About 20 years into your marriage, you find out that your husband has been cheating on you with your neighbor. You and he go to therapy to try and fix the marriage. While you’re devastated, you remain hopeful because you believe that therapy is going to help your communication, right the wrongs, and ultimately heal the marriage. 



Fast forward, and you find out the reason he wanted to go to therapy was to break up with you, ask you for a divorce, and leave you and your three children behind.



Should you tell your children the truth- can you tell them why daddy is leaving and what he did? Or do you keep your husband’s secret and withhold the truth from your kids? Conventional wisdom tells the wife “keep your mouth shut and don’t involve your kids.” But is that point of view outdated? Why should the betrayed wife suffer in silence and participate in her cheating husband’s cover up? 

Is it right to be evasive with the kids when they start asking questions? 

What do you think? What would you do?



The guest’s name has been changed and her voice has been altered to protect her privacy.

Should You Tell Your Kids The Truth About Their Cheating Father?

Affairs are prevalent but rarely talked about relationships. The podcast, Cheating: When Love Lies, is a deep dive into the complex emotions surrounding these secret unions.
Creator and host, Jillian Hamilton, delves into this taboo topic and asks the hard questions about affairs: how common are they, who's having them, and why? These questions illicit unexpected answers that reveal both men and women as people actively seeking something - validation, escape, understanding, vengeance, thrill, love, sex, and romance - outside of marriage or committed partnerships. Cheating: When Love Lies resists the condemnation of affairs as uniquely wrong or bad and instead considers their usefulness in learning as much about relationships as we learn about our ourselves.
On the podcast, Jillian Hamilton narrates short fictional stories about cheating based on true life events. The narration is followed by a roundtable discussion with everyday people who share their unique perspectives. Jillian also interviews cheaters and betrayed partners. These interviews are raw and real-and at times maddening or heartbreaking.
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For Memorial Day weekend we are featuring one our favorite episodes from the past. On this episode we have a panel discussion with two ladies whose marriages were scorched by infidelity along with their relationship coach Beth Miller. Beth's 12 week program teaches women how to transform themselves in order to transform their lives and relationships. Using Beth's Soulify Wellness method, my two guests, Anne and Marie ( not their real names) explore memories and unprocessed emotions which are often the real reasons for the unhealthy patterns and communication issues in a marriage or partnership. Anne and Marie share intimate details of why they believe their husbands had affairs and why they find it so incredibly difficult to know how to move forward after betrayal. Beth facilitates our chat by offering professional insight into why my guests and so many betrayed women act as they do. Beth Miller Soulify Marriage Saver Program. www. soulifywellness.com

Cheating: When Love Lies Voted by Feedspot as one of the Top 90 PodcastOne Podcasts on the web. 

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Why Is It So Difficult To Leave My Cheating Husband?

This is a classic case of what would you do? What would you do if just two weeks before your wedding you found out your partner was cheating on you? Would you confide in a family member or tell a friend? Would you confront the cheating partner or let it go? Would you immediately cancel the wedding, or take time to consider your options?This nightmare of a predicament happened to my guest Greyson Ferguson. Greyson is a betrayed partner who went on to write very candidly about his experience. Find out what happens to this totally unsuspecting fiancé, when just days before his wedding he finds out his bride-to-be is having an affair. Be a guest on the show:Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com.

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MY BRIDE-TO-BE IS HAVING AN AFFAIR & OUR WEDDING IS IN TWO WEEKS

You're a husband. A good guy, a strong provider and a very present father. Despite that, your wife is not satisfied and has an affair with a man who has substance abuse issues, an unstable job history and troubles with the law. Guided by your faith, you manage to hold your marriage together and your wife ends the affair. But several years later you start to notice some uncomfortable changes in your wife’s behavior.  Should you simply trust that she is remaining faithful, or investigate these red flags? This episode's guest, Harrison Scott Key answers these questions in his book “How To Stay Married-The Most Insane Love Story Ever Told." Find out what happens when a devoted husband struggles with how to move forward after his wife is unfaithful, not once but twice. Be a guest on the show: jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com. Find @cheatingwhenloveslies on IG for highlights from the shows.

My Wife Cheated On Me With A Homeless Man

Some still believe that a wife’s role is to stay at home with her children, tend to her family, and be devoted to her husband. In Western culture these ideas are currently part of the Trad Wife movement. Trad stands for traditional wife. 



On this episode I welcome international matchmaker Florent Raimy,  Founder of Edwige International. Florent’s matchmaking clients are wealthy men from all over the world who are seeking a traditional wife. So….how many of you are scratching your heads right now in disbelief that the traditional wife role still exists? And how many of you are thinking “finally- we’re going back to the way things should be.” Also, is this “one stays at home and the other one works” paradigm relevant to same-sex couples? Let’s hear what my guest has to say. Let’s find out what high net worth men from all over the world are looking for in a wife. Not all wealthy men, but some-and most definitely Edwige International clients.  Is the Trad Wife a walk back into the fifties or a strut into the future? Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com.

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A Renowned Matchmaker On Infidelity & What His Clients Won’t Tolerate

Sometimes an angry affair partner attacks her married lover, his wife and even his children. The affair partner will stalk, cyber stalk, physically attack or threaten her married lover’s wife, children, and extended family in order to taunt, threaten or intimidate them. These affair partners are sometimes called bunny boilers, based on the mentally unstable mistress character in the 80s hit movie Fatal Attraction. My guest Helen spent years facing down her own real life bunny boiler. Join marriage coach and Soulifywellness founder Beth Miller and me as Helen tells how hundreds of phone calls from her husband’s affair partner turned into full blown harassment. Then find out how Helen fought back against the abuse to reclaim her peace. To be a guest on the show please write to Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com.

IG  is @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Reach Beth: @soulifywellness www.soulifywellness.com www.freemarriageguide.com

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Should You Tell Your Kids The Truth About Their Cheating Father?

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