Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships

Are toxic relationships ruining your health? Is your immune system being depleted by constant anxiety?

Walking on eggshells is a stressful way to get exercise. You need to change that and here are some ways.

You can do so much for your own health. Dr. Sundardas Annamalay has made this is lifelong study and his mission is to help you recognize and realize all that you can do to overcome the exhaustion of emotional abuse, and other contributors to health issues. Emotional issues create physical issues. You want relief from both, and that's a very good thing to achieve.

BIG QUESTION: Do you feel energized by being with the other person, or not? That answer will tell you so much. We talk about that.

Early childhood patterns also affect our willingness to accept poor behaviors, or unwillingness to clarify and set boundaries. Even more so, to enforce those boundaries.

Are you ready to feel be better...including your physical health? Tune in and hear these invaluable insights from Dr. Annamalay who is revered throughout Asia for his wisdom, skills, and new ways to live by your own design.

Big hugs,

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• What is meant by "functional medicine"
• Why we have to distinguish between "medicine" and "natural medicine"
• What big health issues are currently being ignored
• The top 3 things to do to promote your own health
• How toxic relationships affect your body
• The difference between being a nice person and being an effective one
• How early childhood patterns can create negative programming and what you can change

GUEST: DR. SUNDARDAS ANNAMALAY

Award Winning Entrepreneur, Best-Selling Author, Strategic Business Mentor, Professor of Natural Medicine and Natural Medicine Practitioner. Dr Sundardas created the Million Dollar Designed Life Formula after working with more than 15,000 individuals from more than 30 countries.

He has shared the stage with some of the most successful entrepreneurs, thought leaders and executive coaches like Bill Walsh and Robert Kiyosaki, to name a few. His client list includes some of the leading Asian actresses and entertainers, diplomats, ambassadors, some of the richest families in Asia, the Middle East, India, and members of the royalty from Malaysia. Organisations include Goldman and Sachs, IBM, as well as South East Asian government bodies like the Ministry of Defence and Education, Singapore as well as the Ministry of Health, Thailand.

Dr. Sundardas has helped companies in the wellness arena generate more than US$25 million in sales by strategic technical positioning. He has worked with diverse industries such as healthcare, engineering, shipping, architecture, restaurants, fresh produce and health food, fashion, copywriting and public relations in the areas of Peak Performance, Personal Branding and Strategic Management.

Dr Sundardas has Asperger's Syndrome and recovered from a near terminal heart failure.

DR. SUNDADAS ANNAMALAY has a gift for you: "Life By Design: How to Design Your Ideal Life To Be Healthy"

Get it here: http://lifebydesign-home.pages.ontraport.net

CONNECT WITH MY GUEST: DR. SUNDARDAS ANNAMALAY

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Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

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You long to be known, seen, heard, acknowledged, approved of and accepted. Those are the very things that a person with narcissistic or anti-social tendencies will not give you. That's how they manipulate you.

You want those things and they pretend, suggest, or promise them. You know now that you're not going to receive them.

I hate to have to be so strong, but it's essential: STOP HOPING!

That person who manipulated and love-bombed you into falling in love with them is a mirage, a charade, a facade, a chameleon. That person is made-up and put on. That's not the real person.

If you keep hoping that that mythical first-date person is real, you'll keep thinking that if only you could find the right formula while making yourself into a pretzel--that person would return. You know that you only see that person now when the Hijackal is really afraid of losing you, or really wanting something you don't want to give them, right?

Sad, but true!

That's why today's episode is SO IMPORTANT! Good people hold out hope that difficult, toxic people will change. It seldom happens....and, I mean REALLY SELDOM! They will make some surface changes for awhile, but their basic nature most often wins out and they go back to their damaging ways.

Yep! That's the bottom line: stop hoping, OK?

Big hugs!

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Why Hijackals cannot be emotionally intimate
• The difference between being proximate and being intimate
• Why you're desire for intimacy is their opportunity to weaponize your vulnerabilites
• Don't mistake the desire for control with the desire to know you better
• Important understanding of the psychological definitions of intimacy
• Why emotional intimacy requires the emotional safety you'll never have around a #narcissist, a @Hijackal

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

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YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Support Circle now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.

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When you're with a toxic person, you recognize that they love to keep you in uncertainty, on edge, and hyper-vigilant. Recognize that?

Do you find your shoulders creeping up to your earlobes when you're around the #Hijackal?

When that is so, you lose energy, and the stress makes decision-making difficult, right? You second-guess yourself. You argue with yourself. You get quickly exhausted, and decisions are postponed.

Today, Mary Goulet is here to offer hope...and strategies. We talk about how to get back in touch with your own feelings, intuition, or gut instinct. That sometimes gets covered up by all the "noise" in a toxic relationship, right?

Mary Goulet says, "Your gut is always a statement: do, don't do, or delay." Let her suggestions get you back in touch with what's best for you, and how let your body tune in and tell you.

Decision-making? Mary says your gut is courage-based. That's good news, for a start!

I think you'll find this to be a very insightful interview. Let me know how it helped by joining in on the Save Your Sanity Facebook Page: https://www.Facebook.com/SaveYourSanityPodcast

Big hugs,

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Why we don't trust ourselves sometimes
• What gets in the way of trusting yourself
• How you can shift from shaky to secure decision-making
• How you can overcome second-guessing
• Why you need to learn to say "no" earlier

GUEST: MARY GOULET

Mary Goulet has been in media since 2002. She is a radio host of The Mary Goulet Show and a co-host on Steve Olsher’s Reinvention Radio and Beyond 8 Figures. Mary has appeared on Dr. Phil, Montel, CBS Early Show, Fox National News and over 50-morning shows across the country.

Mary is an award-winning author; The MomsTown Guide to Getting It All (Hyperion) and It’s All About You, Live the Life You Crave (Simon & Schuster/Free Press). Her popular, signature work is titled Go With Your Gut; How to Make Decisions You Can Trust.

MARY GOULET'S FREE GIFT: Her ebook, Go With Your Gut.

Get your free copy at http://GoWithYourGut.net

CONNECT WITH MY GUEST: MARY GOULET

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Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Support Circle now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.

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So exasperating! Your partner seems like an extra child. Not what you signed up for, right!

And, no amount of pointing out his/her failures, incompetencies, or lack of thought seems to change things, either.

Infuriating!

OK...I understand, but it's definitely not going to help if you are viewing your partner as an extra child. That alone needs your immediate attention!

If you actually treat your partner as an extra child--giving direction, finding fault, ridiculing, shaming, and blaming--your relationship will always be lacking in those three MUST-HAVES: equality, reciprocity, and mutuality. It will always be frustrating, infuriating, and unsatisfying.

And, the bedroom? Going to consistently be contentious. No desire because there's not respect. It's all going to go sideways, and I give you some pointed examples of why in this episode.

So, if you're unhappy in your relationship, it could be that this episode can change all that as you understand the impossible dynamics of parenting your partner as a primary process. Sure, we are occasionally that parental figure that makes the bad go away for each other, that soothes the bruises and bumps. That's great.

It's when the primary attitude of an attempt to be a partner is "It feels like I have an extra child" is in place, then everything else slowly disintegrates.

Listen and I'm sure it will makes sense to you. Good news: this can change!

Big hugs!

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• How you damage your relationship when you act like your partner's parent
• Why you feel resentment when you feel you have to parent your partner
• What 'parenting' your partner may look/sound
• Why behaving like a parent to your partner builds resentment
• Why you don't want to sleep with someone who treats you like a child
• How to see the contrasts and change
• How to change and improve your relationship ...and, get the spark back, too.

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Support Circle now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.

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For women to be in their power does not mean they are seeking power over other humans!

It's an inside job!

Even though women have made strides towards equality for all humans, there are still many ways to address. Today, we're talking about the internal journey of finding our sense of self, getting in touch with how we may not be being our own best friends!

How do you feel when you hear the term, "self-love?" Does it sound like how you feel, or does it sound like something obvious or foreign? Sometimes, I think it has been used to the point that people hearing it don't take it in, so we've addressed that today. And, what it means.

How about women's feminine spiritual power? Intrigued? We explore this, and how we can manifest our true nature through accepting our power.

So much to inspire women in this episode just for them, OR YOU!. Enjoy!

Big hugs,

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• What is self-love? It's sometimes over-used and unclear.
• Have women really come a long way?
• How to recognize whether it's our brains or our bodies that are running our thoughts
• Why and how women have been tricked into competition
• Why it's absolutely imperative that you stop using self-deprecating language
• How and why every woman needs to be in her power, expressing fully

GUEST: AUDREY HOPE

Audrey Hope, D.D. is an award-winning certified addiction therapist and holds a Doctor of Divinity degree, who uses her abilities as a clairvoyant psychic medium to heal patients from trauma.

A multi-talented force in the healing arts for over 20 years, Audrey Hope’s gentle-but-firm approach in addiction and relationships gets to the ‘root of the root’ to solve problems through spiritual modalities as she guides patients to freedom using a new frontier of healing to achieve inner peace.

She has her own practice in the heart of Brentwood, CA, is the host of her weekly YouTube advice show “Hope For Relationships,” and is also an addiction therapist at Seasons In Malibu rehab facility.

Throughout two decades in her field, Audrey has worked with an abundance of celebrities, producers, CEOs, doctors, lawyers, authors, athletes, heirs, and more – helping them cope with their relationship and/or addiction problems.

AUDREY HOPE has no free give for you at this time.

CONNECT WITH MY GUEST: AUDREY HOPE

WEBSITE: https://www.AudreyHope.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/TheAudreyHope/

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/user/audreyhopesrealtv

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Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Support Circle now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. 

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Who wants to live in a pressure cooker?

No one goes out and says, "I want to live with anxiety, hyper-vigilance, stress, and uncertainty. Give me that relationship!"

Well, no one who cares about themselves does, right?

Today, I'm using the contrasts between a slow cooker and a pressure cooker to highlight just what I mean. Most of us have one or the other--maybe, both--in our kitchens. We know what they do.

Have you ever thought about slow cookers and pressure cookers in terms of how relationships start, grow, cook, or burn? It makes it quite clear!

Healthy relationships grow. They're gently creating depth of flavor, slowly.

#Hijackal relationships degrade and love to reduce even the strongest fiber to nothing.

Which relationship sounds better to you? Less heat over more time to savor the flavor? Or, greater heat over less time to break things down?

Are you genuinely captivated by your partner, or feeling controlled and a captive? Big difference!

Think deeply about these points today, even though you may think they are presented in a more lighthearted way. These are important distinctions that can lead to you being more able to discern whether your relationship has hope for being healthy. You need to know that!

Big hugs!

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Healthy relationships get better with time
• Hijackal relationships have too much pressure
• How to tell the difference between healthy relationships and unhealthy relationship
• Nine ways to recognize there is too much pressure, too much anxiety
• How Hijackals trick you into thinking all is well and you are loved
• How to tell if you're in a narcissistic relationship, a controlling relationship, a potentially traumatic relationship

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Support Circle now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. 

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Oh, more pressure! Somehow, the idea is often promoted that you're supposed to be best, most, top, smartest, most effective, most productive, most involved, ever-present parent...in order to be good enough! NO! NO! NO!

Who really told you that you're supposed to be a "SuperMom?"

Who's deciding that?

Do you value what they're up to or how they live?

Do you--should you--care what others think?

Have you examined what "good enough" parenting is FOR YOU?

Big topics worth talking and thinking through! If you don't, you can get caught up in the generalized idea that you're not doing a good enough job of anything! Ever been caught in that "slush bucket?"

Today, Kimberly Lou and I discuss where we get our ideas of what makes a good mother, even a great mother. It may not be what you've accepted, or been told and not examined. Freedom!

Kimberly has a valuable distinction: the difference between creating harmony rather than balance. You'll want to engage with that thought in this episode. She has some other provocative thoughts that will help you clarify your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and choices about parenting.

Oh, and Kimberly knows a few things about toxic relationships, too. Tune in.

Big hugs,

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Recognize that parenting can be crazy-making
• it's OK to realize that you may be feeling burned out as a parent
• How to manage all the balls in the air at your house
• Things to consider when feeling pressed and pressured by parenting
• Why it's important to do your personal emotional work to be the best parent
• Who says you're supposed to be a Super-Mom, anyway!!!

GUEST: KIMBERLY LOU

Integrative Life Coach Kimberly Lou helps "SuperMoms" who are burnt-out from taking on motherhood and a successful career to where they have no time to make room for romance. Kimberly offers life-changing advice to help women balance their life in a healthy way.

Kimberly Lou is an integrative Life and Corporate Mentor who coaches top CEOs, entrepreneurs, celebrities, and world-class athletes around the world. She helps clients accelerate and thrive through mental focus, emotional fitness and physical training.

In addition to Kimberly’s mentoring programs, she is an accomplished author, and a nationally recognized spokesperson for mental health and wellness. With over two decades of experience and extensive education, Advanced Fitness and Certified Wellness Specialist, Kimberly Lou creates attainable solutions using techniques that work at all fitness and wellness levels. Kimberly Lou has helped doctors create programs addressing mental illness, cognitive disabilities, and major addictions, in addition to, facilitating workshops and support groups for clients struggling with cognitive, mental, emotional, drug, and eating disorders.

Kimberly is the author of Becoming Who You're Meant To Be: Eliminate Destructive Patterns And Unlock The Ultimate You.

KIMBERLY LOU has no free gift for you.

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Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

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In a previous episode, I promised to create an episode on my fundamental, absolute MUST-HAVES for a healthy relationship with another adult. Here it is!

Whether that relationship is with your partner (most important), your parent, sibling, or adult children, these three things must be present or you are going to have pain, distress, stress, and resentment. Not good ingredients for a relationship you want to stay in, right?

If you cannot develop, grow, or deepen these three must-haves, or only one person in the relationship wants to, you have big things to think about and big decisions to make. You'll especially have to think this through if you have children who are watching your relationship ...and learning about who they are, how to have a relationship, and what it means to be a man or woman in one!

These foundations underlie every conversation you are likely to have in and about your relationship, too. They are that basic.

Yet, often, you're so busy with the day-to-day incidents and must-do's that they go unaddressed. Too big. Too pervasive. Maybe, too daunting to talk about?

I hope you'll see the value of considering your relationships with your partner, parent, sibling, or adult child in light of these relationship must-haves, and take the time to delve deeply into what is present in your relationship, what you're enabling in your relationship, and what you're settling for.

If you need my help, I'm always here for you. BeAClient.com

Big hugs!

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• The three essentials to having a healthy relationship with another adult
• See why these are must-haves in your relationship with your partner, parent, sibling, or adult child
• Why people overlook the upmost importance of these to the potential for happiness
• Five relationship gifts from my book, Kaizen for Couples, that must be present for the relationship to thrive

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Big leap from Trekkies and Six Days in Roswell to making a film called 'The Truth About Marriage?" I asked Roger Nygard about his fascination with seemingly impossibly deep subjects, and why marriage was his next plunge. You may be surprised by his response.

Roger Nygard is obsessed with unraveling mysteries. Marriage can certainly be one, right?

Curiosity, he believes, is our nature, and he enjoys delving into new explorations to shed light and plummet the depths. Roger says "Happiness is in the process" and we need to be challenged. Again, marriage can be challenging, right?

What inspired Roger to look into the truth of marriage? He says that it was his own failures that caused him to look deeply at what was underneath the surface that he might have missed. Personal experience can shift your thinking in ways that a world of conversation cannot. Roger had those experiences, learned from them, and did what every inquiring mind does: he jumped into the why's, wherefore's, could have's, should have's, and why didn't I's. His movie is the result.

Enjoy this conversation. I certainly did, and let Roger's experiences shortcut your journey.

Big hugs,

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Why a filmmaker of Roger Nygard's reputation chose marriage as his next documentary subject
• What life experiences led him to explore the depths of relationship
• How open-minded inquiry can benefit your marriage
• Roger's thought that "Happiness = certainty" and where it took him
• What part purpose plays in happiness, and how that relates to marriage
• And, what about the Grand Plan???

GUEST: ROGER NYGARD

Director, producer, editor, writer

Roger Nygard has made several award-winning, independent, feature films. His current project, THE TRUTH ABOUT MARRIAGE, focuses on his most challenging topic yet: marriage.

His previous documentary, THE NATURE OF EXISTENCE, asks why are we here, and what are we supposed to do about it? His other documentaries include, TREKKIES and TREKKIES 2, about the most obsessive fans in the Universe, and a compelling look at UFO enthusiasts entitled, SIX DAYS IN ROSWELL. Nygard’s narrative films include HIGH STRUNG, a comedy starring Steve Oedekerk, the action film, BACK TO BACK: AMERICAN YAKUZA 2, and the car-salesman cult-film SUCKERS. He has also edited feature films such as Mike Binder’s comedy-dramas, MAN ABOUT TOWN and BLACK OR WHITE.

ROGER NYGARD is perhaps best known to audiences and critics alike for his highly successful and acclaimed documentary Trekkies about the most obsessive fans in the Universe. Nygard’s previous documentary, The Nature of Existence addressed the impossible subject of the source of the world's philosophies, religions, and belief systems. Nygard has made several award-winning films, including the comedy High Strung, with Steve Oedekerk, Denise Crosby, and Jim Carrey, Back to Back: American Yakuza 2 with Michael Rooker and Bobcat Goldthwaite, Suckers with Daniel Benzali, Louis Mandylor, and Lori Loughlin, and the documentary about UFO fanatics, Six Days in Roswell.

ROGER NYGARD has no free gift for you. Do, though, find and enjoy his movies.

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Being with a #Hijackal is relentlessly difficult, for sure.

Watching how the Hijackal treats your children can be heartbreaking. Today's episode offers insights into the dynamics of having a #Hijackal parent, AND of being the other parent with one. IT'S DIFFICULT!

Children look to each parent as the source of their value, for validation that they deserve to take up space and draw breath on this earth. A Hijackal parent gives a child a very skewed and uncertain view: everything depends on the Hijackal's mood or needs in the moment. The child cannot possibly understand. Things go sideways.

You, as the other parent watching all this, may be feeling doubly hurt and doubly anxious, for yourself and for your children. The Hijackal wants the child to be compliant and meet their narcissistic needs. The child wants the Hijackal parent to like, accept, and approve of them. An immediately negative power dynamic is set up!

How do I protect my child?

How do I support my child?

How do I do this all without incurring further wrath from the Hijackal parent?

On top of all you have to deal with, there's all this. It's no wonder that you are exhausted from getting inappropriate exercise by walking on eggshells and tightropes. It's an almost impossible task. So, today, I'm offering you insights and strategies to support your child, take care of yourself, and intervene in positive ways.

Take a big breath, grab a glass of water, and sit back. This episode will help.

Big hugs!

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• What the child looks for from the difficult, #Hijackal parent
• The impossibility of consistently pleasing a Hijackal
• Validating your own feelings of concern as the other parent with a Hijackal
• Preparing yourself to help your child
• Understanding the dynamics set up in the child with a demanding, unpredictable parent
• Supporting your child in effective ways to make sense of conflicting messages about who they are
• Giving your child back the right to have their feelings, thoughts, needs, and wants
• Help to stop the crazy-making for kids

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

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