May 14, 2024

Tackling Toxicity: Using the JADE Method to Navigate Divorce & Co-Parenting amidst Post-Separation Abuse, Coercive Control, or Narcissistic Traits

41 minutes

🤔 Are you facing a challenging divorce, separation, or co-parenting situation with a difficult ex-partner? Are you seeking effective strategies to handle criticism, control, and over-explaining in your communications?

🎧 Listen to this episode to learn how the JADE Method can assist you in navigating these complexities, while being careful not to make mistakes that could come back to bite you in the Family Court or at Mediation with this ever-increasingly popular method.

💼 Learn about practical approaches to maintain composure, protect yourself from post-separation abuse, and respond calmly amidst conflict from a family law specialist with over 35 years of experience who has seen it all.

Listen to this episode if you:

Are navigating a divorce, separation, or co-parenting, especially if it involves a difficult ex-partner.
Want strategies for dealing with criticism, control, and over-explaining in communication with your ex.
Are breaking out of a coercive control situation while going through the divorce or separation process.
Are dealing with post-separation abuse after separation.
Are co-parenting with a narcissistic ex.
Are interested in understanding recent changes in family law regarding decision-making responsibilities for children.

Key Ideas:

An introduction to the JADE method (Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain) and its application in dealing with difficult ex-partners.
Discussion on the importance of not falling back into patterns of over-explaining or justifying oneself, especially if the relationship was characterised by criticism and control.
Explanation of recent changes in family law regarding decision-making responsibilities for children, emphasising the distinction between major long-term decisions and day-to-day matters.
Strategies for responding calmly and rationally rather than reacting impulsively in communication with an ex.
Importance of taking care of one's own well-being and seeking support during the divorce or separation process.
Reminder to seek individualised legal and psychological support as needed.

ARTICLE LINK

Jade Method Article by PsychCentral

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.

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Episodes Mentioned

(Do I really need to respond to that?! When co parenting communication becomes tricky during divorce proceedings.)

Recent Reforms Episode

Word Salad Checklist and Method

(The importance of record keeping during divorce & separation: the what, why, when and how to help yourself in mediation, family court or even just in negotiation.)

(Affidavits for Divorce Settlement in the Family Law Court)

(Pitfalls of premature percentages negotiations in divorce)

Useful Resources:

Click here for our free before you leave checklist

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Emergency Contacts:

WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
LEGAL AID
Lifeline 13 11 14
Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
Relationships Australia
Police on 000
DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

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