbs in a relationship, and how to get the full meal deal!

GUEST: Dr. Audrey Hope

Audrey Hope, D.D. is an award-winning certified addiction therapist and holds a Doctor of Divinity degree, who uses her abilities as a clairvoyant psychic medium to heal patients from trauma.

A multi-talented force in the healing arts for over 20 years, Audrey Hope’s gentle-but-firm approach in addiction and relationships gets to the ‘root of the root’ to solve problems through spiritual modalities as she guides patients to freedom using a new frontier of healing to achieve inner peace.

She has her own practice in the heart of Brentwood, CA, is the host of her weekly YouTube advice show “Hope For Relationships,” and is also an addiction therapist at Seasons In Malibu rehab facility.

Throughout two decades in her field, Audrey has worked with an abundance of celebrities, producers, CEOs, doctors, lawyers, authors, athletes, heirs, and more – helping them cope with their relationship and/or addiction problems.

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Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

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Hate and Humiliation often go together. ? #Hijackals--relentlessly difficult, toxic people--hate and humiliate to get the upper hand in relationships...AND to make you feel bad about yourself especially in front of other people. It’s nasty! Listen in to understand the double standards of enjoying watching other people be humiliated on Reality TV or Celebrity Roasts, yet hating to be the object of humiliation ourselves. Then, make better decisions about what to do about your relationship with a #Hijackal!

#Narcissists and other #Hijackals hate to see you happy. They resent it and too often take swings at you--in every way--to take you down and make you as unhappy as they are inside. Yes, they may appear confident and in control, but inside they are conflicted and concerned every minute.

Hijackals work on the premise that making others feel small, miserable, angry, unhappy, and demeaned will assure and secure their power and control. Hence, they use hate and humiliation to accomplish that. Again, nasty!

If you are in a relationship with a partner, parent, sibling, or co-worker that you now recognize is based on underlying hate and the need and desire to humiliate, it's time to take action and get help. That is not OK on any level.

You deserve to be in a healthy, loving relationship based on honesty, safety, trust, respect, and reliability.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Why we laugh when other people are humiliated
• What "celebrity roasts" are really about and why you need to know
• How deprecating supposedly humor takes the heat off the speaker
• How hate and humiliation too often go together
• Clearly seeing why #Hijackals hate and humiliate
• Know why you cannot tolerate hateful comments and broadsiding humiliation from a Hijackal
• Schadenfreude: the tendency to take delight in the misery of others
• Throwing shade: clever and humiliating

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

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Dating? Getting back in the dating scene? Does it scare you these days? All this talk--and experience--of breadcrumb dating, ghosting, insecurity, toxicity, safety in relationships? My guest, Tracy Crossley, specializes in helping you to be aware of unhealthy dating patterns and how to change them. Breadcrumb dating needs to be recognized immediately and shut down. Learn today to save yourself unnecessary pain while dating.

Tracy Crossley cautions, "Sex is not emotional intimacy." Sometimes, you can hope that it is--or, at least, is the beginning of emotional intimacy. It's not! Often, the earlier you have sex in a relationship the more likely it is that you will experience breadcrumb dating. Save yourself that pain!

If you've ever been in a toxic relationship, you are likely to be afraid of dating these days.

Who can I trust?

Can I trust myself to choose a healthy relationship?

Breadcrumb dating is what you likely fear the most because it will mimic the emotional abuse you have already experienced. Do you know what "breadcrumb dating" actually is? An experience you don't want! Today we talk about recognizing these patterns and possibilities just in case you run into them. So then you can run away!

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• What is "breadcrumb dating?"
• What does breadcrumb dating have to do with attachment styles?
• Hear Tracy Crossley's story
• How breadcrumb dating triggers fear of abandonment
• Why sex is not emotional intimacy
• How you can stop doing things that make you feel bad
• Learning to be honest and vulnerable without punishing yourself
• What is an "insecure attachment" and how does it look in relationship?

GUEST: Tracy Crossley

Tracy is a Behavioral Relationship Expert and Podcast Host who works with individuals to help transform their dating habits by breaking unhealthy cycles of dating. With a background in psychology, an innate emotional intuition, and drawing from her own personal experience, Tracy helps her clients break the patterns that keep them trapped in the repetition of unhealthy singlehood and relationships.

Learn more at TracyCrossley.com

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Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

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Hooked on the rush of falling in love?

Hooked on the feeling of not being able to get enough of another human?

Wonder why you want to go running back to the nasty human you knew to leave?

It's all about hormones at the most basic level. Your body has its own agenda. It wants you to not think too much so you'll have babies. Yes, I know that sounds a bit simplistic, but it's true. Your hormones go into overdrive. Your hormones override your recognition of danger--emotional danger, physical danger, sexual danger.

When hormones get involved, even your risk-taking concerns are overridden!

#Cortisol, #dopamine, #serotonin, and #oxytocin all play a significant part in how you get hooked on #Hijackals! Once you recognize this, and really think about it, you can begin to override your body's urges, and overrule the hormone's effects with logical thinking.

No, I'm not suggesting you give up the joys of falling in love and get all too practical! I'm suggesting that it's best to recognize how your body wants to move towards procreating, and makes you somewhat brain dead to the red flags and toxic signs. You don't want that. You want to be more in charge.

Yes, you would likely like to let yourself go down the rabbit hole of falling for the latest #Hijackal. You know that goes nowhere but into a land of hurt, right?

Yes, you'd like to believe the #Hijackal when s/he comes back, love-bombing, saying all the right things to hook you on the hope they've changed. Engage brain at that moment. Recognize your hormones are triggered. Step back.

Today's episode can save you from that world of hurt by reducing it to the few weeks of withdrawal required to unhook yourself. Listen in.

best regards,

Rhoberta

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If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• How hormones reduce your ability to think clearly
• Hormones make risk-taking more attractive and acceptable
• What hormones do to your ability to make decisions
• Why you get hooked on #Hijackals
• Why you get hooked on hope that #Hijackals will change
• Why you want to go back to an abusive relationship
• Why you must take charge and understand your body to keep yourself safe in all ways

Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97

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"I know I'm being lied to, but I want it to be true." I hear that so often from clients. I understand that they are so hooked on hope that the person they fell in love with would never lie to them that they believe the lies.

Often, they are so exhausted from being in a relationship with a #Hijackal that they don't have the energy to deal with the lying.

In today's episode, I'm offering you ten signs of a pathological liar so that you can step back and see if you really have on in your life. That's a good first step.

Then, you can hear my thoughts on why they lie. It is very organic, and fundamental to their nature, to lie bold faced. Pathological liars seldom even think about lying. They need to win or be right in the moment, and they'll do whatever it takes in that minute to achieve it. Sound familiar?

Then, when you catch them saying something different about the same thing they lied about yesterday, learn why it is never productive to point it out. And, learn what you can do differently when you know that you are dealing with a #pathologicalliar.

best regards,

Rhoberta

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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Difference between white lies and pathological lies
• 10 reasons pathological liars will not tell the truth
• Most common lies of #Hijackals and other pathological liars
• What not to do when being lied to by a #Hijackal or #pathologicalliar
• What to focus on when you are being lied to
• How best to respond and how not to respond to a pathological liar

Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97

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#Hijackals manipulate. Therefore, Hijackals lie.

Whether that #Hijackal is narcissistic, borderline, or anti-social, it doesn't matter. They will lie.

Hijackals--those relentlessly difficult, toxic people--want the outcomes they want. Therefore, they deceive you.

Deceiving you means causing you to believe something that is not true usually to gain some personal advantage. Typical of Hijackals, right? They must win. Therefore, you must lose. To them, anything that helps them win is fair game.

I know you want to believe the lies. The Hijackal is often telling you what you want to hear with little intention of giving you what you want to receive. They know the edges, and often overstep them.

Don't be in denial. A narcissist does NOT have your best interests at heart. NO! Hijackals have their best interests at heart. They even put their own interests over what's best for their children. Nasty!

So, it's time to step up and stop accepting the lies!

No, don't tell them they are wrong. Don't tell them they are lying. You already know that just causes more fury.

Recognize the ways you have let them lie to you and why. (I'll help with that, so listen.)

Understand why #Hijackals lie.

Face the truth. See it as it is.

Examine your options.

Take action.

In a few weeks, I'll be doing another episode on ways to confront the lying and NOT blow things up. Subscribe and stay tuned.

best regards,

Rhoberta

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• What deception really is
• Usual reasons for not confronting the lies narcissists tell
• What stops you from stepping up to the truth
• Why #Hijackals® lie
• Why you let them
• Big four steps to stop the lies

Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97

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Website: TransformingRelationship.com

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You've likely turned yourself into a pretzel to please a toxic person. That's what they want.

You can stand on your head and spit wooden nickels for a decade, and you cannot please them beyond a hot minute when they really want something for you.

Notice that!

You were discarded. Not your idea. Not your choice. Not your timing.

You're unhappy and focused on what you've lost. That's natural.

BUT, you're out! Being discarded by a narcissist, or a person who narcissistic or sociopathic tendencies, never feels good. But, you can feel much better when you focus on the ten ways to resist the urge to return to a toxic relationship!

Being discarded may have been your worst fear, but look! You're still alive, breathing and all. And, doing all that good stuff in spite of the fact that the #Hijackal, the #narcissist, the #sociopath discarded you. Great start!

Feel the pain, but don't wallow in it. There's a difference. Acknowledge the pain. Give it a name. Recognize the source.

Then, turn around, face forward, and realize that, no matter how you got there, you're out of the emotional abuse! Yay!

The pull to return to a toxic person can be great, overwhelming even. It's what you know. It may be what your early life trained you to believe you deserve. Not true! You deserve SO much more than emotional abuse!

Listen to these ten ways to resist going back to a toxic person, a #Hijackal! Listen again...and, again...and....as many times as necessary to not go back.

You now have the opportunity to be free of ridicule, blame, put-downs, insignificance, and begging for crumbs of affection. Woo-hoo!

best regards,

Rhoberta

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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Why discard hurts so much
• What you can take charge of
• What you actually deserve much more than you have received
• How being discarded can be the best thing ever
• 10 ways to resist returning to a narcissist by focusing on moving forward

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CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Podcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

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You made it! You have ended the relationship with the toxic, difficult person, the #Hijackal!

Good for you! You know what is best for you, and your family.

It takes too long to be truly free from a #Hijackal. (I know because I help people do that all around the world via video conferencing.) And, you've done it.

Or, you've at least moved away from the person physically. Your emotions may take awhile to catch up. That's normal.

So, when you find yourself second-guessing the breakup--because that happens too frequently--I'm giving you six habits to focus on to have the happier, healthier life you want. Pick up your mind when in travels back to #Hijackal Land, and bring it to these six habits. It will help, I promise.

When you've been with a toxic person, toxicity rubs of on you a little. You might be edgy, maybe even a little hyper-vigilant still. Quick to feel angry, or quick to feel defeated. That's normal. What to do? Focus on these six things. (You're getting it, right? These six things are important! )

New habits take practice. You know there is a big difference between talking about something and actually doing it! In that same way, there is a big difference between having information and actually turning it into knowledge. Knowledge is information that you have taken into your body, mind, heart, and soul and it shows up as changed behavior!

Six changes in behavior for you to focus on feel more confident, secure, and healthy. They are simple, AND they work. Enjoy!

best regards,

Rhoberta

Want to talk with me? One-hour introductory session is only $97.

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Support Circle now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. 

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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Refocusing yourself after the toxic person is gone
• Knowing the difference between information and knowledge
• Staying conscious of what you're moving towards
• Six steps on the journey to being who you most want to be
• Having the life you want, and the relationships you value

Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Podcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctor

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

#leavingahijackal #leavinganarcissist #divorcinganarcissist #afterthedivorce #healthyrelationshiphabits #healthyrelationshipwithyourself

#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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