Episode 53: Hey y’all 💛 I am beyond excited to share this juicy episode with you because we are going all in on a topic I feel SO passionate about—what actually makes a marriage GREAT. Not “fine,” not “meh,” not “just surviving”—but truly great. ✨

In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of my own love story 💕, share how my definition of a great marriage has radically changed, and break down what I believe is actually required for a deeply connected, life-giving relationship.

We're diving into: 💡 Why emotional adulthood is non-negotiable 🛡️ What it means to be a “secure base” for each other 🧠 How trauma, codependency, and attachment styles affect our marriages 📉 Common myths we’ve all been fed (like “staying no matter what” equals success—nope!) 🔥 The difference between surviving a marriage vs. thriving in one

PLUS—I spill the tea on the real work my partner Joe and I have done to build the kind of connection I used to dream about 🌈.

This episode is a rallying cry to stop settling, start being radically honest with yourself, and dream bigger when it comes to love. You deserve a relationship that helps you soar—not one that holds you back.

💻 Don’t forget to check the show notes for links to my newly refreshed website (hello, branding glow-up!), past episodes that connect with this one, and where to watch the pod on YouTube (yes, VIDEO is here! 🎥).

🧠💗🔥 This one’s a game changer. Let it land. Come back to it. And most of all—know that you’re worthy of a love that feels like home.

Show Notes:

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents - Lindsay C. Gibson

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep--Love - Amir Levine

YouTube Episodes That Relate: 

Episode 4: The 50-Year Marriage Myth 💍 | Time Doesn’t Equal Success

Episode 7: Guilt Is Keeping You Stuck—Here’s How to Break Free

Episode 12: Understanding Your Attachment Style Can Change Everything

Episode 16: True Love or Trauma Bond? How to Tell the Difference 💛

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