Experts say up to 93% of communication is non-verbal.

That's why "saying the right words" or focusing on "communication skills" in marriage almost always FAILS.

Instead, what will make the most IMPACT in your communication is evaluating your INTENTIONS in what you are saying.

And, a great way to find these is to ask yourself...

"What is the sentence AFTER?"

For example, when you say to your wife "I'm trying to understand you..."

Is the sentence after in your head...

"But I can't because that idea is stupid."

Or is it...

"Because I want to really understand where you're at so we can find something that works for both of us."

Because your wife (and you) WILL pick up on this sentence after.

You just have to do the work to FIND it and WORK on it.

And you CAN do it!

Watch on YouTube here.

Mike

P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…

CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.

You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!

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You think it’s…

Good sex. Being appreciated. Being valued. Being loved.

And, a successful marriage does include ALL of those things.

BUT…

Your wife CAN NOT give those to you.

These things MUST come from something DEEPER and more SOLID than your wife’s words and actions.

And you CAN feel those things… even WITHOUT your wife.

You can feel full, valued, loved and appreciated.

Learn how in this episode.

Watch on YouTube 

Mike

P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife...

And create an amazing legacy for your family to follow…
 
All while living true to Christian values...

Starting TODAY…

CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.

You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!

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A lot of the men I work with are looking for VALIDATION from their wives.

Now, they will call it different things.

They will say "I just want my wife to care" or "I just want my wife to have sex with me" or "I just want my wife to reach out to me when she doesn't need something."

But, when it comes down to it, they are asking for their wife to VALIDATE their sense of self-worth.

I did this for YEARS in my marriage.

Unfortunately, it doesn't work.

Your wife can NOT be responsible for your sense of self-worth.

She can try for a while, but eventually she'll get tired of it.

Instead, you need to KNOW for YOURSELF that you have INFINITE worth and potential.

That you are WORTH choosing.

Then, you can go out and serve your wife WITHOUT expecting her attention, appreciation or affection...

Which is when you are MOST LIKELY to get it from her.

Because she knows there really are "no strings attached."

Watch on YouTube here.

Mike

P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife...

And create an amazing legacy for your family to follow…
 
All while living true to Christian values...

Starting TODAY…

CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.

You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!

P.S. If you’d like to continue the journey with us, visit StrongMen.io and join our email list.
You’ll receive exclusive updates, and you’ll be the first to know when our community programs and other opportunities open up. That’s StrongMen.io. I’ll see you there.

As I’ve thought about how to help my clients better, I realized that I neglected something VERY important…

Developing your physical strength and fitness.

Find out why in this week’s episode:

Watch on YouTube here.

Summary:

When you work on a physical goal, MANY good things happen…

-Your overall health and energy improve

-Your mind works more easily and quickly

-You are able to find purpose and meaning

-You have TOTAL control over it, which is powerful… especially when you’re feeling powerless

-You develop consistency and the ability to fail, both of which are necessary in to succeed in ALL areas of life

Mike

P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife...

And create an amazing legacy for your family to follow…
 
All while living true to Christian values...

Starting TODAY…

CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.

You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!

P.P.S. Want proof I dunked? Visit this page.

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In case you thought a great marriage is always perfect...

You're wrong!

In this episode I share a negative pattern that has plagued our marriage for YEARS...

And what I did to FINALLY start breaking free from it.

Hint: It has to do with me feeling like a MARTYR in my marriage.

Watch on YouTube here.

Summary:

-When I feel like a martyr in my marriage, my WIFE is probably struggling

-Instead of COMPLAINING, use my strengths

-Spiritual strength - Be the strong and loving husband I want to be

-Emotional strength - Seek to UNDERSTAND her and manage my OWN emotions

-Mental strength - Use STFAIR to look at my thoughts

-Sexual strength - Approach sex in a way I can be PROUD of

Mike

P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife...

And create an amazing legacy for your family to follow…
 
All while living true to Christian values...

Starting TODAY…

CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.

You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!

P.S. If you’d like to continue the journey with us, visit StrongMen.io and join our email list.
You’ll receive exclusive updates, and you’ll be the first to know when our community programs and other opportunities open up. That’s StrongMen.io. I’ll see you there.

"Your wife can prop up your ego or your penis, but not both."

Today I have a VERY special treat for you all!

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife!

If you're not familiar with her work, she is a licensed therapist who specializes in relationships and sexuality.

She is one of the people I respect and admire very much and who has helped me understand why focusing on STRENGTH is SO IMPORTANT when it comes to sexual attraction.

In this interview you will learn:
-How the female sexual response works... and why being a good CHOICE for her is so important
-Why you need to STOP being "pathetic" when it comes to sex... and what to do instead
-How to approach sex with your wife in a way that's ATTRACTIVE... instead of just saying "do you want to have sex?"
-My own personal breakthrough at the end of the interview about the feeling of "taking" sex from my wife... and how I can approach it in a way I can be PROUD of... even though my wife has a history of serious sexual abuse

You can find Dr. Finlayson-Fife's excellent courses and retreats here: http://finlayson-fife.com


Dr. Mike


P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife...

And create an amazing legacy for your family to follow…
 
All while living true to Christian values...

Starting TODAY…

CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.

You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!

P.S. If you’d like to continue the journey with us, visit StrongMen.io and join our email list.
You’ll receive exclusive updates, and you’ll be the first to know when our community programs and other opportunities open up. That’s StrongMen.io. I’ll see you there.

Most people come to me because they’re not happy in their marriage.

They’re not getting enough of what they want from their wife.

BUT, they usually are NOT doing the MOST EFFECTIVE things to get their wife (or others) to do more of what they want.

Learn the BEST and MOST EFFECTIVE ways to influence others to do more of what you want in this episode.

Watch on YouTube here. 

Summary:

-COMPLAINING will NOT get you more of what you want

-Figure out EXACTLY what you want your wife to do

-Ask for that, giving a REASON why you want it

-If she says “no…”

-Try to understand WHY

-Feel the hard emotions that come up

-Decide what YOU will do if she says “no”

-Follow through on what you said you would do

Mike

P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife...

And create an amazing legacy for your family to follow…
 
All while living true to Christian values...

Starting TODAY…

CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.

You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!

P.S. If you’d like to continue the journey with us, visit StrongMen.io and join our email list.
You’ll receive exclusive updates, and you’ll be the first to know when our community programs and other opportunities open up. That’s StrongMen.io. I’ll see you there.

We just celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary at an amazing party with family and friends that are also family.

You’ll hear a few tips on how to throw a great party…

And  5 of the biggest lessons that I’ve learned through these 15 years.

Watch on YouTube here 

Summary:

• 1 - Decide and then get spiritual confirmation
• 2 - Have faith and let people help
• 3 - Happy wife happy life is a lie
• 4 - Intimacy requires bravery
• 5 - You have to know the bitter to know the sweet

Mike

P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife...

And create an amazing legacy for your family to follow…
 
All while living true to Christian values...

Starting TODAY…

CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.

You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!

P.S. If you’d like to continue the journey with us, visit StrongMen.io and join our email list.
You’ll receive exclusive updates, and you’ll be the first to know when our community programs and other opportunities open up. That’s StrongMen.io. I’ll see you there.

Do you feel like you're trying hard in your marriage...

But it's making NO difference?

Is your wife INDIFFERENT about your changes...

Or even HOSTILE about them?

In this episode, we'll discuss how you can use FAITH to continue to "do good to them that hate you."

Watch on YouTube here

Summary:

-Doing good is like planting a seed

-Continuing to do good is like watering that seed

-It can take YEARS to see that seed grow into a plant

-BUT, every day of watering counts.

-You are building up the roots. Becoming that better man.

-And good WILL return to you for it. Guaranteed.

-Keep watering. Have patience. Have faith.

Mike

P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife...

And create an amazing legacy for your family to follow…
 
All while living true to Christian values...

Starting TODAY…

CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.

You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!

P.S. If you’d like to continue the journey with us, visit StrongMen.io and join our email list.
You’ll receive exclusive updates, and you’ll be the first to know when our community programs and other opportunities open up. That’s StrongMen.io. I’ll see you there.

How To Fight In Marriage… And Come Out Stronger For It

Do you have conflicts in marriage that leave you feeling STUCK?

Do you have the same arguments about sex, money, parenting, religion, in-laws or cleaning over and over?

Would you like to break FREE of that cycle?

You'll learn how in this episode.

Watch on YouTube here 

Summary:

-Feeling DISTANT from your spouse activates your lower, "crocodile" brain

-Puts you into FIGHT or FLIGHT mode

-Common for one spouse to want to fight (talk about things) and one to want to "drop it" (flight)

-To get through this...

-CALM your crocodile brain

-Seek FIRST to understand, then to be understood

-Find the HIGHER way. Win win. Enthusiastic agreement

-Turn CONFLICT into more CONNECTION and INTIMACY

Mike

P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife...

And create an amazing legacy for your family to follow…
 
All while living true to Christian values...

Starting TODAY…

CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.

You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!

P.S. If you’d like to continue the journey with us, visit StrongMen.io and join our email list.
You’ll receive exclusive updates, and you’ll be the first to know when our community programs and other opportunities open up. That’s StrongMen.io. I’ll see you there.