Managing Rejection: Insights from the Bedroom to the Boardroom

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TL;DR: Managing Rejection

Rejection is universal, whether it’s in bed, at work, or in love, and it doesn’t have to derail your confidence or connection.

Our community shared 12 honest insights, from sharing initiation in relationships to reframing rejection as protection.

Big takeaways: talk about it, stop personalizing, rewrite shameful stories, and give yourself space to feel (or not).

A little self-awareness, humour, and empathy can turn rejection into resilience.

Want to soften rejection and strengthen connection? Listen to the full podcast episode and check out our pleasure-positive tools and tips because self-love, partner play, and a good vibrator can help ease even the sharpest “no.”

12 Insights on Rejection From Our Community

Rejection is universal, and yet the way we respond to it is deeply personal. For some, it evokes shame; for others, reflection. And often, it feels different when it happens at work versus in bed.

In a recent episode of the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast, we asked our community to share how they experience and manage rejection. The responses were raw, thoughtful, and relatable.

Whether you’re navigating emotional disconnection in a long-term relationship, building confidence while dating, or trying not to spiral after a “not tonight,” we hope these reflections offer comfort, clarity, or at least the knowledge that you’re not alone.

(Some of these have been edited for clarity/brevity.)

Why can women say no to sex, but when a guy says no, it’s crazy?

For me, it’s all about connection. When I get rejected over and over again, it brings up feelings of unlovability, unworthiness, being unimportant, etc. I’m working through some of that, but I also think it’s normal; in a monogamous sexual relationship. Taking care of myself doesn’t provide an emotional connection, and it can even hinder connection when it’s all I’m left with.

Rejection is just God’s Protection (it’s supposed to rhyme).Yes. Can we re-frame rejection to be something that safeguards us against things that aren’t good for us? Didn’t get that job because you didn’t click with the hiring team, maybe, you wouldn’t have liked working with them anyway? You approached someone to make a new connection, and they were aloof, maybe that’s not the energy you need in your life?

Don’t take it as a negative. Don’t take it personally. People have many different preferences. It’s not about you.

Accept rejection. Don’t let it turn into dejection. For me, it’s about not personalizing it. My GF isn’t in the mood? Cool. It has nothing to do with me. And honestly, I don’t feel like it’s my job to get her in the mood. Sometimes I will, but if she knows what she has to do to get herself in the mood too. She likes sex as much as I do. I know that for sure. So if she is working too much, or going out too much and feeling tired or not doing the things that facilitate her mood, it’s not about me. But this only applies since we started talking about sex. 10 years ago, I know she said no because the sex wasn’t so good for her. Now that I know what she likes. Now that we’ve both learned to be better lovers,

What should you do when a love interest pulls back out of nowhere? Perhaps you’re hitting it off and then all of a sudden things change — texts messages become sparser, response times are longer or they simply wait for you to initiate. They’re still engaged and don’t seem to want to end things, but you’re left feeling confused and rejected. Jess & Brandon weigh in with their thoughts and scripts to help you respond and they also talk about their experiences with rejection.

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Rejection: What To Do When Someone Pulls Away

Participant #1:

You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome to Sex with Dr. Jess Podcast. I'm your co host, Brandon. We're here with my liver. Lovely. Other half, Dr. Jess. Hello. I'm glad you've stopped making those ASMR sounds. Now I can do it again for everyone. It's really creepy. Your tongue ASMR well. You're supposed to listen, not look. Oh, yeah, true. I like the sound. There you go. It's the look of your tongue coming out of your mouth. I don't like it's not the point. Well, tonight we're having a quickie. That's the way I like it. I know. Cool brag. Cool brag, bro. We're going to be talking about dating and what to do when someone pulls away. So not when they ghost you, but when they kind of back out out of nowhere. So I did this interview, and people had sent in this hodgepodge of questions. Hodgepodge, you're 90 mortgage bargain of questions about what to do when a love interest pulls back out of nowhere. So they said, for example, you're hitting it off, and then all of a sudden, things change. Text messages are sparse. They used to text every day. They don't initiate contact like they used to, but they still respond to you, or they're answering with, like, one word, whereas they used to call and send essays, or they're saying that they're busy all of a sudden and don't have as much time, but then they come back and they're messaging you. So basically, they're not communicating that they want to end things, but they're sort of dragging you along so you feel rejected but also confused. Okay. It's a lot, right? One word answers. Okay. You know when somebody texts you back. Okay. I hate when I write, like, a whole bunch of messages, and then I just get closer and then I give you a thumbs up. Although I kind of like when I do that to other people, especially, like, work things. Double tap. Yeah, exactly.

Can you recognize the signs of human trafficking? Would you know what to do to support someone who is being victimized by a trafficker? February 22 is National Human Trafficking Awareness Day, so this week we’re discussing prevalence, signs, and what you can do if you or someone you know is at risk.

Call the Canadian Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-833-900-1010. Or chat online at www.canadianhumantraffickinghotline.ca

And don’t forget to go back and listen to Episode 147: How to Help Someone in an Abusive Relationship

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Healthy Relationships & Human Trafficking

Participant #1:

You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast, Sex and Relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. I'm your co host, Brandon. We're here with my always lovely other half, Dr. Jess. Hey. Getting lovelier by the day because I just had a birthday. You did? So you're extra lovely today. Yeah. That's how I'm going to frame it. Yeah. February is a big day for me. And Brandon was February 12, but I missed it. I was away. That's okay. I mean, I cried a little bit, but then I was okay. You got over it. I got over it. You got over it. So moving through February very quickly and February 22, just a few days ago, was the International Data End Human Trafficking. And if you're on my IG, you know, I've been working with the Canadian Center to End Human Trafficking to just raise awareness because really I have a lot to learn. And I was reading through some of their recent research. And I have to say the findings don't surprise me because I fall into the vast majority around 77%, who don't know how to recognize the signs, especially the more subtle ones. And I don't think I would know how to respond if someone I saw, if I was concerned about someone, especially if it was someone I didn't know. And I've been learning as we go. So we're going to be talking about human trafficking and sex trafficking today, including what it is, how to recognize the signs, and how we can all be a part of the solution. And just before we get started, I want to be really clear that we're not confusing trafficking with sex work because somebody brought that up on IG. And I know there are some folks who conflate the two, but I think, you know from listening to this podcast that we know that sex work is real work. We have sex workers on our show sharing their perspective on all things.

One Thing I Love About You: A Quick Connection Exercise for Couples (and Anyone You Love)

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Looking for a quick, heartfelt way to connect? Whether you're feeling wildly in love, teetering on burnout, or simply curious about new ways to relate, this short-but-sweet activity is for you.

Inspired by The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay, which I co-authored with the incredible Marla Renee Stewart, this emotional-erotic exercise asks you to reflect on what you love, and say it out loud. You can try it with a partner, a friend, a family member, or even in the mirror with yourself.

TL;DR - “One Thing I Love About You” Connection Exercise

Deepen emotional intimacy in under five minutes with this deceptively simple phrase:

“One thing I love about your…”

Use it with your partner, your bestie, a family member, or turn it inward for a self-love boost.

Prompt ideas: your body, your voice, your aura, your character, your touch, how you treat me… make it your own.

Why it works: we assume people know we appreciate them, but naming it out loud builds trust, vulnerability & erotic energy.

For extra pleasure, pair words of affirmation with touch:

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This practice is straight from The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay

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The "One Thing I Love About You" Exercise

Designed to promote connection, emotional intimacy, and erotic presence, this is one of my go-to tools on retreat and at home.

Emotional Connection Exercise for Couples: One Thing I Love...

You can work through these prompts one by one or rapid-fire style if you're short on time. The only "rule"? Say the full phrase: "One thing I love about your..."

One thing I love about your body...

One thing I love about your voice...

One thing I love about your energy/aura...

One thing I love about your touch...

One thing I love about your personality...

One thing I love about your character...

One thing I love about how you interact with others...

One thing I love about how you treat me...

One thing I love about your... (Make it your own!)

Want to take it to the next level? Try turning these prompts toward yourself. We know that self-compassion, not self-criticism, is associated with better mental health, emotional intimacy, and even sexual satisfaction.

If you’re not sure how to express what you love or what turns you on without feeling awkward, check out this post on dirty talk and how to shed the discomfort of expressing your desires.

Why This Matters

Emotional connection isn't just about romance. It's about seeing, hearing, and valuing someone, and being seen, heard, and valued in return. We often assume our partners know what we appreciate about them, but unspoken admiration isn't always felt.

When you name what you love, you open the door to vulnerability, gratitude, and maybe even a little erotic spark.

Want to Feel Even More?

Phone sex can be smokin’ hot — for auditory lovers, long-distance play partners, and anyone who wants to spice things up with dirty talk and fantasy exploration. Jess and Brandon share their thoughts and tips for the hottest phone sex, along with a few lines you can use to get started if you’re feeling shy or awkward.

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And for those who'd like to take a listen to our previous episode on Dirty Talk, you can check out "Master Dirty Talk: 60+ Tips & Examples" here.

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The Hottest Phone Sex Tips

Participant #1:

You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. I'm your co host, Brandon. We're here with my loved the other half, Doctor Jess. Am I so lovely? Because we were just not talking about lovely stuff. No, we weren't talking about lovely stuff. But you're lovely. Brandon made us espresso with a little drop of Baylies. We're actually working in the evening, which we don't usually do. We usually record super early in the morning, but it's evening, so it's a decaf espresso with a drop of Bayleys. Maybe you should say that. It's a shot of Baileys with a drop of decaf espresso. Oh, is that what it is? I don't know. Anyhow. You drink yours before you even sat down? I did. And I said, do you even save her it? I do not. Do you just swallow it like hotcom? I do not savor it. Yes, I swallow it like hot cup. And then I asked you if you've tasted your own cup. Yes, I have. And did not warn you that we were going to be discussing. No, I didn't know. We weren't talking about that. So, yes, let's go down that rabbit hole. But did you taste it when it was hot or did you want to get cold first? Well, I read the warning on the side. It said, Get caution hot. No, it came in a cup. I think it's important to taste yourself. Yeah, I did it by accident. But how? I shot it up in the air. You shot it up in the air and your mouth was open. Yes, that's it. That sounds like I landed on his Dick by accident. Well, anyhow, I'm glad we were talking about that off air. I thought we should also talk about how we should start a podcast today. Yeah, because it's good to taste yourself. I don't know. I wonder if for women, there's less shame around it. I have no problem saying that I've tasted it. I remember I mentioned this before on the podcast. There was a guy when I was a teenager playing hockey, and that was what he did on the bus when we were going to a hockey game.

How to Have Multiple Orgasms – Part 1

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Can People with Penises Have Multiple Orgasms?

Yes they can, and not just in the tantric, spiritual, unicorn-riding-on-a-rainbow kind of way. We’re talking real, repeatable orgasms, some with ejaculation, some without. And it turns out, this isn’t a magic trick reserved for adult film stars. It’s something you can explore through breath, body awareness, and some surprisingly practical techniques.

In this podcast episode, Brandon shares his experience of discovering dry orgasms (orgasmic sensations without ejaculation) through edging and mindfulness. While many assume orgasm and ejaculation are one and the same, I break down the physiological differences - two sets of contractions, the infamous PEI (point of ejaculatory inevitability), and how breath and pelvic floor control can help separate the two.

If you’re curious about having multiple orgasms, you don’t need to fit into a specific gender, identity or body type. These insights are inclusive, adaptable, and rooted in pleasure—not performance.

Multiple Orgasms: Tools, Toys & Techniques

Edging

A wonderful way to learn control, as highlighted and discussed by Brandon in this episode, is to stop movement right before you hit the “point of no return.” This pause allows the orgasmic contractions to roll in without ejaculation, leaving you able to keep going.

Breathwork & Awareness

Deep breathing helped him stay present and avoid finishing. Being able to notice the build-up, not just react to it, which is key.

Pelvic Floor Play

People with penises have a pelvic floor too, and tuning into those muscles can transform orgasm. Try flexing just before orgasm or even experimenting with short, intentional pulses. A pelvic floor physiotherapist can be a great resource.

Prostate & Perineal Stimulation

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You can also try firm pressure to the perineum (the gooch!) using your fingers or a toy like the We-Vibe Pivot, a vibrating ring that’s great for external stimulation and prolonging arousal.

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You don’t have to intensify your orgasms, but if you want to explore techniques to do so, we’ve got you covered. We share easy strategies you can try tonight! We also discuss the Foot Locker ejaculator incident and sex in public parks.

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How To Have Bigger, Better Orgasms

Participant #1:

You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast, Sex and Relationship advice you can use Tonight. Welcome to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. I'm your co host, Brandon Ware, here with my always lovely other half, Dr. Jess. Hey, I have a question for you. Do you love sneakers? I do love sneakers. Do you make love to sneakers? I do not make love to sneakers. But you had to pause to think about it. I did have to think about that. Okay. Where is this going? We've got a story about sneakers and your home town of Brampton that we're going to be talking about. Brampton. That's right. The Btown. Okay, let's get started. I'm very curious. Okay. So we have a couple of stories we're going to cover before we get into one of our listener questions, which was short and sweet, how I like it. They want to know how to have better orgasms and we're going to talk about better orgasms. But there are a couple of stories in the news, one about sneakers and one about sex in public parks that I'm here to talk about. So there was a city park sting in Cincinnati that was cracking down on sex in public parks. At twelve, people have been charged. I was reading about the story and it seems that the police want to crack down on it. And the Mayor is saying, yeah, okay, fine, we can prosecute these things, but can we please focus on violent crime? And it makes me think about who gets targeted oftentimes. Gay men have historically been targeted for cruising or sex in public spaces. And it's a reminder that oftentimes people have sex in public spaces because they don't have a safe private space to go to. And then also I thought the story was interesting because separate from people who don't have a space to go, I think so many of us are drawn to having sex in public and having sex in the great outdoors with that nice kind of warm breeze on your bike. We've had sex in a park. We have had sex in a park. And I do enjoy a warm wisp of air on my buttock. Well, I don't know if Cincinnati is that warm this time of year. It might be like a cold cracksnap or something. A little chilly tickling the nads, something like that. But we had sex in a park. I remember. I imagine we've done it more than once. But the time that comes to mind was a gazillion years ago and we were in a park kind of in the forest, and we found kind of a private place totally off the trail. But then when we walked back onto the trail, a runner ran by. And then I knew him. He was like a kid that he wasn't a kid anymore.

Today’s quickie answers a few viewer questions about why ghost-facing is all the rage and how to spice things up when mobility is limited.

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TL;DR: Ghostface Kink, Masks & Mobility-Friendly Pleasure

Why are so many people turned on by Ghostface? Masks = mystery = dopamine. The less you see, the more your imagination fills in the blanks, and that’s hot.

Role play reduces inhibition. Donning a mask or costume helps you tap into bolder desires with less self-consciousness. It’s not about being someone else, it’s about feeling freer in your own skin.

Start small. No horror mask needed: blindfolds, hoods, or simply turning off the lights can enhance mystery and erotic presence. Try the We-Vibe Touch X to pair with sensory play.

Mobility challenges? You’re not broken or boring. If missionary is comfy, it’s valid. But small props (like wedge pillows) or subtle shifts can add variety without pain.

Try toys that work in any position: Womanizer Duo 2 for blended stimulation or We-Vibe Pivot for vibrating connection.

Build confidence one step at a time. Lead with a toy. Initiate with a kiss. Or just turn up the playlist and talk a little dirtier.

Want more tools, confidence and ideas? Check out:

Mind-Blowing Oral Courses – Clit & Penis Editions

How to Better Understand Your Sexual Values (And Your Partner’s)

Kinky Tapas: Psychological Kink with Luna & Marla

Why Is Ghost-Facing a Turn-On?

The Scream franchise may not have intended Ghostface to become a sex symbol, but sex and horror have always danced together in the dark. A recent wave of Ghostface thirst traps and erotic TikToks has prompted the question: why is this masked menace turning people on?

Let’s break it down:

The Erotic Power of Mystery

When your face is hidden, whether behind a surgical mask or a horror movie icon, you become a bit of a blank canvas for fantasy. Anonymity opens the door to curiosity. The less we see, the more our imagination kicks in. And from a neurochemical perspective, that curiosity and anticipation amps up dopamine, your brain’s favourite “seeking” chemical.

Masks also cue us to pay closer attention to non-verbal cues like voice, body language, posture, and tone, all of which can heighten desire and deepen erotic presence. When we’re forced to guess, we often lean in.

Masks, Role Play & Risk

Masks have long been associated with kink and fantasy. Whether you’re into latex, leather, cosplay, or horror-core, slipping into a character can lower inhibitions and offer just enough emotional distance to explore your boldest desires.

As I shared on the podcast, “When we are in costume, we’re not entirely ourselves and that distance lets us take risks, try on a different demeanor, and play with power in new ways.”

If you’re curious about bringing a little masked mystery into the bedroom, you don’t have to start with a horror icon. You can ease in with sensory play, like a blindfold, hood, or even turning out the lights. Then build from there if it feels good.

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How much time should you spend together?

What constitutes quality time?

How do you talk about your need for alone time, and time apart?

How do you divide your time when you’re busy and there never seems to be enough time?

In this episode, Jess and Brandon share their personal responses to the questions in the “Talking About Time Discussion” — questions and reflection prompts for better time management in relationships. You can utilize it with a partner or any other loved one and use these prompt to get started:

How much time do you like to spend alone and why?

How much time do you want to spend with friends? Why is it important to you to spend time with friends?

How much time do you want to spend with your family? Why is time with your family important to you?

Are you happy with the time we do spend together - would you like more or less?

Would you like to spend our time together differently?

What benefits do you attach to spending time apart?

What do you see as the greatest impediment to spending quality time together? How can we address this?

What change can we make this week to improve the quality of the time together?

How did your family spend time together growing up? What might you change if you could do it again?

What is your definition of “quality time”?

Do you have any experiences; with quality time, lack of time, or time apart from other relationships that might help me understand how you feel about how we allocate time together and apart?

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Participant #1:

You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. I'm your co host, Brandon Ware, here with my lovely other half, Dr. Jess. Hey, it's 2022. It is. We're hanging in surviving. How are your New Year's resolutions going? Last week, we talked about different resolutions for couples. And you talked a little bit about your plans for the year. What's on your mind? Yeah, my resolutions are going reasonably well. Ask me again next week. Well, you're working out. That was sort of one of your resolutions. Yeah. Just to maintain physical activity every single day and to also read a little bit more. So I've definitely checked both those boxes so far. What are you reading? You really want to know? I've been reading up more on NFTs and decentralized finance in the basement with my hoodie on and the lights off. No, it's actually really interesting stuff. There's really interesting stuff happening in that field. I know that it's still on the margins in some ways. I know that it's a specific group that's involved in it primarily. Okay. What have you learned any, like, Pearls of system? I still don't know. I've been reading up for about ten months on it, and I'd like to give a shout out to a couple of good friends of ours who kind of introduced us to it so that,

Want more pleasure and passion? How about more mindful connections and a boost in self-esteem? We don’t have all the answers, but we’re sharing a few resolutions and intentions for the new year — for happier relationships all around.

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Tell the story of when we first met?

What was the first thing you noticed about me?

What songs remind you of our early time together?

What first attracted you to me?

How have I changed for the better and grown since our early days?

What stood out about our first date?

Describe our first kiss.

What do you remember about our first sleepover

Or the first time we had sex?

What is an awkward moment that I wouldn't want to re-live but we're able to laugh about now?

What was the most memorable or hottest sex we've ever had? And what made it so memorable?

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This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns.

Relationship Resolutions for 2022

You're listening to the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast. Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome to the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast. I'm your co host, Brandon, and we are here with my lovely other half. Dr. Jess. How are you? I'm good. Happy New Year. I know you and I are already happy each other up, but to all the folks out there, to you, I hope the first couple of days have been treating you well. I like a rebirth. You know? I like a rebirth. Yeah, I like a rebirth. I don't like the visual that I get of thinking of a rebirth stop, because that's literally what I was just thinking when I said rebirth. I thought about a giant man sized human coming out of a body with, like, mucus all over them. Welcome to 2022. We're really messed up. No, but did you think of that for rebirth? Yeah, of course I thought about that. I think some people would think about religious rebirth born again. But for some reason, I think about the literal, I guess, visual not you thinking about or us thinking about a human full sized human jumping out. Do you not remember there was an old Saturday Night Live skit where she has a full sized human baby and she's so annoying. I wish I knew the name of the actor, but let's maybe take it back enough. Let's take it back to normal. It's the New Year, and we are going to talk New Year's resolutions. Amazing. Let's do it. Yeah. And this is going to be a quickie one, folks, because we are on a light work week. This was supposed to be like a holiday week, but it didn't end up happening, but that's okay. We're just going to keep it a quickie and talk about New Year's resolutions. Not everybody wants resolutions, but it doesn't matter when you're listening to this. I think any time you can set ideas or goals or strategies for yourself, it's totally worth it. Before we dive into my seven ideas, I want to say thank you,