Inside The Mind Of An Addict

Stop Feeling Guilty: Responding to Their Victim Mindset


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Setting boundaries with an addicted loved one is hard enough, but what happens when those boundaries trigger guilt trips, blame-shifting, or full-blown victim responses? In this episode, we’re tackling one of the trickiest dynamics in addiction recovery: navigating victim mentality after you set healthy boundaries.

You’ll discover:
✅ Why boundaries often bring out a victim response in someone struggling with addiction.
✅ Common reactions like guilt-tripping, blame-shifting, and minimizing—and how to spot them.
✅ Practical ways to respond with empathy while staying firm.
✅ How to avoid the trap of over-explaining or justifying your decisions.
✅ The power of natural consequences to help your loved one take responsibility.

Whether you’re setting boundaries for the first time or trying to hold the line after years of back-and-forth, this episode will give you the tools and confidence to stay strong, compassionate, and effective.

Remember: Boundaries aren’t punishment—they’re protection for your well-being and a powerful invitation for healthy change.

💡 Additional Resources:
🆓 Amber’s Boundaries Blueprint
🆓 10 Clues Your Loved One Is Thinking About Change
🆓 Identify Your Emotional Triggers
Recovery Coaching with Amber
Rapid Relationship Repair Course
💜 Get Advice from Our Family Recovery Experts
💜 Join Kim and Campbell's Recovery Group

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