Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships

So excited to bring you a guest who talks about Ayurveda again! I've studied it for years and I know the health benefits, for sure.

I met Dr. Atousa Mahdavi at the New Media Summit, and knew she would bring great insights and tips to add to your health and well-being. Who knew then that we'd be in this pandemic situation where anxiety is a constant in most people's lives, even when they lose awareness of it.

Invaluable information to take care of yourself! Enjoy.

Big hugs,

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• How individuals respond to stress in different ways
• What is Ayurveda?
• What is Ayurvedic Psychology?
• The different constitutions (doshas) and how to calm them
• Why Vata dosha needs the most attention in times of stress and anxiety
• How to calm the mind and body

GUEST: Dr. Atousa Mahdavi

Dr. Atousa Mahdavi, is board certified in Integrative medicine and a doctor of chiropractic and ayurvedic medicine and an Ayurvedic Yoga Therapist as well as a certified Hatha yoga Master teacher. She has been in private practice in Beverly Hills, California in the field of holistic medicine, a health and wellness expert, author and speaker, with more than 25 years of hands on clinical experience. She helps people achieve optimal health and wellbeing, vitality and vibrant energy, staying grounded and motivated and productive to be able to enjoy life to its highest potential.

DR. MAHDAVI'S GIFT FOR YOU:

A healthy daily routine and guidelines for healthy eating ebook? https://www.yourvitalitydoctor.com

CONNECT WITH MY GUEST: DR. ATOUSA MAHDAVI

WEBSITE:  https://www.yourvitalitydoctor.com

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CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

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Did you slowly recognize that you were on the receiving end of abuse?

In a relationship that you hoped would improve and you thought you might help?

Have you become entangled with life issues with someone you recognize as dangerous?

Lana's story is powerful. But, that power had to be developed, stepped into, and leveraged to walk away from an abusive relationship. It wasn't easy, or quick. Take inspiration from her journey, and know that even in the most dire situations, you can take life-saving steps, too. You're worth it. Listen in.

Big hugs,

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Personal experience that you may relate to
• Overcoming the fear of leaving and its consequences
• Recognizing the slow progression of abuse
• Why you might not want to call it abusive...at first
• How to get over residual fears
• Knowing why and how to set non-negotiable boundaries

GUEST: LANA WOLFE, author of Like A Moth To A Flame: A Fatal Attraction

Lana Wolfe is a life coach helping others overcome fear and inner resistance. After spending 20 years in accounting, she embarked on a new career as an author, speaker and life coach. Following her near-fatal experience as told in her book, “Like a Moth to a Flame: A Fatal Attraction,” she overcame the trauma and developed the mantra of "fill your bucket before you kick the bucket." She is actively pursuing her passion to help women overcome fear, find inner peace and live the life of their dreams by checking things off their bucket list and live a life without regret. She wants to help people stop living the same-old dull life day after day and start living a fuller life every day.

In pursuit of her own dreams she is checking things off her bucket list such as raft through the Grand Canyon, touring the Redwood Forest, and hiking 14'ers in Colorado. Up next, she is hiking the Pacific Crest Trail.

LANA WOLFE'S GIFT FOR YOU:

ebook: 5 Steps to Fill Your Bucket

CONNECT WITH MY GUEST: LANA WOLFE

WEBSITE: https://www.lanawolfe.com

PODCAST:

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YOUTUBE:

INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/lanawolfe26/

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CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

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If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

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Do you know when you're being lied to? Does your antenna go up?

Or, do you so want to believe the lie that you find a way to justify it?

Liars--particularly Hijackal liars--count on you to believe their lies. It's all part of their need to feel powerful and in control. Don't believe them! Use today's episode to sort out what's really coming at you, and recognize the lies.

You know it never works well to confront a #Hijackal: a person with narcissistic, sociopathic, psychopathic, and/or passive-aggressive tendencies and behaviors. Don't poke #Hijackals. Recognize what's going on. Don't let them think they have you outsmarted.

Big hugs!

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Why Hijackals lie
• How does a person become a liar
• Why passive-aggressive people lie frequently
• Narcissistic people like to tell half-truths
• Beware of people who tell you "Trust me!"
• Gaslighting is lying
• Differences between compulsive liars and pathological liars
• Why it's important to recognize these four kinds of lies in order to stop second-guessing yourself and to stop the crazy-making

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

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What about the state of fatherhood in the U.S. just now? Alec Lace, podcast host of First-Class Fatherhood, has some definite views on what is required. Father of four with a full-time job and a part-time shift with Uber, shares what he has learned talking with men in his car, as well as celebrities in many fields.

In less than two years Alec Lace has soared to the top of the podcasting industry by interviewing some of the most famous people on the planet in order to achieve his vision of changing the narrative of fatherhood and family life through his groundbreaking show, First-class Fatherhood.

What IS NOT happening that needs to happen for fathers to step up?

What IS happening that needs to change?

And, everything in between!

Stimulating discussion on the state of fatherhood, and considerations for shifting into what Alec calls 'First Class Fatherhood."

Do you agree? What are your responses? Love to hear from you.

Big hugs,

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• State of fatherhood today in Alec's view
• Does fatherhood have to involve fear?
• Is fear of your father the same as respect for your father?
• The influence of absent vs. present fathers
• What about poverty and neglect?
• The fatherless crisis
• How important are agreements between parents about rules and boundaries?
• What is too harsh parenting?

GUEST: ALEC LACE, Podcast host of First-Class Fatherhood

Alec Lace is a father of four who, in 2018, launched the now popular podcast, First Class Fatherhood with a vision to change the narrative of fatherhood and family life. The show quickly became one of the top parenting podcasts in America due to Alec interviewing some of the most famous fathers in the world including Dean Cain, Deion Sanders, Tony Hawk, and Dana White.

Because of the show’s popularity Alec was invited to be on the field for the Super Bowl LIII media day in 2019 to interview dads such as Tom Brady, Julian Edelman, and Bill Belichick.

Additionally, our nation's heroes hold a special place in Alec’s heart and on his podcast he has interviewed legendary servicemen such as Navy SEALs Rob O’Neill and Marcus Luttrell, “Black Hawk Down” pilot Mike Durant, Benghazi survivor John Tiegen, and Medal of Honor recipients Ed Byers, Dakota Meyer and Michael Thornton.

On June, 16 2019 Alec himself was interviewed live on Fox & Friends for Father’s Day and has also appeared on several other top podcasts including Order of Man and Life of Dad.

Alec does all of this while continuing to be a dedicated railroad mechanic, a position he has held for twenty years and he even drives Uber on weekends as a way to further spread his message. First Class Fatherhood can be heard each week on iHeart Radio, Spotify, Pandora, and iTunes.

ALEC LACE has no gift for you.

CONNECT WITH MY GUEST: ALEC LACE

WEBSITE: https://firstclassfatherhood.com/

PODCAST: https://firstclassfatherhood.com/

FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/firstclassfatherhood

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TWITTER: http://www.twitter.com/aleclace

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Feeling trapped? Feeling stuck?

Not sure how to move from feeling things are impossible to a new direction?

You need to deeply consider these two things!

When we start a relationship, things are rosy. Or, at least, we think they are. That sets up a dynamic that may go unexamined for too long, and a relationship can become very lop-sided.

Is that how you feel about your relationship?

Today's episode can make a HUGE breakthrough for you if you will think deeply about these two important factors: Idolizing and idealizing. You may not understand they accurately enough. You will after you listen. And, you'll know how to move in a healthier direction for you and your children.

Big hugs!

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• What happened at the start of the relationship makes a big difference
• Why you may idolize a new partner
• How idealization strays far from reality
• Two things you need to examine if you're feeling trapped
• How to get rid of old rose-colored glasses and see your relationship in the true light of today
• How doing these things can get you away from feeling trapped

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

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YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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Too many people--especially, unfortunately, women--feel they are at a disadvantage in seeking a divorce because of financial control.

If you're married to a narcissistic #Hijackal, that will usually be the case. What can you do?

I'm delighted to bring Victoria Lowell to Save Your Sanity to discuss very real concerns people have when wanting to leave a toxic relationship but finances seem too troublesome. Have you ever thought you couldn't leave because of money?

#Hijackals love to take financial control amid the other kinds of control they enjoy. You might find yourself unexpectedly having your name taken off houses or other assets. What do you do? How do you manage? What CAN you do?

Big important discuss today with this financial advocate and coach. Great insights!

Big hugs,

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• What's your financial identity?
• How's your financial infidelity?
• How #Hijackals and others hide assets in divorce
• Is it possible to reverse a power of attorney?
• What if my partner does not make a full financial disclosure during divorce?
• What about pre-nups?
• What steps can a women take to regain control of her financial power?

GUEST: VICTORIA LOWELL

Victoria “Vicky” Lowell is a financial advocate and coach, international bestselling author and the founder of Empowered Worth, a financial-education platform that empowers women to become active participants in their own financial future and well-being. She is also the author of the international bestseller, “Empower your Worth: A Woman’s Guide to Increasing Self-Worth and Net Worth.” Her expertise in this field has led to her hosting a college-planning seminar at the University of Miami this year with several speaking opportunities planned, both locally and nationally, next year.

She was formerly at UBS Financial Services, Inc. where she was a client service associate and later a financial advisor. In late 2018 she left UBS and followed her passion to help women assert themselves fiscally. Empowered Worth was born as a resource for financial coaching geared toward educating women to not only meet their immediate economic needs but attain long-term goals.

Lowell has also worked with organizations such as the S.O.S. Organization at the Sloan School at MIT, the Junior League of Greenwich, Connecticut and locally with Baptist Hospital Foundation. These endeavors helped to foster her desire to help empower women in her community.

VICTORIA LOWELL has a gift for you: Money Stories Worksheet

Get it here http://www.empoweredworth.com/resources

CONNECT WITH MY GUEST: VICTORIA LOWELL

WEBSITE: www.empowerdworth.com

PODCAST: http://www.empoweredworth.com/resources

FACEBOOK: hhttps://www.facebook.com/empoweredworth

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz0iLBTbRg2RC-nqiMmfSRw?view_as=subscriber

INSTAGRAM: httt://instagram.com/empoweredworth

TWITTER: http://www.twitter.com/empoweredworth

LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoria-lowell-67268375/

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Are you wrong every time you turn around? Does your partner--or mother--have to win in every conversation?

Someone who has to be right all the time is verifying, not validating. That can not only be infuriating and frustrating, it's nasty!

Sound familiar? Is there someone in your life who always thinks they have the facts. They remember events better than you. Know what you should do?

That's gaslighting! When another person wants to define your reality for you--tell you what you want, think, need, feel, remember, that's gaslighting. They want to be in control of your experiences and responses in life, and that is taking away a basic right you have!

Oxford dictionary:

Verify: to make sure or demonstrate that something is true, accurate, justified

Validate: to recognize or affirm the worth of a person or their feelings or opinions; cause a person to feel valued or worthwhile

Big difference! Are you asking "What's going on in my relationships?" This could be it. Get tips for making it stop.

Big hugs!

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Why you feel frustrated in your relations
• Understanding the difference between being verified and validated
• Why being verifying is a game of one upmanship
• Knowing how it feels to be validated
• Understand that being validated in a relationship is healthy
• You are not weak or needy to want to be and feel validated in your close relationships

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

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If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

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You'll never have the partnership you want if you continue to see your partner as a project.

You'll never be loved when your partner wants to fix or change you.

BIG PROBLEMS!

The three essential elements in a healthy relationship all need equal consideration for their well-being: 2 Me's and 1 WE! Too often, those elements are not considered equally. Each "ME" wants the floor, and the "WE" takes a constant back seat. That won't work because it will all be a struggle--a power struggle. That creates tension and stress which produce anxiety. No one does well when those things are prevalent!

Today's topic highlights an underlying issue in relationships in distress: one partner sees their partner as a project.

Remember Episode 115 about the 3 MUST-HAVES For a Healthy Adult Relationship? If not, I invite you listen to that episode. If you did, you'll remember that one MUST-HAVE is equality. That's simply not present when you think you have the right to "fix" your partner.

Your partner cannot be a partner when you are treating them like a project. Take stock now. What's going on in your relationship?

I'm always here to help.

Big hugs!

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Why relationships don't work when one partner wants to change the other
• The essential three entities in a relationship
• Why you lose respect for your partner
• 3 big problems that trying to fix your partner creates for you
• 5 damaging thoughts that destroy relationships
• 6 things that need to happen to make a relationship healthy

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You spend many hours a day at work. Whether you go to a business setting or work from home, you will occasionally meet difficult, toxic people who are dedicated to putting you down and wearing you down. Michele PW shares her experience as a young copywriter and how it impacted her for years before she recovered true trust in herself.

Toxic workplaces abound. I've been invited to work with individual toxic managers, and with teams with a toxic member. No one feels good about going to work every day in this environment. Things can change before there are too lasting effects, if you get help early.

Michele talks about her specific experiences with a toxic boss, and how she managed to recover to become a successful business owner herself, and a successful writer. She shares how she became afraid of failing and not living up to the expectations of others.

Sound familiar? Enjoy this episode and take her learning for your own situation.

Big hugs,

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• How even a short time in a toxic workplace can affect you negatively
• The effects Michele experienced after a toxic workplace
• What a past toxic experience can STOP you from doing and that's not a good thing
• How a toxic experience affected Michele's ability and willingness to write
• How she overcame it
• What do you best do if you experience writer's block
• Why to heal a blow to your ego as soon as possible

GUEST: MICHELE PW

Michele PW (Pariza Wacek) is a best-selling, award-winning fiction and nonfiction author. On the fiction side, she writes psychological thrillers/mystery/suspense books and has a popular book blog.

On the nonfiction side, she’s written 5 books in the "Love-Based Business" series that share how to sell more with love and build a solid, profitable business on a foundation of love. In addition, she owns a copywriting and marketing company that has sold $50M worth of products and services.

MICHELE PW has a gift for you: The Writing Toolkit

Get it here :https://www.lovebasedbiz.com

CONNECT WITH MY GUEST: MICHELE PW

WEBSITE: [email protected]

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LINKEDIN: https://linkedin.com/in/michelepw

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WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

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You know that look, that jerky look of superiority that #Hijackals give you? I call it The Hijackal Smirk. It's that look of disdain, disrespect, and "I'm superior and you are a fool" that Hijackals are infamous for. Got it?

Contempt is lethal, hurtful, demoralizing, and a much deeper emotion that fleeting ones that we all have during the day. It is more complex.

Contempt is the opposite of empathy and compassion.

Contempt actually invalidates others: suggests that they have no good right to take up space or draw breath except to do my bidding. Have you ever felt that from your partner, parent, ex, or sibling? That's contempt.

I like the great thought that Tim Otten put into his paper for Tilburg University on "Conceptualizing Contempt." His final conclusion for a definition of contempt was:

"[Contempt is] a negative feeling with a downward social comparison wherein one feels superior and judges the other as inferior. One thinks of the other as incompetent, worthless, and one has no respect or appreciation for the other. This goes accompanied by behavior aimed to socially exclude and derogate the other."

YUCK! You don't deserve to be treated that way. If this sounds at all familiar, let's talk soon and sort this out. (P.S. Your kids deserve a better model, too. right?)

Big hugs!

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Why contempt is lethal, hurtful and demoralizing
• How to recognize contempt
• How disgust, anger, disdain, and disrespect add up to contempt
• Contempt can include irrational responses to other groups of people
• Contempt is constant underlying hostility
• The Gottman Institute, 1993 - "Contempt is the best predictor of divorce." Find out why.
• Contempt can be linked to racism and prejudice
• 7 Ways Hijackals Treat You With Contempt - Recognize these?

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Support Circle now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. 

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