Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships

Male and female children are differently treated--and affected--by having a narcissistic mother. SO many things you may never have thought much about!

This episode will help you think in different ways about the long-term effects that having a Hijackal mother could have had on your sense of self, your self-confidence, your resilience...AND on your relationships. Use this episode to help you uncover hidden pieces SO you can turn them around and feel clearer and stronger.

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• Narcissistic mothers treat their sons and daughters differently\
• Why you may have learned to have no needs...or deny the ones you have
• How you were mothered shifts your responses in relationship
• The impact of lowering your expectations of having your needs met
• Why it's important to purposefully examine what happened to you...and its impact

I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

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Unless they want something badly, narcissists want you to be in emotional chaos. In fact, they want you to feel less than and inadequate. Back-handed and blindsiding, they do their best to keep you off center and uncertain.

Learn about toxic shame and how it may be playing out in your inner dialogue and in your relationship with a narcissistic parent and/or partner. See it so you can stop it!

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• What is toxic shame?
• How is toxic shame different from "normal" shame?
• How do I know if I've experienced toxic shame?
• Why narcissists are so likely to pass along the toxic shame they live beneath
• Why everything threatens a narcissist
• What narcissist do with toxic shame and why you need to know so you can avoid it

I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

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New! Your questions are the focus for this episode. Narcissistic or not so much? What are you wondering about?

Recognizing the patterns, traits and cycles that ARE narcissistic is wise...AND so is discerning what is NOT narcissistic. Ask your questions in the chat and I'll answer them as clearly as I can.

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• Questions from audience about narcissistic traits
• Are alcoholics likely to be narcissistic?
• Do narcissists often have alcoholic tendencies?
• What about a nitpicky boss?
• When a man frequently cuts me off mid-sentence, is that a narcissistic?

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Rhoberta

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TRIANGULATION. See It. Say No, Step Away,. Understanding what triangulation really is allows you to see it more clearly and step away more readily. Get the inside scoop on this in your life. Once you see it, you can do something about it. You'll feel SO much better when you do.

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• What triangulation is
• Why narcissistic people use triangulation
• How to recognize the abuse of triangulation
• How to step away, and say NO more often
• Taking back your power in small ways from a narcissistic relationship

You often feel the triangulation before your recognize what's happening. A twisted story about you comes to you, and you're tempted to think it's a misunderstanding. When it comes from a narcissistic source, it's usually very purposeful; intended to confuse, concern, and create chaos.

Does this sound familiar?

Learn about the purposes of triangulation and how to catch it faster; how to redirect it and reduce the confusion.

I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

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Narcissists HATE to hear "NO!" You don't want to be a pretzel or a doormat, so you NEED to say NO when you mean it.

Overtime, a Hijackal® may wear you down and try to get what they want by any means. How do you make NO mean NO...and make it stick? You already know how little a Hijackal® wants to be denied. A "NO" means that to them and they don't take it happily...or lying down.

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• Understand what a "NO" signals to a Hijackal
• Why narcissists hate haring "NO"
• What you can do to become assertive
• Practicing saying "NO"
• Making it stick require sticking with it

I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

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It's all rosy, dreamy, and forever in the beginning...until it's not! You try and try to recapture interest, regain emotional intimacy, and re-examine every inch of your mental, physical, emotional self, and still the connection is intermittent. That's because narcissists--all Hijackals--create situationships NOT relationships.

You NEED the clarity of this distinction to really accept the realities of a Hijackal relationship. It helps a lot! Calibrate if you're settling for a situationship. Great place to start!

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• Why it's important to distinguish between a relationship and a situationship
• 25 ways relationships are different from situationships....AND situationships will seldom become relationships
• Unsettling things you need to know--even if you don't want to know--to clarify why your supposed "relationship" never feels fully OK
• Can a situationship become a relationship? (Hint: rarely, if it's with a narcissistic Hijackal....AND I MEAN VERY RARELY!

I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

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Having a Hijackal adult child is confusing, infuriating, disappointing, and frustrating among many other things. (And, it's worse when your child creates children!) What you DON'T do is as important as what you do. Listen to this episode to hear 21 things to think about right away. If you can refrain from doing these 21 things, you'll be empowered and no longer feel like a hostage to the Hijackal's bad behavior.

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• Why learning to say no to a Hijackal is absolutely essential
• No matter what old patterns you may have established, they can change
• How Hijackals® want to insist that their bad behavior (if they ever admit they have any) is YOUR FAULT
• Why these 21 things are HUGE and might take a while to put in place....AND, YOU'RE WORTH IT!
• How you can give your life away to a Hijackal and why that's a very bad idea

I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

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You may not think about it like that, AND, it's true. Narcissists ARE Revenge-Seekers. Whether the revenge is subtle or obvious, small or huge, it's still revenge. Once you see what I mean, you'll see it clearly in your relationship...and, I hope you won't un-see it! It's nasty.

Revenge is the action of inflicting hurt or harm on someone for an injury or wrong you think they caused you. Hijackals® sometimes don't wait for you to do anything at all. There's just blame you anyway. Familiar? Yes, so they can be pursuing revenge for some slight they made up in their head while driving home. And, they believe their revenge is justified because they convinced themselves of the slight or threat...whether it happened or not! Yes, it IS nasty!

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• What revenge is
• Why Hijackals use it
• Why you may have absolutely NO idea what they are upset about yet you're the one who is being discounted, put-down, dismissed, and violated
• How revenge relates to projection
• How projection works
• The third piece of the puzzle: rejection ....and around it goes again!

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Rhoberta

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You can get terrible stuck--for a very long time--by buying into a partner's potential. You can see how it could be, so you hope it will be. There's the mistake. See the differences today so you can make healthier decisions right away.

Open your mind to the idea that you keep buying into promises that never materialize. Is that possible? When you step back and look at the patterns, it's often the case when dealing with Hijackals®, or other narcissistic people. They'll tell you anything to get you hooked in this moment, promise you so much. Does it ever happen? Honestly, no, right?

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• Why potential is not enough
• Buying potential can bankrupt you
• Being in denial about a partner or parent's manipulations
• Ways to tell if you are stuck on a partner's potential rather than seeing their reality
• Getting clear that things are not going to change in a positive way with a narcissistic person

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Rhoberta

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It's confusing. You see what you think are loving behaviors. Then, you start wondering, but give a narcissist the benefit of the doubt. Then, you're in a pattern where things have gone lop-sided, pear-shaped, and somewhat south before you realized that you've confused being used for being loved. SO IMPORTANT TO SEE THE DIFFERENCE! Listen in.

You SO want to believe it is love. I understand that, however, you also don't want to be taken in by someone who never intends to love you in any meaningful way, right? That's why this episode is essential to listen to...even if you don't really want to. Nobody WANTS to admit they are being emotionally abused, but you can't change what you can't--or won't--see, right?

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• t0 clear ways narcissists use you
• See the distinctions between being love and being used
• Importance of recognizing when you're being used
• Hijackals® have uses for you, not love to give you

I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

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