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Taylor Swift, Travis Kelce & The Secret to Love: Compersion vs. Jealousy


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Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce made headlines this week thanks to the heartwarming reaction of Travis and his brother, Jason Kelce, as they celebrated Taylor's new album, The Life of a Showgirl. Relationship therapist Esther Perel weighed in, highlighting the concept of "compersion" in a recent Instagram reel that's been buzzing online in relation to Travis' celebration of her.If you have a pattern of people you date or attract in your life that tend to be competitive, jealous and critical rather than supportive and happy for your successes then this is an episode you won't want to miss.In Episode 407 of The Charisma Quotient, Taylor Swift, Travis Kelce & The Secret to Love: Compersion vs. Jealousy, Kimmy dives into the power and importance of compersion—feeling authentic joy for the happiness and success of someone you love—and unpacks why these "cheerleader" moments are the true green flags in dating.

Relationship therapist, Esther Perel, used this term "compersion" recently in an Instagram reel that's been buzzing online in relation to the heartwarming reaction of Travis Kelce and his brother Jason as they celebrated Taylor Swift's new album. Kimmy unpacks why these "cheerleader" moments are the true green flags in dating.

Kimmy uses real-life coaching stories to illustrate how compersion and jealousy show up on first dates and far into relationships. You'll hear about clients who kept attracting partners that would downplay their wins, make dismissive jokes, or always steer the conversation back to themselves—leaving them feeling small, unseen, and unsupported. Kimmy explains where these reactions come from and why they're red flags you need to spot early.

Through practical steps, Kimmy teaches you how to identify and cultivate compersion. She outlines a powerful homework assignment to the listeners on how to conduct a "compersion check-in" on your next date, how to reclaim your power by celebrating your own wins without shrinking, and how to recondition yourself to receive genuine support—especially if it feels uncomfortable or "foreign" at first.

You'll hear:

  • How to spot the subtle signs of compersion (and jealousy) from the very first date, so you don't waste time on someone whose insecurity will make you feel small.

  • A real-life client story that illustrates how someone can seem charming and supportive, but consistently chips away at your joy—and how to break that toxic cycle for good.

  • Specific "green flags" that signal emotional maturity and genuine support, versus common "red flags" that point to competition and insecurity.

  • A simple, three-step "Compersion Check-In" exercise you can try on your next date or even in your current relationship, to see how supported you really feel.

If you are wanting to break patterns in your dating life and want a Taylor and Travis kind of love, hop on a private call with Kimmy to flush out what might be causing that and find ways to attract the right partner for you https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

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