Do you often think your finances are your future self's problem? Well, you're not alone... I also struggle to keep to my budget and, yes, I like to spend my money on trips to Thailand, so it was time to bring in a financial expert.

Victoria Devine is a financial advisor and the host of Australia's leading business podcast She's On The Money. We chat about budgeting, why it's okay to spend money on lifestyle (but not alllll your money), how to start investing in shares, buying your first home and why it's okay to ask dad for help.

Mum and I also did a little activity today: we wrote down our ideal partner for me, and luckily both of us agreed on one crucial characteristic.

Guest: Victoria Devine
Website: https://www.shesonthemoney.com.au/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/victoria_devine/

"The “fun” part of being single isn’t dating. The fun part of being single is no different than the fun part of living life any other way. The fun part is what makes you happy, what gives you purpose. You will never convince me that married people have more purpose in being alive than I do."

I read these words by Shani Silver and instantly knew that I needed to meet her (under the guise of interviewing her, obvi).

Shani is 38, a writer and a podcaster, living in Brooklyn. She's been single for 12 years, and she's not ashamed of or upset about that. She is also on a mission to help single women change the stigma and shame around single women. Her attitude to single life is so infectious that even Linda doesn't give a flying fuck if I stay single forever. 

Okay, maybe she gives one tiny, little fuck. BUT, of her own volition, she's decided to stop making excuses for my single status when well-meaning friends ask Soooooo, has Hannah met someone yet?

We cover off the following questions: 

• You've mentioned one of your top values is freedom - me too, I did a whole episode on it - what does freedom mean to you? 
• Why is there so much shame around being single? How have you flipped the script for yourself?
• In one of your articles, you said "The fun part of being single is no different than the fun part of living life any other way. The fun part is what makes you happy, what gives you purpose. You will never convince me that married people have more purpose in being alive than I do." - I just love and relate to this so much; there's not one path in life that leads to happiness. What's the best part of being single? 
• You have a whole community of single women - what kinds of themes come up in your conversations with them?
• You go to Paris every year alone - I go to Thailand - what do you love about it? Are you a big holiday romance person like me? 

 

This was one of the most enlightening interviews I've done, and I wish we could've covered all bases in 30 mins. Do yourself a favour and check out her Single Girl Syllabus, it's the perfect resource to feel better about being alone:
https://www.shanisilver.com/home/2020/3/17/the-single-girl-syllabus-reading-for-feeling-better-about-being-alone

Guest: Shani Silver
Website: https://www.shanisilver.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shanisilver/

Why do people cheat? And how do you recover if you've been cheated on?

There's a lot of statistics around who is more likely to cheat, but WHY do people cheat? Linda and I discuss one of the most viewed videos on infidelity by Esther Perel, with over 9.5 million views. You can watch it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P2AUat93a8Q&ab_channel=TED

Esther Perel says, "When we seek the gaze of another, it isn't always our partner we're turning away from but the person we ourselves have become. We aren't looking for another person but looking for another self."

But what about the person being cheated on? I first discovered Jess' story on the Love Etc podcast, and I really wanted to know what happened in the aftermath of her story. How was her self esteem affected? How did she get back into the dating scene? What does she love about being single now? And I was happy to hear it's a happy ending for Jess. Spoiler alert: she is living her best life! I hope this gives hope to anyone out there who has recently been cheated on. 

Guest:  Jess Rae King

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessraeking/

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WELCOME TO A BONUS EPISODE OF SINGLE MINDED... BECAUSE I'M A BIT OF A "MOVIE BUFF".  Please note there are spoilers throughout so if you haven't seen Promising Young Woman, either skip it or take yourself out on a solo date and see it!  

Today I'm joined by Dr Janice Loreck to discuss Promising Young Woman. We chat about complicated female characters, women expressing rage on screen, the cinematic joy of watching men bumping and grinding on a dancefloor in their suits and I also ask some hard-hitting questions like, is going to the movies a good first date idea? We also chat about our shared love of going to the movies alone, and why you should definitely take yourself on a date to the movies ASAP.

Janice is a lecturer in Screen and Cultural Studies at Melbourne Uni; she has a PhD in Film and Screen Studies, and her research expertise centres on cinefeminism & women's filmmaking. She is the author of the book Violent Women in Contemporary Cinema and has published in numerous international journals on feminist film theory. 

Dr Loreck is also a co-organiser and founding member of the Melbourne Women in Film Festival (MWFF), a not-for-profit festival aimed at celebrating and supporting the work of women filmmakers and creatives. 

You can find find her on Twitter here: https://twitter.com/janiceloreck

WHEN I GET THAT FEELIN' I WANT SENSUAL HEALIN'

Today we get to the bottom of Hannah versus Hena with Instagram's Queen Of Sensuality. Our lives are all GO, and not enough FLOW. So, how do we allow ourselves to slow down and go with the floooooow (even when we're not on holidays)?

Linda thinks that massaging her tennis elbow will get her more in touch with her body lol.

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, I chat to Eleanor Hadley, who describes sensuality as 'Mindfulness 2.0'. Eleanor is a Sensuality Coach, Sex Educator and Founder of Sesualista Flow, a uniquely feminine movement practice designed to empower students to reclaim their innate sensuality. And she is on a mission to help you embody your femininity, enhance your sex-life and elevate your relationships.

We also touch on how to slow down and live a little more simply, even when you're not in Thailand. So (as Linda recommends), it's time to put some Barry White on and slow dance your way through the chores!

Guest:  Eleanor Hadley
Website: https://www.eleanorhadley.com/
Instagram: http://instagram.com/eleanorhadley

Dear listeners, we love your dating stories! Submit your weirdest, wildest, worst or most wonderful dating stories via Instagram DMs @hannahfurst or email a voice memo to [email protected]

Have you ever been so stressed at work that you start watching really random YouTube videos, like "The 21 Hour Work Week" and "Quitting The Day Job & Starting Van Life" and "A Rich Life With Less Stuff" and "Man Quits $80k Job to Work in Grocery Store Part-Time"?
In my YouTube rabbit hole, I came across a Ted Talk titled "How Stress is Killing Us (And How You Can Stop It)", which, as it happens, was  how I discovered today's guest. So, I decided to interview Thijs Launspach for my podcast to help myself (and anyone listening) to manage our stress in more productive ways.
In other words, "How Not To Quit Your Job Via Email After Not Sleeping For Three Days". Hey, that'd be a pretty good Ted Talk topic?
This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.
The reason this topic is so important to me is that the media seems to think women have only three choices in life: Children, career or trying to balance both. When people my age started getting married and having families, I felt like I had no other choice but to throw myself 1000% into my career, which eventually led to chronic stress and insomnia.
Thijs is a Dutch psychologist, an author and an expert on stress management, burnout and millennials. And he’s written books on these very subjects: Fokking druk (‘Effing busy’), Het Millennial Manifest (‘The Millennial Manifesto’, 2017) and Quarterlife (2012).
So if you're fokking over being fokking stressed, then you'll really enjoy this episode.

Guest:  Thijs Launspach
Website: https://www.thijslaunspach.nl/
His Ted Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NyyPZJrDfkM&ab_channel=TEDxTalks

Dear listeners, we love your dating stories! Submit your "the worst, the weird and the wonderful" stories via Instagram @hannahfurst or email a voice memo to [email protected]

Linda told a sexy story on today's podcast, prefacing it with, "I've never told you this story, it's too embarrassing." 

BUT YOU'RE OKAY TELLING THOUSANDS OF LISTENERS? Linda is a true content creator now. Our new family motto is: "Anything for the content."

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, I chat to one of our listeners, Emma. YES IT'S MY FIRST LISTENER INTERVIEW! Fellow 30-something single girl, Emma, shared her project 'Budget Bachelorette', and I instantly knew THIS IS THE CONTENT WE NEED IN 2021. Her goal? To flip the narrative of the 'modern dating is shit' trope. None of her dates have been a success, if success is measured by wanting to go on a second date. HOWEVER, they've been FUN.

Maybe we need to redefine our definition of success when it comes to dating?

SO, SINGLE MINDED LADIES, LET'S MAKE DATING FUN AGAIN! As Emma says, "it's an opportunity to meet someone new, have a few drinks, and see how things go..."

Or an opportunity to go skinny dipping. But more on that in the episode.

If you're keen to read more about 101 Nights of Great Sex: Secret Sealed Seductions for Fun-Loving Couples, here's Linda's book recommendation: https://www.amazon.com.au/101-Nights-Great-Sex-2020-dp-0578551667/dp/0578551667/ref=dp_ob_title_bk

Maybe she should start a book club? Anything for the content...

Guest:  Emma
Her Instagram: @emmypens
Don't forget to DM her and ask to be added to her close friends if you're keen to watch her Budget Bachelorette highlights

Dear listeners, I want to hear more of your weird and wonderful dating stories. Hit me up on Instagram @hannahfurst to share yours. 

Me: "The legend goes that Koh Phangan in Thailand is sitting on rose quartz which is a healing crystal energy... And that's why it's so magical." 

Linda: "Well... Okay... I can't get with the program but whatever floats your boat."

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, I fill Linda in on my psychic reading and energy healing sessions I had over the Christmas break. Linda doesn't believe in psychics, but she is open to learning more about energy. Enter Raelene... I did a 90 minute healing session with her on the last day of 2020, and afterwards had the BEST SLEEP OF MY LIFE.  You can't argue with that kind of scientific research, now can you Linda? When Raelene asked me what I wanted clarity on, of course I said men. 

At the end of the sesh, I had a BIG lightbulb moment.

Um... Do I choose the wrong men???

One of the most profound things Raelene said to me in our session was: "You are your purpose." What the hell does that mean? You'll have to listen to the episode to find out ;)

Guest: Raelene Byrne
Her website: https://raelenebyrne.com/
Her eBooks: https://raelenebyrne.com/ebooks
You can book in for energy work here: https://raelenebyrne.com/90-and-60-minute-consultations/

Something that Kat said this week reaaaaaally resonated with Linda. Kat said she used to morph into her partners (which wasn't a good thing) and Linda remembered when she first started dating my dad, she told him that she loooooved to camp (even though she'd never been). That didn't last long lol. THEN DAD MORPHED INTO LINDA, and now he won't come camping WITH ME! 

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, I chat to life coach and medication teacher Kat John, who also founded the dance movement Zero Fks Tuesday, also known on Instagram as #zftuesday. I've been to a number of her dance events and OMG THEY ARE AMAZING! You will be high on life in a matter of songs.  

Kat and I talk about her journey from chronic pain to freedom, as well as why she abstained from dating for 18 months, how she met her current partner and why dance is so healing. AND THIS WEEK I'M GONNA DO MY VERY FIRST #ZFTUESDAY VIDEO SO FOLLOW ME AND PLAY ALONG @hannahfurst 

And don't forget, dear listeners... Save your fks for the things that matter.

Guest: Kat John

Her website: https://katjohn.com.au/

Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kat.john/

And definitely check out the hashtag to get inspired: https://www.instagram.com/explore/tags/zftuesday/

GREETINGS FROM (NOT A) VIRGIN RIVER! Linda and I have a lot to catch up with since I got over the border into Queensland, including manifesting my very own Jack Sheridan. 

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, I chat to Shaun Galanos, love coach and the founder of The Love Drive. I discovered his bite-sized dating advice through Tik Tok, where he has over 230k followers.  

We chat about ghosting, his top dating tips and how to flirt with confidence. I really loved his philosophy that if flirting stresses you out, just don't do it. Just be you! 

Guest: Shaun Galanos

His flirting course: https://thelovedrive.com/flirting-and-connection-course/ 

His Instagram & Tik Tok: @TheLoveDrive

The Love Drive podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-love-drive-with-shaun-galanos/id1355859570