Consistency is one of the most essential ingredients of sustainable sobriety. Because alcohol is not the main problem, just a symptom of the problem Chip and Veronica discuss why you have to keep working a program to deal with your feelings and emotions. We also cover why we need a program that enables self-reflection so we can deal with other people. The biggest red-flag that we are not ok is when we start making other people the problem. It is this consistent work we do on ourselves that enables us to grow and stay sober.

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Kelly Ruta is a psychotherapist turned mindset expert for women who have the audacity to change the world. She has also recovered from a devastating eating disorder. Here she discusses the trauma and dysfunction that led to her attempts at suicide and rock bottom. Kelly lays out precisely what she did to recover, the mindset she needed to overcome anorexia and bulimia and how she transformed into the badass Mindset Coach she is today.

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Despite much success in her life Laura Willoughby MBE had reached a point when she realized her drinking was a problem. Rejecting traditional methods of getting sober, she forged her own path and created Club Soda, a UK based organization dedicated to changing our cultural relationship with alcohol. She challenges the media, hospitality industry and broader culture to see sobriety differently. As a member of the LGBTQ community, she also wanted to offer a service that was inclusive and addressed the unique challenges this community had when they tried to stop drinking.

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All things love. We discuss the subject of love in all its forms. Chip talks frankly about his loveless childhood and how this affected his relationships. We look at how parents love children and how we learn to love in our families. We discuss love languages in all relationships and how much we need love but can often push it away.

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***Warning*** contains adult conversation points. Building on last weeks podcast, Chip and Veronica discuss the devastation of porn and sex addiction. How does it manifest itself, what are the consequences and how do you overcome it.

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***Warning*** contains adult conversations of an explicit nature (over 18's only). In this episode Chip and Veronica talk frankly about sex. They discuss sex in recovery but also the broader context of how our view of sex is shaped. We look at the fear and anxiety that we can have in sexual relationships and how porn affects our view of what a sexual relationship can be. Lastly, we also talk about developing healthy sexual relationships in sobriety.

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Veronica welcomes special guest author Kristi Coulter to discuss her first book, Nothing Good Can Come From This, a memoir in essay form about her experiences with alcohol and sobriety. Topics include feminism, relationships and what it's like being a sober woman.

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When you stop drinking life happens. And living life means ups and downs. These experiences are opportunities to grow and change. Chip and Veronica discuss their ups and downs, what they learned and how it changed them.

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We discuss Dry January - is it a good thing, does it actually help? Or is it part of a process people have to go through to realize they have to change. We look at setting goals, the cycle of change and how we self-sabotage and can set ourselves up to fail. Chip also talks about tolerance and how crucial it is to understand how our tolerance for substances changes. We end the show discussing Intuitive Eating and how it can break the shame of dieting and abusing your body.

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In our last show of 2018, we wanted to bring you meaningful insight into how we 'change our attitudes' when we stop drinking. However, despite being 'proper grown-ups' and qualified therapists, everything got very silly, and things just fell apart. We discuss change, ageing, being stuck in our ways while telling silly stories. Also featuring a special guest appearance by Veronica's landscaper ;)

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