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In Part 1 of our 3-part Communication Series, relationship experts and hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin break down why communication goes wrong so often—even when we love our partner and have the best intentions.

This episode focuses on the “DON’Ts” of communication: the instinctive, automatic responses we fall into when we’re tired, defensive, triggered, or overwhelmed. These reactions may feel honest in the moment, but they often shut down connection and emotional safety.

Through real-life examples, personal stories, and practical reframes, Tarah and EJ show how the same situations can feel completely different when handled with validation, active listening, and emotional awareness.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why emotional invalidation damages trust (even when you’re trying to help)
• How saying “I never said that” escalates conflict instead of resolving it
• Why accusations and blame shut down vulnerability
• The hidden danger of mind reading and unspoken expectations
• Why fights about chores are almost never about the chores
• How just one partner responding differently can completely change the outcome of a conflict

This episode lays the foundation for healthier communication—not perfection. If you’ve ever thought, “We keep having the same fight over and over,” this series is for you.

Coming next:

• Part 2: Validation & Active Listening (the skills that change everything)
• Part 3: Triggers, Repair Attempts & Slowing Reactivity

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