Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love

Stop Dating the Wrong People: Decode Your Conflict Style with Dr. John Elliot


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The key to lasting love is more than just chemistry, it's really knowing how you (and your partner) handle conflict. It's communication, emotional intelligence and how you handle stress that builds a lasting connection and relationship In Episode 394 of The Charisma Quotient, "Stop Dating the Wrong People: Decode Your Conflict Style with Dr. John Elliot," Kimmy is joined by Dr. John Elliot, an acclaimed psychologist, conflict resolution expert, and co-author of "How to Get Along With Anyone." With a career spanning consulting for NASA, the US Olympic Committee, the Mayo Clinic, Fortune 500 companies, and appearances in outlets like The New York Times and ESPN, Dr. Elliot is uniquely equipped to reveal why true relationship success depends on how you both show up when the going gets tough—not just when it's smooth sailing.

Together, Kimmy and Dr. Elliot break down the five conflict personality styles—the Avoider, Competitor, Analyzer, Collaborator, and Accommodator—explaining the habits, triggers, and communication patterns that come out when tension rises. You'll hear actionable advice on how to identify your own (and others') conflict styles, why some personality pairings struggle while others thrive, and how to turn moments of tension into lasting intimacy instead of drama or distance. They discuss why your "must-have list" should go beyond looks or job titles, and how picking up on someone's conflict style early can save you heartache down the road.

You'll hear:

  • The "five conflict personality styles"—discover if you're an Avoider, Competitor, Analyzer, Collaborator, or Accommodator (and why it matters so much!)

  • How mismatched conflict styles sabotage romantic chemistry—and what style pairings work best for long-term happiness

  • Real stories from pro sports, high-stakes business, and dating that illustrate these personality clashes and how they're resolved

  • Simple, practical tools and mindset shifts to help you attract, connect with, and keep truly compatible partners

If you've ever felt stuck repeating the same painful patterns, or want to break free from being an overgiver, people-pleaser, or the "nice guy," book a FREE private breakthrough call with Kimmy: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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