In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:

1. I have a dilemma. I have lots of women friends in my drama class. They are all very pleasant and I enjoy being in their company. One of the unattached ones has fallen for me. I am attached (and believe it or not do love my partner) and will never leave her, and my friend knows it. But there is a sexual attraction between us, and genuine caring between us. It’s been going on for a few years. We have never kissed, except on the cheek. And we meet and have tea and a chat about once every 3 months, pandemic allowing. Am I being unfair to her to still see her, knowing she has fallen for me, with no prospect of anything really happening? I want to do the right thing by her.
2. I’m a 28-year old healthy female but have some issues with desire. I’ve read that taking Viagra makes sex feel better for women. Is this true and would you recommend women take it?
3. Please help! I’m a straight man in my mid-20s and still a virgin, even though I’m pretty average looking and have lots of friends. I haven’t yet had a proper relationship. I don’t have a problem attracting women, but I don’t ever seem to get past the foreplay stage and then things just fizzle out. What am I doing wrong?

 And offers her sex tip of the week!

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Back by popular demand, this week we're re-releasing episode 15. In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:

1. My partner of 12 years wants me to ‘peg’ him. I didn’t even know what it was and had to google it. Now I’m worried. Not only don’t I want to do it, I’m worried it secretly means he’s gay.
2. I found out my husband had sex with a hooker on his bachelor’s night just before we got married. What should I do now? That was five years and two kids ago. He deeply regrets it and swears he’s never cheated before or since and that his friends pushed him into it.
3. I like getting quite wild and noisy in bed but it seems to freak men out. Should I calm it down? I don’t feel like I should but I don’t want to scare men off either! My previous long-term partner used to like it.

And offers her sex tip of the week!

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Back by popular demand, this week we're re-releasing episode 19. In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:

1. My friends talk about their partners always hassling them for sex but I have the opposite problem. My husband is the one who doesn’t want it. Is he having an affair? Does it mean he doesn’t find me attractive anymore? I’m too embarrassed to talk to my friends.
2. My partner of five months wants to know how many lovers I’ve had. Let’s say I have reinvented myself just a little and that number might be a lot higher than he’s expecting. Should I lie?
3. My husband has a fantasy of seeing me with another man. When he told me about it, it really turned me on and I couldn't stop thinking about it. Am I crazy or selfish for wanting to indulge this in real life? My husband seems really keen to. Is this common and where would we even start with finding someone?

And offers her sex tip of the week!

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In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:

1. I have been with my girlfriend for over a year and still don’t know where I stand. It’s all about her and always has been. She is a very good-looking, sexy woman and I think she secretly thinks she can do better than me. (I’m OK looking but nothing special.) I love her and give her all the attention in the world, but she treats me badly and doesn’t seem to care about anyone but herself. I try to talk to her about my needs but she barely listens. The relationship runs hot and cold. Is there any point in hanging around?
2. My husband and I are keen to have a threesome but also know that these things go wrong all the time. Can you give us some tips on how to make things go smoothly?
3. How do you know if you’re good in bed? My ex told me one of the reasons he broke up with me was because I wasn’t great in the sack and it’s shattered my confidence. I’m not sure if it was said in anger or is actually true. How do I tell?

And offers her sex tip of the week!

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In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:

1. I’m a woman in my mid-20s and I have just met a man I think is the love of my life. He feels the same. The problem is, neither of us had any intention of settling down for at least 10 years. I’ve just finished a degree and started a job that requires long hours. Same for him. I wish I could put him in the deep freeze and thaw him out again when I’m ready. What should I do?
2. How do I know if I’m peeing when I climax or ejaculating? This happens sometimes when I’m masturbating and orgasm. How do you tell the difference between urine and the fluid produced during female ejaculation?
3. I’ve noticed my penis is changing shape. It’s now bent and curves to the right when it’s erect. I’m newly divorced and about to get out there dating. Is this something I need to be concerned or embarrassed about? I mentioned it to my doctor but she brushed me off, saying this can happen after a certain age (I’m 45) and not to worry about it. Should I mention it before I have sex with someone new, so she doesn’t get alarmed?

 And offers her sex tip of the week!

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In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:

1. A friend of mine (25 years old) has been seeing a married man in his forties who has a child. This has been going on for four years. They've been through some serious things and their 'relationship' is very clearly becoming even more toxic. We’ve all tried to tell her SO many times to stop what she's doing as it's not right and things will never pan out. He's been promising to end things with his wife since they started seeing each other. But recently, he's started to become aggressive and clingy, asking her where she is what she's doing and if she's seeing anyone. She's tried breaking things off before and he's turned up to her workplace looking for her. I’m worried about her safety. How do I drum some sense into her?
2. My boyfriend fell asleep while he was giving me oral sex the other night. Is this normal?? I was so insulted. Is he that uninterested in doing it to me?
3. I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost 2 years now and she has brought up the idea of her starting an ONLY FANS account. She thinks it’s a great way of making money, which I understand as we are both in our 20’s but I feel really uncomfortable with her posting sexy content publicly to other people. Do I have the right to feel that way? It’s her body and her choice. When I bring it up she just seems to mention the money benefits and doesn’t seem to care about the other side of it. I don’t know what to do.

 And offers her sex tip of the week!

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In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:

1. I’m a 28-year-old woman and I’ve been with my partner for six years. I love him desperately but I’m not that interested in having sex with him anymore. I know that it’s normal for interest in sex to fall over time but I’m young and six years isn’t that long. Is this a sign I’ve chosen the wrong person? Or will this eventually happen with anyone I’m with long term?
2. I’ve been married for 20 years and am struggling to stay sexual with my partner. I find it such an effort to have sex with him even though, when we do, I usually don’t find it too bad. How often do you have to have sex to keep the relationship going? Do I have to have sex if I really don’t want to? My husband doesn’t hassle me for sex but he does really enjoy it when we do have it and I want to make him happy. We get on really well and life is happy otherwise.
3. Can you give me some practical tips on how to keep desire going in a long-term relationship? I’m a lesbian and don’t want to fall victim to lesbian ‘bed death’ – and I know this is something all couples find difficult. We’re only a year in and sex is still awesome. What are some things we can do to make sure it stays that way?

 And offers her sex tip of the week!

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In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:

1. My husband and I are having massive fights over a long-time friend of mine who I used to date in college. We’d see each other twice a year for dinner and my husband didn’t seem to mind. But now my friend is having problems in his marriage and suddenly my husband is threatened. My friend is attractive and, yes, we have history. But that doesn’t mean I’m about to run off with him. How do I handle this?
2. Just when I think I’ve got it all figured out and found the spot that makes my girlfriend orgasm, she moves the goalposts. It seems to change each time. Is this true or am I imagining it?
3. I’m divorced and back out there dating again. I’ve met someone I am having a great time with sexually but worried my daughter can hear us. The last thing I want to do is scar her for life! She’s 14 years old. I try to keep quiet and always wait until she’s asleep but am I being a bad mother by having sex when she might overhear? The only place I can be intimate is home.

 And offers her sex tip of the week!

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In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:

1. My partner of 9 years cheated on me recently with a same-sex partner but doesn’t consider that “cheating.” I disagree. He went for an STI check and a blood test confirms he has HSV1 (herpes simplex type 1). I’m terrified I’m going to get it. Should I risk it for him? He’s broken and desperate to make it up to me. 
2. I’m hoping you can help. I’m only 25 and I love my boyfriend of 4 years however I don’t enjoy our sex and I never get “wet”. Even when we try it hurts and I end up just letting him finish. What should I do?
3. My new boyfriend loves my oral sex skills but he gets right to the edge multiple times but can’t orgasm. How do I tip him over the edge and finish the job?

 And offers her sex tip of the week!

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In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:

1. I am really hoping you can advise me on this because I honestly don’t know what else to do. A very good friend of mine is about to get married. They seem very happy but I recently saw her fiancé having dinner with another woman. They were having a very intense conversation and, at one point, he held her hand across the table. (I was in the same restaurant but hidden from his view.) I don’t know whether to mention this to my friend or not. It might have just been a close female friend but my gut instinct is that it was more than that. Do I tell her what I saw or keep quiet?
2. The chemistry I had with an ex is unbeatable. I’ve had so many relationships since then but it’s not the same. How do I have this feeling again with someone else?
3. Out of the blue, my boyfriend of 18 months announced that he wanted to have a piercing. He also suggested I might have a ‘matching’ piercing myself. Once I’d gotten over the surprise, I did a bit of research. While I was a bit intrigued (these piercings can be kinda hot) there are downsides. Healing can be tricky and you can’t have intercourse for several weeks afterwards. So I said a gentle no. He then went quiet on me for a few days before saying it was his body and he still wanted to get his piercing, but he fully accepted I wouldn’t do the same. He added he wouldn’t do it if I was really, really against it. This has left me in a dilemma. Apart from being taken aback by his request (I’d no idea he had this type of kink) I don’t want such a long pause in having intercourse. I love it! It’s all put a bit of a rift between us. Should I just tell him to get it done?

 And offers her sex tip of the week!

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