In this episode, I want to emphasize that your drinking doesn't mean anything about who you are as a person, your character, or whether or not you're valuable. I'll share the piece of advice this friend gave me and talk about why it was so unhelpful in the moment, but how I now realize that it mirrors our society's beliefs about drinking and individual control. And I'll tell you all about what it takes to change your habits and transform your relationship with alcohol and with yourself.

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Why panic, fear, and shame are such poor motivators, why you have to understand the "why" behind your current habits, and why you should have a plan for failing. Keeping your resolutions can't just be an exercise in willpower - because that will end in frustration and shame. Give yourself everything you need to change your habit for good!

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Why we shouldn't set up a false choice between drinking and having fun versus not drinking and having less fun. I'll tell you about why socializing without alcohol is a common obstacle for people taking a break and how to be onto your thoughts when they say you have to drink to have fun. And I'll dive into the thoughts behind the habit of consuming to enjoy events, how you were actually born to have fun, and how can tap into that instinct again with practice and time.

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In this episode we're talking about the thought "I don't want to stop drinking" and how to approach it. We'll talk about why even a temporary break can be such a powerful tool for understanding the thoughts and feelings that are underpinning your desire to drink. And we'll also break down why you can't just look at drinking vs. not drinking as good vs. bad behavior and why shaming yourself won't get you the results you want.

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In this episode I redefine failure and talk about why it isn't a bad thing. I talk about why our thoughts are what makes failure seem like a negative, painful experience, and why we need to stop making failure mean something bad about ourselves. And I share the many teaching opportunities failure gives us if we're willing to slow down and get curious about our thoughts, feelings, and actions surrounding failure.

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From the time we're children we're taught how to show up for other people: parents, friends, teachers, and eventually bosses. We're taught to seek other people's approval rather than prioritizing our approval of ourselves.

In this episode, I dive into all of this in-depth and explain how you can get better at showing up for yourself. I talk about why it can often feel like there are two versions of ourselves - one who wants to keep promises and one who just wants to break them - and how the think-feel-act cycle plays into this. And I highlight why it's so important that you accept yourself and believe that you're capable of change.

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The right book at the right moment can change everything. I’ve put together a list of my favorite books for all my podcast listeners. They cover everything from addiction, habit change, food, sex, love, money, creativity, productivity and more. Text your email address in all lowercase letters to 415-275-6589 and reply BOOKS if you want to grab a copy.

In today's episode, we're talking all about being wrong, why we cling so hard to being right, and how to build up your capacity for being wrong about yourself. I'll share some of the reasons why your brain likes to be right and how this can get in the way of changing your drinking and other habits. And we'll look forward into the future at what lies on the other side of being willing to be wrong about yourself.

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In this episode I dig into how we can create motivation to stop drinking, and why the idea that you have to hit rock bottom in order to create change can be so harmful. I talk about this thought "I just like to drink" and how I dealt with it when I realized my relationship with alcohol was having increasingly negative consequences. And I share what it's really like on the other side of drinking and why I find so much more joy in everyday life now that I've recalibrated my brain's response to pleasure.

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How to reduce drama, create more neutral thoughts, and slowly but surely create a less dramatic existence. I provide a lot of real-life examples in this episode that you can apply right away. They cover everything from drama about time, to drama about to do lists, to fears and anxieties about our appearance and relationships.

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