One-Size-Does NOT-Fit-All! Ever wonder why some people thrive with strict rules… while others immediately want to do the opposite the second a rule exists? In this episode, Katie and Shailey dig into why motivation isn’t one-size-fits-all—and why so many wellness plans fail simply because they ignore personality.

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We explore three powerful frameworks that explain how and why people take action:

-The Four Tendencies

-Abstainers vs. Moderators (do you need clear lines or flexible lanes?)

-The Enneagram as a lens for understanding values, motivations, and internal drivers

This conversation is all about permission—permission to stop forcing yourself into systems that don’t fit, to design habits that align with how your brain actually works, and to realize that needing fun, freedom, or structure isn’t a flaw… it’s data.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why is this so easy for other people but so hard for me?”—this episode is for you.

What You’ll Learn

• Why Upholders meet expectations easily—and why Rebels instinctively push back
• How Obligers can reduce resentment by understanding the why behind a task
• Why Abstainers love clear, black-and-white rules (and Moderators… don’t)
• How the Enneagram reveals deeper motivations—not just surface behavior
• Why customization is essential for sustainable habits and wellness
• How autonomy and choice increase follow-through (especially for Rebels)
• How pre-deciding rules can dramatically reduce decision fatigue
• Why “fun” isn’t frivolous—it’s often a requirement for consistency
• How honoring personality differences leads to better adherence and less shame

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In this episode, we’re talking about The Artist’s Way—what it actually is, why it keeps coming back into culture, and how to approach creativity without turning it into another self-improvement pressure cooker.We explore curiosity over productivity, rebuilding trust with yourself, and how small creative habits can quietly change everything. Plus, Katie shares an absolutely unhinged prism story that turns into one of those “wait… WHAT?” moments—and if you stick to the end, she shares big, life-hanging news that’s been quietly unfolding behind the scenes.

What We Cover in This Episode

• What The Artist’s Way really is (and what it’s not)

• Why creativity shuts down under pressure and perfectionism

• How habits can support creativity instead of suffocating it

• Morning Pages: what they’re for, how to do them imperfectly, and why “doing them wrong” still works

• Artist Dates as curiosity practice, not performance

• The difference between discipline and devotion

• Letting creativity be data, not identity

• Why rest, play, and boredom are essential creative inputs

• A wild prism moment that feels straight out of The Artist’s Way

• Staying curious when something big is shifting in your life

Key Takeaways

• Creativity doesn’t respond to pressure—it responds to safety

• You don’t need to be “good” at creativity to benefit from it

• Small, consistent practices beat intense, sporadic effort

• Curiosity is a more sustainable motivator than discipline

• You’re allowed to make art quietly, privately, and imperfectly

If You’re Feeling Stuck…

This episode is for you if:

• You feel creatively blocked or burned out

• You’ve tried The Artist’s Way before and bounced off

• You want more creativity but less pressure

• You suspect something is shifting, but you’re not ready to name it yet

Gentle Next Step (Optional, Not Homework)

If this episode sparked something, try one small experiment this week:

• Write one page instead of three

• Take a solo walk without your phone

• Follow one moment of curiosity without needing a result

No rules. No gold stars. Just noticing.

Mentioned in This Episode

• The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron

• Morning Pages

• Artist Dates

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Style That Feels Like Home. We dive into the empowering relationship between clothes, confidence, and the bodies we live in. We explore what it actually means to feel “at home” in your own skin—and your own style—without chasing trends, shrinking yourself, or trying to dress like someone you’re not.

The conversation moves through body neutrality, signature style, and why comfort matters just as much as aesthetics. From color choices to fit to outerwear as a confidence tool, we reframe fashion as a form of self-trust rather than self-criticism. At its core, this episode is an invitation to stop settling—for uncomfortable clothes, outdated rules, or someone else’s version of what looks “right”—and start choosing what actually feels good.

Key Takeaways

• Body neutrality is a powerful and accessible starting point.
• Personal style should feel like home—not a costume.
• The most confident outfits come from self-trust, not trends.
• Comfort and confidence are directly connected.
• Every body has styles that support it—no fixing required.
• Trends are optional. Personal style is lasting.
• Great outerwear can change everything.
• Experimentation is how clarity is built.
• Self-acceptance always comes before self-expression.

Sound Bites

• “Your style should feel like home.”
• “There is no bad body.”
• “We don’t SETTLE anymore.”
• “If it’s not comfortable, it’s not confidence.”

Chapters

00:00 – Style, Body Image, and Why This Conversation Matters
02:47 – Comfort, Clothes, and Self-Trust
05:52 – Body Types Without the Shame
09:06 – What a Signature Style Really Is
12:08 – Letting Yourself Experiment
14:49 – Color, Patterns, and Personality
18:09 – Style for Real Life and Real Movement
21:01 – Why Outerwear Is a Power Move
23:45 – Pulling the Whole Look Together
27:25 – Seeing Beauty Without Conditions
30:05 – Body Positivity vs. Body Neutrality
34:29 – Finding What Actually Feels Like You
35:54 – Trends: Use Them or Ignore Them
40:45 – Navigating Fashion Without Losing Yourself
46:31 – Laughing at Past Fashion Choices
49:24 – Growth, Coaching, and Owning the Next Chapter

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This week on Shailey & Katie’s Lemonade Stand, get ready for Black Friday we’re spilling our go-to gift ideas—the ones we actually give, actually love, and actually hope show up on our doorstep.

We’re talking:

Gifts that don’t cost a lot but feel thoughtful

Gifts that are technically “a splurge,” but perfect for going-in-together with family or friends

Gifts for creatives, moms, homebodies, entrepreneurs, and your spouse who “doesn’t need anything”.

Whether you need a last-minute Amazon idea, a meaningful DIY, or a “treat yourself because you deserve it” moment, this episode has you covered.

Pour your hot lemon...wassail? Peppermint mocha? and let’s make your Christmas shopping delightfully easy.

In this episode, we share our favorite Christmas gift ideas for 2025, including:

Affordable gift ideas

Creative gift ideas for women

Gifts for moms, entrepreneurs, and creatives

Experience gifts

Sentimental gifts that feel personal

Big splurge gifts you can go in on as a group

Clutter-free gift ideas for minimalists

Last-minute Christmas gifts you can order fast

You’ll hear our real recommendations (not sponsored):

The gifts we secretly want someone to give us

The inexpensive gift that feels luxe

The “holy grail” splurge gifts worth every penny

A few creative experience gifts that support more connection, more joy, and less stuff

Perfect for:
Anyone searching for Christmas gifts, simple gift ideas, holiday gifts for women, best gifts for moms, stocking stuffers, budget gifts, group gifts, and creative Christmas ideas.

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In this episode, Shailey and Katie dive into the real, practical side of gratitude — the kind that actually rewires your brain, improves your relationships, and helps you show up as a calmer, less-reactive human (science says so). They unpack how neuroplasticity works, why your brain loves repetition, and why gratitude isn’t about ignoring hard things — it’s about training your mind to notice more than just the problems.

Katie jumps in with research on gratitude, self-awareness, and why “toxic positivity” isn’t the goal — acknowledging the real stuff is part of the healing.

Together, they introduce a simple experiment to help listeners practice gratitude in a way that feels doable, not delusional.

The Practical Gratitude Challenge

Pick a trigger category — a person or area that normally sparks frustration — and choose your challenge level:

Light:

Do a one-time brain dump of everything good or redeemable about that challenging area/person.

Medium:

Write one genuine gratitude each day for two weeks.

Intense:

Write three specific gratitudes daily plus one “first-person goal” (a sentence you want to be true about you, written as if it already is).

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“People pleasing is actually about controlling others.”Wait—what? Rude! But it’s true. When we’re trying to make everyone happy, what we’re really trying to do is control how people see us. This week, we’re unpacking that sneaky truth and learning how to say no (without turning into a soulless- boundary-monster). People pleasing. From apologizing for existing 😆 to saying yes when your soul is screaming no, they get real about why we do it, how it sneaks into everyday moments, and what it looks like to finally break free.

They share cringe-worthy personal stories (we’ve all been there), and dig into how to set boundaries without burning bridges. You’ll hear about the power of pausing before reacting, assuming positive intent (even when it’s hard), and how curiosity can diffuse 90% of awkward human moments.

And because we love a good game, the episode includes a “Boundary Blitz” — a rapid-fire roleplay where Shailey gets to practice saying no.

You’ll walk away with practical ways to stop over-explaining, start communicating clearly, and actually feel confident when you say no — without the shame spiral. 

Takeaways

• People pleasing usually starts from wanting to be liked — not evil, just outdated programming.
• Assuming good intent changes how you see people and how you talk to them.
• Curiosity beats judgment every time.
• Confidence is a muscle — and boundaries are your gym.
• A thoughtful pause is your secret weapon in any tough moment.
• Clear is kind. Vague is confusing.
• Saying no doesn’t make you mean — it makes you honest.
• Boundaries protect your peace and your relationships.
• You don’t owe everyone an essay-length explanation.
• Celebrate every time you choose growth over guilt.

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Travel Hacks! The art of traveling — with kids, with friends, or with whoever’s part of your current adventure crew. ✈️

We’re sharing our favorite tips to make trips enjoyable and (mostly) stress-free — from setting expectations before we even leave the driveway to giving everyone small “travel jobs” that build independence and teamwork. We talk about how we balance adventure days with real rest, budget for souvenirs that actually mean something, and use simple games to keep long travel days fun.

We also get into creative destination ideas, building a family (or friend group) bucket list, and why having a transition day after getting home might be the most important part of the trip.

Most of all, we want this episode to remind you that you don’t have to wait for the perfect season to travel. You can weave adventure and connection into the life you already have — chaos, car seats, or carry-ons included.

Takeaways

Travel can be joyful with the right mindset and simple systems.

Setting expectations upfront keeps everyone grounded.

Creativity with destinations leads to unforgettable memories.

Giving kids (or fellow travelers) responsibility builds confidence.

Quality time always matters more than expensive outings.

A shared bucket list makes sure everyone feels seen and heard.

Budgeting for souvenirs can be a fun lesson in value.

Turn travel days into games to keep spirits high.

Capture your memories intentionally — photo books, voice notes, or videos.

Build in a transition day when you get home. It’s not lazy; it’s wise.

Quotes

🧳 “Traveling is a habit.”
🪣 “One bucket list item per person.”
🌿 “A rest day is an investment.”

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Katie's talking about how to fall back in love with your everyday life — the ordinary, in-between moments that usually fly under the radar.

Because somewhere between unloading the dishwasher and answering another email, we forget that this is our life. And it’s happening right now.

How to romanticize the routine — not by pretending everything’s perfect, but by slowing down enough to notice the magic that’s already there. From making your morning coffee feel sacred to turning carpool into your favorite thinking time, they share small mindset shifts that turn the mundane into something meaningful.

It’s about showing up fully awake to your own story — and realizing it’s already beautiful.

Takeaways

• Adopt a 'main character energy' mindset.
• Elevate mundane tasks with small changes.
• Use sensory upgrades to enhance daily life.
• Create a personal soundtrack for your day.
• Name and celebrate everyday routines.
• Incorporate gratitude into daily practice.
• Find joy in small, intentional actions.
• Transform chores into enjoyable activities.
• Embrace creativity in daily life.
• Appreciate the present moment.

Title Options

• Romanticizing Everyday Life
• Main Character Energy: Elevate Your Day
• Transform Mundane Tasks into Magic
• The Art of Living Cinematically
• Shailey and Katie's Guide to a Meaningful Life
• Everyday Magic: Finding Joy in the Ordinary
• Mindset Shifts for a Cinematic Life
• Gratitude and the Art of Living
• Creating a Life Full of Wonder
• The Power of Intentional Living

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Shailey spills her interior design secrets — the little things that make your home look effortlessly styled (without it feeling like a museum where no one’s allowed to sit on the couch).

She walks Katie through her favorite hidden design tricks — like how to use coffee table books as instant personality injections, why stacks of three just feel right, and how trays are basically the emotional support system of home decor.

They also get real about the struggle of folding fitted sheets (spoiler: Shailey has thoughts) and how to mix colors, textures, and personal items so your space actually feels like you. Expect laughs, stories, and a few moments of deep design wisdom that will have you eyeing your living room differently.

Coffee table books = instant personality and visual interest.

Stack in odd numbers for balance (3 is the magic number).

Add personal items — no one else has your memories, so show them off.

Trays make everything look intentional (even your clutter).

Mix colors and textures for cozy depth.

Books are more than decor — they’re conversation starters.

Thrift stores are gold mines for unique finds.

Swap out seasonal books for a quick refresh.

Your personal stories should guide your design choices.

Intentional design makes a home feel cohesive, not cookie-cutter.

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This week on Shailey & Katie’s Lemonade Stand, Katie attempts the impossible: convincing die-hard night owl Shailey that mornings don’t have to be miserable.

Katie shares how she went from dragging herself out of bed at the last possible second to actually looking forward to mornings (shocking, we know). She’s walking Shailey through seven practical, totally doable hacks to transform mornings—without becoming that person who wakes up at 4:30 a.m. to journal by candlelight and run a marathon.

They dive into why dopamine is the secret sauce for motivation, how to beat decision fatigue before it ruins your day, and why a tiny burst of “activation energy” is all you need to get moving. Plus, Katie explains why your mornings actually start the night before and how to “play offense” with your day instead of just reacting to it.

By the end, Shailey is almost convinced—and you might be, too.

Morning routines don’t have to be complicated to change everything.

Hacking dopamine —it’s the key to motivation.

Simplify your choices to fight decision fatigue.

Harness a quick burst of activation energy to kickstart your day.

Create before you consume.

Step away from the snooze button—it’s a trap.

Stop playing defense with your time and start playing offense.

Expect new habits to feel awkward at first.

A good morning starts the night before.

Prioritize sleep quality over sleep quantity.

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