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Secondhand Therapy episodes
- I Spoke to My Dead Mom Through a Psychic | #121
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BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored
If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/
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We called a psychic medium to talk to our dead loved ones… and it got real.
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Theme Music: Jamie Franks
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy48 min - Codependency Is Controlling Your Relationships (And You Don’t See It) | #120
Support the boys:
PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod
MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!
BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored
If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/
Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored
http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources
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Codependency, people-pleasing, and losing yourself in love — how to break the cycle and build real intimacy.
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BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected]
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Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti
Theme Music: Jamie Franks
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy59 min - Are You Addicted to Misery? Dry Drunk Behavior, Earned Love & Why Happiness Feels Impossible | #119
Support the boys:
PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod
MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!
BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored
If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/
Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored
http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources
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Exploring dry drunk behavior, earned love, and why misery can feel safer than happiness.
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BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected]
Follow us here:
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[email protected]
818-850-2448
PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105
Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti
Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy57 min - If the World Ended in 14 Days… Who Would You Choose? | Attachment, Self-Sabotage & Seeking a Friend | #118
Support the pod:
PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com
BetterHelp:
If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored
If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/
The Maca Team:
Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.
http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy
promo code: bearcub for 10% off
Light Phone:
Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.
https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn
promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III
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What would you do if the world was ending in 14 days?
This week on Secondhand Therapy, we break down Seeking a Friend for the End of the World through a therapy lens — and it gets personal fast. We talk about attachment styles, fear of abandonment, self-sabotage, purpose, loneliness, and the urge to unblock your ex when mortality hits.
Would you numb out with chaos… or search for connection? Would you end it with family, your partner, or alone? And why does control feel safer than vulnerability?
This episode dives into:
- Anxious vs avoidant attachment
- Preemptive abandonment
- Fear of being “too much”
- Existential anxiety & meaning
- Why we sabotage love before it can hurt us
It’s funny. It’s uncomfortable. It’s deeply honest.
If the clock were ticking — who would you choose?
BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected]
Follow us here:
http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod
http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us:
[email protected]
818-850-2448
PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105
Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti
Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy53 min - Why Happiness Feels Unsafe | #117
Support the pod:
PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com
BetterHelp:
If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.
If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/
The Maca Team:
Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.
http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy
promo code: bearcub for 10% off
Light Phone:
Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.
https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn
promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III
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Why does happiness feel dangerous? In this episode of Second Hand Therapy, we break down fear, sadness, guilt, and the belief that joy invites punishment. Using the feelings wheel, therapy insights, and personal stories about grief, superstition, self-sabotage, and emotional isolation, we explore why letting your guard down can feel unsafe—and how protecting yourself might actually be keeping you stuck.
This episode covers emotional programming, fear of success, pride vs. gratitude, inherited coping mechanisms, and why some of us feel more comfortable in misery than peace. Dark humor, honesty, and introspection—this is not therapy, but it is real.
BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected]
Follow us here:
http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod
http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us:
[email protected]
818-850-2448
PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105
Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti
Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy57 min - Why I Know the Right Thing — and Still Don’t Do It | #116
Support the boys:
PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod
MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp:
If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.
If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/
The Maca Team:
Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.
http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy
promo code: bearcub for 10% off
Light Phone:
Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.
https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn
promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III
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Why do we avoid the things we know are good for us?
In this episode of Second Hand Therapy, we unpack the frustrating loop of knowing the right choice—and still doing the opposite. From routines, gym habits, food decisions, and productivity, to deeper conversations about permission, self-worth, and why “doing the task” isn’t the same as experiencing it.
We talk about:
- All-or-nothing thinking and overwhelm
- Why productivity becomes identity
- Permission, avoidance, and self-sabotage
- Therapy insights on routine, ADHD, and motivation
- The difference between function and joy
- Why caring for yourself feels harder than it should
This is a raw, funny, and uncomfortable conversation about self-discipline, self-compassion, and why taking care of yourself isn’t as simple as “just doing it.”
We’re not therapists. This is not professional advice.
BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected]
Follow us here:
http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod
http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us:
[email protected]
818-850-2448
PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105
Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti
Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy59 min - Anxiety With No Trigger, Body Image Shame & “Higher Self” | #115
Support the boys:
PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod
MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp:
If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.
If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/
The Maca Team:
Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.
http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy
promo code: bearcub for 10% off
Light Phone:
Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.
https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn
promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III
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What does it mean when anxiety shows up with no trigger? In this episode of Second Hand Therapy, we talk about living with anxiety in the body, learning to stop fighting it, and the frustration of being told to “just calm down.”
We unpack vulnerability, validation, and why some people need their feelings acknowledged out loud—while others don’t. The conversation turns to body image, weight gain, food guilt, perfectionism, and why moderation feels impossible for some people.
We also explore parts work, routines vs survival mode, and the pressure of the “higher self” mindset—when motivation turns into self-shame.
This episode is an honest, funny, and uncomfortable look at anxiety, mental health, food, and learning how (and when) to show up for yourself.
BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected]
Follow us here:
http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod
http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us:
[email protected]
818-850-2448
PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105
Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti
Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy59 min - Being "Nice" is Ruining Your Life | #114
Support the boys:
PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod
MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp:
If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.
If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/
The Maca Team:
Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.
http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy
promo code: bearcub for 10% off
Light Phone:
Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.
https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn
promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III
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Why is it so hard to say “I don’t know”? Why does being liked feel like survival?
In this episode of Second Hand Therapy, we unpack people-pleasing, fear of failure, and the invisible ways our parents shape our inner critic. One host shares what therapy is revealing about his need to be “nice,” his terror of messing up, and how his relationship with his mother quietly programmed his fear of rejection.
We talk about:
- People-pleasing as a trauma response
- Fear of failure and perfectionism
- Why being “nice” blocks real connection
- Feelings vs facts (and the stories we tell ourselves)
- Productivity as a substitute for self-worth
- Learning to say no without guilt
- Wanting your parent to be more — and turning that disappointment inward
This episode explores how abandonment fear, emotional control, and self-worth get tangled together — and what it looks like to start unlearning those patterns in real time.
We’re not therapists. We’re just two people in therapy, talking honestly about what we’re learning.
If you struggle with people-pleasing, approval-seeking, fear of being disliked, or feeling like you’re never enough, this episode will hit close to home.
BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected]
Follow us here:
http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod
http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us:
[email protected]
818-850-2448
PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105
Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti
Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy1 hr 6 min - Rage vs Doing the Right Thing | #113
Support the boys:
PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod
MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com-BetterHelp:
If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.
If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/
-The Maca Team:
Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.
http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy
promo code: bearcub for 10% off
-Light Phone:
Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.
https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn
promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III
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When someone yells at your mom: anger, boundaries, emotional control, and doing the right thing.
What do you do when you hear someone raise their voice at your mom — and everything in your body wants to explode?
Today, we unpack a tense holiday moment that forces a deeper conversation about anger, boundaries, family dynamics, and emotional regulation. Louie shares a confrontation with his mother’s partner, before reflecting on how rage, fear, and protection instincts show up — even after years of therapy.
We also talk about:
- Navigating a complicated relationship with your mother
- Why “doing the right thing” can still feel awful
- Anger vs. self-control and what emotional maturity actually looks like
- Loneliness during the holidays and the push-pull of wanting connection
- Learning to validate yourself instead of tearing yourself apart
- What it means to be proud of yourself for the first time
This episode is about breaking old patterns, choosing accountability over aggression, and learning how to sit with uncomfortable emotions instead of acting them out.
We’re not therapists. We’re just two people in therapy, talking through what we’re learning in real time.
If you’re struggling with family conflict, holiday depression, anger issues, or feeling behind in life, this one’s for you. Thanks for being here... Secondhand Therapy.
BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected]
Follow us here:
http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod
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[email protected]
818-850-2448
PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105
Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti
Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy57 min - Having Emotionally Immature Parents | #070 Replay
Lou still hates a mismatch as he struggles with his desire to be more vulnerable. Lou and Michael discuss what it means to ask for emotional support. Lou's therapist dropped a bombshell on where shame comes from, especially if you had emotionally immature parents or if your parents always fixed your mistakes for you. Lou takes care of everything and hates it and loves it. Lou and Michael talk about whether we are alone in life. Sidenote: you can hear the extreme winds that spread fire across Los Angeles, throughout the episode. We did our best with the audio.
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-BetterHelp:
If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.
If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/
-The Maca Team:
Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.
http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy
promo code: bearcub for 10% off
-Light Phone:
Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.
https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn
promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III
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BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod
Contact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy59 min
About Secondhand Therapy
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Secondhand Therapy is a funny, honest mental health podcast where two unlicensed best friends unpack their weekly therapy sessions. Join Louie Paoletti and Michael Malone as they explore anxiety,…
ADHD, grief, masculinity, and emotional growth—with humor, heart, and total transparency. Each episode blends raw self-reflection with real time takes on therapy, trauma, relationships, and the messy process of healing. It’s real talk about mental health in the modern world, and why personal growth is so damn hard.
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