The Art of Charm

The Art of Engaging Small Talk Toolbox


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In today’s episode, we cover talking to strangers with AJ and Johnny. 

You never know what friend, business partner, or love interest you’ll meet by striking up a conversation with strangers in your daily life, but how do you create engaging conversations with anyone, what two things do you need for great conversations, and how do you make an unforgettable first impression?

What to Listen For

  • Introduction – 0:00
  • How is technology harming our ability to hold conversations and how do we overcome it?
  • Why is it important to your health and social life to make small talk with strangers?
  • Simple Techniques for Talking to Strangers – 23:16
  • What tips can you use to have fun conversations with strangers?
  • How do you know what to talk about with strangers?
  • How do you give a compliment to a stranger?
  • The Art of Charm Conversation Formula – 37:05
  • What is the formula for great conversations?
  • How do you have a good conversation with anyone?
  • What are the two things you need to have great conversations?
  • Why is vulnerability important in conversations and how can you be vulnerable without being too vulnerable?
  • Small talk is important because it helps us to get to know other people, learn about new things, and build relationships. It can also help you feel more connected and socialize when you may be feeling lonely or isolated. To know what to talk about with strangers, think about the setting you’re in and try to find a common ground or interest that you share. The formula for great conversations is simple: ask open-ended questions, listen attentively, and then share something personal about yourself. Having a good conversation with anyone is all about being vulnerable and letting your guard down a little bit. Don’t be afraid to share some of your own experiences or feelings, as long as you do so in a way that isn’t overwhelming or off-putting. 

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    Resources from this Episode

    • The Secret to More Engaging Small Talk
    • Toolbox | 3 Steps to Break Out of Small Talk and Instantly Build Rapport
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