Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships

Many times, people fail to realize the impact of their emotional health on their physical health. They are more likely to recognize the impact of physical health on emotional health. That's often because we don't give full attention and value to our "invisible wounds."

Emotional toxicity--living with abuse, childhood trauma, chronic stress and anxiety--directly affects your physical health. Yes, it may do so slowly and it creeps up on you, but it's happening all the same.

Dr. Heather Herington says, "C-PTSD (complex post-traumatic stress disorder) is adult AIDS." Intriguing idea! We talk about this in some depth in this episode regarding inflammation, the brain, stress, and the workings of the body.

Dr. Heather and I share stories of toxic relationships and how they shaped our lives. See how that matches with what you've experienced. It could be similar...and we share the stories of our healing, too.

This could be a VERY important episode that could start you on an insightful healing path. I hope so.

Big hugs,

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• The impact of trauma emotionally and physically
• The value of combining healing modalities
• How emotional toxicity stays in the body until purposefully removed
• How mental health, emotional health, and physical health intersect
• Why we are sometimes unaware of, or reluctant to, attend to our invisible wounds
• How your childhood informs a toxic relationship
• Caring for invisible wounds

GUEST: DR. HEATHER HERINGTON

Dr Heather Herington has been a naturopathic physician since 1987. Early in her practice the Archdiocese requested treatment for a woman sexually abused by a priest who wanted drugless therapy. She held retreats on an island and developed her two-pronged approach - balance the biochemistry naturally and tell (or revise) the story through the expressive arts. An engaging speaker and astute workshop leader, she also writes essays, novels, librettos, and creates radio plays based on challenging health conditions that demand a true body-mind investigation. Her radio play, Dr Graves, We Healed Your Disease came from her own experience.

Dr. Herington is the author of the new book, Surviving A Viral Pandemic: Through The Lens Of A Naturopathic Medical Doctor. Available at Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Surviving-Viral-Pandemic-Through-Naturopathic/dp/1735630802/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=herington+surviving+a+viral+pandemic&qid=1601611420&sr=8-1

GIFT FOR YOU: 

A technique using the five senses to track feelings to better understand their source.

https://drheatherherington.com

CONNECT WITH HEATHER

WEBSITE:  https:/drheatherherington.com

PODCAST: 

FACEBOOK:  https://www.facebook.com/drheatherherington

YOUTUBE:  https://www.youtube.com/heatherherington

INSTAGRAM: 

LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin/drheatherherington

TWITTER:  https://www.twitter/drheather2

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Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Support Circle now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. 

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#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Because you are good, kind, compassionate, or pleasing person, you may not realize the ways in which you are enabling a narcissist to continue behaving badly. You know that you cannot stop their behavior, but you can take positive steps to stop enabling their behavior, and take your own power back. Listen in for the how-tos! 

In any ways are you too often rationalizing, justifying, or making excuses for the controlling and manipulative behaviors of a #Hijackal, a #narcissist? Recognizing that is an excellent starting point!

According to the Oxford dictionary, an enabler is a "person who makes something possible, who encourages or enables negative or self-destructive behavior in another." In all honesty, do you do that? Is it just easier than fighting with them, or being perceived as finding fault. I understand that, for sure.

Are you ready to take the first steps to stop enabling a relentlessly difficult person who simply wants to win, and tread on you? I hope so. You'll find encouragement in this episode.

Big hugs!

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• What it is to be an enabler
• Why you might be an enabler
• The problems with rationalizing, justifying, and making excuses for poor behavior
• Why enabling hurts everyone
• Ways in which you might be enabling that you may not think of in that way
• 9 steps to stopping, to withdrawing from enabling

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Support Circle now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. 

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Do you own your own power? If you've been worn down, torn down, or put down in a toxic relationship, that might not be how you feel right now. Make it a goal, and listen in to today to hear new insights on shifting away from limiting beliefs and untrue thoughts about yourself.

My guest, Diane Forster says, "Sometimes you need to take a step back so you can shift forward." In this episode, we explore the shifts possible to move from negativity to a more positive state of mind, from toxicity to healthier ways of being.

Big hugs,

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• What Diane Forster means by "intentional living"
• Why Intentional Living is even more important in our world now than ever
• What it means to "own your power"
• Dealing with uncertainty
• Breaking goals into small steps and intentions
• Shifting negative emotions to more positive states of mind

GUEST: DIANE FORSTER

DIANE FORSTER is an Award-Winning Inventor, Best Selling Author, TEDx Speaker, TV Host, Podcaster, Intentional Living Expert and Re-Invention Specialist. She works with clients privately and helps you clear away mindset blocks and limiting beliefs that can block you from reaching your full potential in business, life and relationships.

Diane is the CEO and Founder of I HAVE TODAY. She is the best-selling author of “I HAVE TODAY: Find Your Passion, Purpose and Smile...Finally!” and “Reach Your Greatness...Top Thought-Leaders Share Their Secrets for Living an Extraordinary Life!” Her TV Show along her Podcast, “I HAVE TODAY with Diane Forster” and all her other products/programs help people live enriched, empowered, inspiring lives through their transitions, to reinvent themselves.

Diane’s career began in advertising and TV sales, including DISNEY/ABC. She is also the inventor of The SPIFTER, a fun kitchen tool that won an INNOVATION AWARD at the International Housewares Show in Chicago. Diane has been featured on ABC, QVC, The Chicago Tribune, San Diego Voyager, Business News Daily and many other TV, Radio and Podcast shows. She has written articles for Inventor’s Digest Magazine and writes an inspiring weekly blog.

Diane is a mother of twins and lives in San Diego. Her mission is to see that 1 BILLION people who don’t know their self-worth discover their true divinity, power and purpose.

GIFT FOR YOU: 

Money Mantra Meditation: https://www.dianeforster.com/moneymantra

CONNECT WITH DIANE FORSTER

WEBSITE:  https:/dianeforster.com

PODCAST: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-have-today-with-diane-forster/id1440222759

FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ihavetodaywithdianeforster

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/c/IHaveTodaywithDianeForster?sub_confirmation=1

INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/dianeforsterofficial

LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dianeforsterofficial

TWITTER: https://www.twitter.com/dforsterofficial

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Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Support Circle now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. 

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Never underestimate the effect of having a narcissistic parent or partner! Resist the urge to downplay the verbal and emotional abuse. You're not supposed to be abused...by anyone!!! Today, I'm sharing some ways to recognize your own trauma, so you can take steps away from it...whether you leave or not. 

Shahida Arabi, talking about childhood abuse and trauma, wrote in her article, What It's Like To Be A Complex Trauma Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse:

"Survivors carry a sense of toxic shame, helplessness, and a feeling of separateness from others, of being different and defective due to trauma."

If you have experienced childhood abuse and/or trauma, you are more likely to attract a potentially abusive partner. Sad news, I know. And, at some deeper levels, you may be "comfortably uncomfortable" with it, at least for a while.

It's important to recognize your own trauma, and then to work it through so that you are no longer operating from it subconsciously. Today's episode will definitely help.

Big hugs!

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• How trauma interferes with your brain, learning, decision-making, and memory
• Why you don't associate current issues with past trauma
• What trauma bonds are and how they keep you trapped
• Signs of past trauma
• Recognizing trauma for what it is
• Understanding the impact of trauma now and from the past

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Support Circle now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. 

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#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest 



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Hijackals®, those relentlessly difficult, toxic people, have both a need and a want to make you always feel not good enough. Understand why and learn to respond in empowering ways, and that's a very good start! 

Nothing you do, say, or are will ever be good enough...unless they want something from you. Then, they love-bomb you, and the person you fell in love with returns--for a hot minute! You know I've said many times in these episodes that the person you fell in love with was the Love-bomber. The person you are having problems with is the real person. Sad, but true!

So, don't be listening another minute to a #Hijackal telling you that you don't measure up. Don't let a Hijackal put your down, wear you down, or tear you down for another second. Today, I'm laying out why they behave as they do so that you can clearly recognize it.

Then, SEVEN things you can quietly do to start pulling yourself up, no matter how hard the Hijackal wants to push you down!

Big hugs!

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Why #Hijackals have unrealistic expectation
• How & Why narcissists and others will never allow you to feel good enough
• The abject entitlement of toxic people with traits like narcissists, sociopaths, and other Hijackals
• Why not and how not to lose yourself in a narcissist's expectations
• The pairs of opposites you'll face when you're with a Hijackal
• SEVEN ways you can pull yourself up again when a toxic person has pushed you down
• How to take back your power

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Support Circle now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. 

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#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest 



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When you've been hurt, it's natural to want to get the hurt out by telling your story. There's a point, though, when that needs to be replaced by your new life story. Tonya Carter has walked through the hurt, reconstructed her story, and helps others see the value and walk through it, too. Powerful step!

Author of Divorce Your Story, Tonya Carter wrote:

"Once we understand that the only person we have full control over is ourselves, then life becomes simple."

Listening to this conversation with Tonya can help you see the path to recovering from the pain of the story into another empowering stage and story. Letting go of your story opens you to new views, perspectives, and possibilities that you may not have considered. Get those insights now.

Big hugs,

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Hear Tonya Carter's story of leaving a toxic relationship
• What she means by "divorce your story"
• Is shame and guilt always present in divorces?
• Why its important to stop wanting to fix your partner
• How to leave struggle behind
• Why it's important to reconsider your life and see endless possibilities

GUEST: TONYA CARTER

Tonya Carter is a relationship coach that specializes in helping women navigate through the process of uncoupling by providing support, advice, resources and tools that will help mitigate interruptions in their business, work performance and household obligations.

She has a book titled “Divorce Your Story: A Woman’s Guide to Heal & Thrive after Divorce”, a podcast “The ReInvent U Podcast” and facilitates a “12 week T.H.R.I.V.E Course” that walks women through the process of overcoming divorce and healing.

She’s resides in Atlanta with her two children.

GIFT FOR YOU: 

7 Core Affirmations Guide https://mailchi.mp/decc3e18aae7/affirmationguide

CONNECT WITH TONYA CARTER:

WEBSITE:  https://tonyacarter.com

PODCAST: https://anchor.fm/tonyacarter

FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/mstonyaspeaks

YOUTUBE:  https://bit.lyu/2t7ZtBj

INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/mstonyaspeaks

LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mstonyacarter

TWITTER: 

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Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Support Circle now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. 

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Divorce is difficult for children, no matter what the reasons or circumstances. When you leave a #Hijackal--a relentlessly difficult person, a narcissistic person, a toxic person--you have so much more to consider. #Hijackals like to keep you in court, give you as little as possible, and want to take as much as possible. You know that.

So, how can you focus on the children while balancing all that you have to also attend to? Today's episode with Dr. Larry Waldman will help with that. Kids get in the "loyalty squeeze" between divorcing parents. It's tough. They want both of you, even if one of you treats them badly. Get this expert's insights and advice.

Need my help to walk through the muddle? Start here. BeAClient.com

Big hugs,

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Why Dr. Waldman believes divorce is prevalent
• What second marriages are likely to fail
• Triggering abandonment in children
• What children learn when parents divorce
• How to reduce trauma for a child of divorce
• Why you need to return your attention to the children rather than letting your ex drain all the air out of you

GUEST: DR. LARRY WALDMAN

Dr. Waldman is a recently semi-retired certified school psychologist and licensed clinical, forensic psychologist in Phoenix, Arizona. He conducted a highly successful private practice of 45 years working with children, teens, parents, couples, and adults in a solution-focused manner. He also consulted with family, personal injury, immigration and estate planning attorneys. His BS in Education/Psychology was from the University of Wisconsin; his MS in School Psychology was from the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee; his Ph.D. in Educational/School Psychology was earned at Arizona State University; and his Diplomate (ABPP) was received in 2003.

Waldman was the past president of the Maricopa Psychological Society, the Director of Psychological Services for Charter Psychiatric Hospital of Glendale and was an “Official Guide” (top expert) on Parenting for SelfGrowth.com. He continues as a Medical Consultant for the Social Security Office in Phoenix, an adjunct graduate professor in the Counseling Department for the University of Phoenix, and serves on the professional advisory board of Stepping Stones of Hope, a charitable organization serving children whom have lost a parent. Waldman is the co-chair of the Early Career Psychologists Committee with the Arizona Psychological Association (AzPA). He is also certified by the American Council on Exercise (ACE) as a (senior) fitness specialist.

Dr. Waldman trained as a public speaker. His signature presentations are: The Business of Private Practice—The Graduate Course You Never Had and Teaching Parents to Parent. He has made over 150 paid presentations in his career to attorneys, chiropractors, psychologists, family therapists, counselors, social workers, school psychologists and school counselors. To the community Waldman speaks on parenting, marriage, stress, depression and anxiety, wellness, grand parenting and psychotherapy. His seminars are organized, practical and entertaining—offering “edutainment.”

GIFT FOR YOU: 

CONNECT WITH DR. LARRY WALDMAN:

WEBSITE:  https://topphoenixpsychologist.com

PODCAST: 

FACEBOOK: http://www.facebook.com/larrywaldmanphd

YOUTUBE:  

INSTAGRAM: 

LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/larrywaldmanphd

TWITTER: 

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Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Support Circle now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. 

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SO annoying! You want to be in relationship with a grown-up and the petulant child keeps showing up instead. Today, I'm diving into what's behind their self-centered world views and warped emotional growth patterns. Better yet, I'll share at least 6 things you can take action on to empower yourself! 

#Hijackals®, my term for the relentlessly difficult people who hijack relationships for their own purposes and then scavenge them for power, status, and control, confuse their desire for something with their right to take it. Have you experienced that?

#Hijackals primary need is to win in all circumstance, with all people, about everything. They'll even do that with their children! Sad. Nasty!

These difficult people do not like to be told "No" in any form, or in any form approximating "no," either. They are "partial adults" who quickly descend into being petulant children.

Big hugs!

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• How Hijackals get stuck emotionally
• What "partial adults" don't like to do....think: work, pay bills, stop playing video games, be inconvenienced, etc.
• The effects of never learning to collaborate or cooperate
• Just a petulant child behavior, or are they anti-social? Oops!
• How partial adults are passive-aggressive
• SIX, yes 6, most important first steps to consider before handling #Hijackal petulance and childish rages

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

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Ever feel too tired to even try to think your way out of a paper bag?

Then, you may see thinking your way out of a toxic relationship as insurmontable on your worst days.

Today, my guest, Robert MacPhee, and I will help you find the energy, courage, and skills to step out of mental exhaustion as well as emotional exhaustion. When you can count on your improved decision-making strategies, you're more likely to feel more confident in your decisions. Listen and use these new insights and tactics to lift yourself up, and make better decisions in favor of yourself and your children.

Big hugs,

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Why it's important to focus on the decision-making process
• What "decision fatigue" is and how it may work against you
• How you can get stuck in a comfortably uncomfortable spot and why you need to move
• How making excellent decisions impacts relationships
• How improving decision-making can help you escape a toxic relationship
• How not to have regrets after making a decision

GUEST: ROBERT MACPHEE

Robert MacPhee is a leadership coach and consultant. He is the former Director of Training for Jack Canfield, (Chicken Soup for the Soul, The Success Principles), a Founding Member of the Transformational Leadership Council, a Co-Founder of the Southern California Association of Transformational Leaders, the author of the “Manifesting for Non-Gurus” book and partner journal and the creator of the Excellent Decisions approach to effective leadership.

Robert teaches people how to thrive, achieve at a very high level and be truly happy,by making decisions and taking actions driven by their vision and values rather than all of the stress and pressure we are faced with in today’s world.

Ancient Greek Definition of Happiness: “The experience of joy while in pursuit of your potential.”

GIFT FOR YOU: Video explaining how change works and why people experience resistance even when they are pursuing a goal that they KNOW is good for them.

www.excellentdecisions.com/joy

CONNECT WITH ROBERT MACPHEE

WEBSITE:  www.ExcellentDecisions.com

PODCAST: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/excellent-decisions/id1439129373

FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/excellentdecisions/

YOUTUBE:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh-4yWBXQAwOPTWP8NYuWuA?view_as=subscriber

INSTAGRAM: 

LINKEDIN:https://www.linkedin.com/in/macpheerobert/

TWITTER: 

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Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Support Circle now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. 

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You never feel safe. You're always wondering when you'll be the victim of something sneaky, nasty, or blatantly wrong. You can't quite put your finger on what it is, but it's impacting your health, self-esteem, self-confidence, and the lives of your children. It may well be ambient abuse.

Good people--people with empathy and good hearts--are most likely to be preyed on my emotional vampires, emotional terrorists. Those are other names for #Hijackals. Of course, Hijackals® is my term for the relentlessly difficult, toxic people who hijack relationships for their own purposes, and scavenge them for power, status, and control. Unless you are a mental health professional, you cannot diagnose someone with a personality disorder. But, you sure can talk about the patterns, traits, cycles, and behaviors of Hijackals, right?

Learn these ten ways to recognize ambient abuse, and take note of it. It's real. It's happening. And, if it's happening at your house, you want to see it clearly, and make good decisions as to what your next best steps are. Start with the ideas in this episode!

Want to talk with me? New clients can use this one-time, one-hour offer at BeAClient.com

Big hugs!

Rhoberta

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• What is meant by "ambient abuse"
• Why it's so difficult to recognize ambient abuse
• How both covert narcissists and overt narcissists use ambient abuse
• Crazy-making aspects of emotional abuse, ambient abuse
• 10 clear ways to recognize ambient abuse
• Once you see it, you can track it...and recognize how real it is
• Empowering changes you can make to take back your power in the face of abuse

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.

FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Support Circle now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. 

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