You know the thing that would help. You have known for a while. You still have not done it.
Dr. Aimie recognized herself in the research on learned helplessness. For a long stretch of her life she expected everything to be hard, expected to fail, and quietly stopped trying without ever deciding to. It is not laziness. It is a body that learned effort did not matter and powered the effort down.
In this Part 2 conversation, recorded in Josh Trent's Austin studio, they talk about what separates resting from escaping, why the drive built on your own wound eventually stops working, and how a little safety is enough to take the next step.
This is Part 2 of two. Part 1 is here: https://www.biologyoftrauma.com/post/why-do-we-escape-instead-of-rest-josh-trent-on-emotional-epigenetics
02:04 How to tell resting from escaping
04:25 The three questions behind your purpose
06:48 Why the fuel of your own wound stops working
07:58 Grieving the old identity
10:05 Why showing up takes borrowed energy
13:24 Conditioned happiness and the opposite he found
17:18 The Seabiscuit story and learned helplessness
21:45 Recognizing the pattern in someone else
26:49 What most people misunderstand about a leader
30:20 Freedom fuels flow, fear fuels force
31:27 Why curiosity needs safety first
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Get The Biology of Trauma book. Read Chapter 13, on why the body will not rest until it feels safe, and how to start building that safety.
Josh Trent hosts the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast
Full show notes: https://www.biologyoftrauma.com/post/why-is-not-trying-a-survival-response-not-a-weakness-with-josh-trent-part-2
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