Becoming: HER with Nikki Spoelstra

Should You Stay or Should You Go with Kate Anthony. Ep. 141


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What is up superstars! Today we have the exciting opportunity to speak with Kate Anthony, who is the author of The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage. 


Kate is the host of the critically acclaimed and New York Times recommended podcast, “The Divorce Survival Guide”, while also being the creator of the groundbreaking online coaching program, “Should I Stay or Should I Go”, which helps women make the most difficult decision of their lives using coaching tools, relationship education, geeky neuroscience, community support, and deep self work. Tune in to hear about how she does it all! 



In this episode…

  • Making the D word decision 
  • Coping mechanisms & survival tools 
  • Trusting your capital S Self 
  • When you know, you know 
  • Leaving the unhealthy relationship 
  • Couples therapy 
  • Abusive relationships
  • Narcissism within relationships  



Quotes:


“We can acknowledge that lasting relationships happen by compromising your way to success rather than settling into dissatisfaction, and that couples need to be really intentional about growing together and choosing to love each other, which is an action, not just this concept.” - Nikki Spo 


“The deep self work needs to come first. Connecting with your inner guide, quieting all of the noise and dropping in and hearing what that voice says.” - Kate Anthony 


“Women are exhausted in their marriage I think because the entire institution of marriage is set up to serve and benefit men on the back of the labor of women.” - Kate Anthony 


“If you're in an abusive relationship, your partner is not in the relationship for the same reasons that you are. You're in this relationship for intimacy and connection, they're in it for power and control.” - Kate Anthony 


“Everybody's a work in progress. I am on a continuous journey of healing and getting better.” - Nikki Spo



Timestamps:

0:00 - 2:00 | Intro 

2:00 - 4:25 | Wanting a partnership 

4:25 - 5:10 | Acknowledging that people change over time 

5:10 - 8:25 | The first step when trying to make the D word decision

8:25 - 11:00 | Learning to trust your capital S Self 

11:00 - 12:15 | When you know, you know 

12:15 - 19:45 | Why women are so unhappy in their marriages 

19:45 - 22:30 | Couples therapy 

22:30 - 27:53 | Differences between narcissist, sociopath & selfishness 

27:53 - 32:15 | Placing high value on potential 

32:15 - 39:20 | Emotional abuse 

39:20 - 42:30 | Grooming 

42:30 - 46:10 | Helping women exit their marriage

46:10 - 49:10 | Outro  





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Connect with Kate 

https://kateanthony.com/ 

@thedivorcesurvivalguide  



Connect with Nikki 

www.nikkispo.com  

@nikkisappspo@theknowwithnikkispo 



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