My smart, successful clients have all loved and lost. Yet they recovered to rebuild their lives and fill it with meaningful work, travel, hobbies and friendship. Today's question is whether this is enough. Is being happy alone a condition for finding love or is a trap that allows you to stay alone indefinitely? What's the benefit of lasting love when being single is better than being in a bad relationship? In this Love U Podcast, I do my best to explain.



Should You Be Happy Alone?

Are you the woman who has everything except your man? Dating coach Evan Marc Katz will help you find him. Evan is the author of four books, has a blog with over 35 million readers, and has coached 13,000 women through Love U, his signature course that helps smart, successful women find lasting love. With a rare blend of wit, wisdom, and warmth, Evan is an invaluable asset to any woman who is frustrated with dating and wants to fix her broken man-picker. Each week, Evan gives tangible, practical advice on how you can raise your standards, set healthy boundaries and attract a high-quality, commitment-oriented man. www.evanmarckatz.com/now

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You may find it annoying or triggering but it's common for men to ask you why you're still single. Instead of shutting down or overexplaining, it's important to be able to answer this question with poise and confidence. If your reflexive answer to why you're still single is "I just haven't met the right guy," you REALLY ought to listen to this. My advice will likely surprise you.



What to Do When He Asks Why You’re Single

I know it should seem obvious but the fact that I recorded a podcast about it means that plenty of women still find married men alluring. In this episode, we'll talk about why married men are often more romantic than single men AND 4 reasons why it absolutely doesn't matter and you should run far, far away from any married guy who shows interest in you.



Why Married Men Are a Hell No!

If you didn't have a healthy nuclear family with loving married parents, its likely that you formed an attachment style that is either anxious or avoidant. But what happens when your anxiety turns into avoidance, and your avoidance turns into anxiety? This is something I see with women in Love U and a phenomenon that I felt was worth airing in today's episode. Your past doesn't have to predict your future; it just takes strength to make different choices with men.


How to Balance an Anxious/Avoidant Attachment Style

My readers often ask me to create specific programs for them. "Why can't you create something for women in their 60's who are facing a smaller dating pool with men who are retired, widowed, unhealthy and dealing with erectile dysfunction?" The answer is that despite the unique challenges facing women of different ages, 95% of dating and relationship advice is universal. It's about confidence, communication, boundaries, beliefs, and the skill of learning to be more effective in dating. But, as a man of the people, I've listened to you and put together this podcast highlighting the unique challenges of dating in your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, and 60s. l hope this means I don't have to create an entirely new program.



Why Dating Is Different As You Get Older

You know the narrative. Men suck. There are no good ones left. They're all narcissists or losers or emotionally unavailable. The cute ones don't want to settle down. The ones who want to settle down aren't attractive. When you finally find one you like, the compromises are too great. I'm not here to argue with you. What I will say, as a happily married dating coach, is that you have two choices: accept him as he is or dump him. What you can't do is stay in a relationship with a man who you're constantly criticizing and wanting to change. My take: if you can find one man on Earth you can fully accept, you'll both be happy for the rest of your life.



Should You Be Happy Alone?

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