January 24, 2025

The #1 Reason Most Relationships Fail (And How to Avoid It)

1 hour 15 minutes

🎙️In this powerful episode of I Wish You Knew Podcast, Adam Lane Smith, the attachment specialist, sits down with Axel and Chelby, a couple who faced the emotional turmoil of a breakup, only to come back together stronger than ever. With the help of the attachment specialist they explore the hidden dynamics of breakups, how attachment issues played a role in their separation, and how they navigated living together after calling it quits.

This episode uncovers the importance of space, communication, and understanding attachment patterns in relationships—especially after a breakup. We dive deep into the psychological impact of breakups, the fear of history repeating itself, and how a breakup doesn’t have to be the end. Discover how healing is possible even after the most painful moments, and what it really takes to rebuild trust and love.

✨ Key Moments ✨:

👉 The hidden dynamics behind breakups and how they can be avoided.

👉 Why emotional shutdowns and high stress levels often trigger breakups.

👉 How communication (or lack thereof) can make or break your relationship during challenging times.

👉 The role of hormones (like cortisol and oxytocin) in managing stress and emotional connections.

👉 Why conscious decision-making is critical to preventing a repeat breakup in the future.

👉 How attachment styles impact the way you handle relationship stress.

👉 The importance of creating space and boundaries during emotional chaos.

Axel and Chelby share their raw, personal journey through emotional exhaustion, feelings of being trapped, and ultimately rediscovering their connection. Join us as we explore how relationships can evolve after a breakup, and learn how to create emotional clarity and healing from attachment wounds. 🎧

If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Avoidant Husband & Anxious Wife Coached by Attachment Specialist’

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QiPEH0o3EKA&ab_

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