July 25, 2022

The Brown Girl’s (or Guy’s) Guide to Divorce: What to Do When Your Culture Collides with Your Divorce with Author and Coach, Cindy Gunraj on Divorce & Beyond #247

44 minutes

On this week's episode, Host, Susan Guthrie and Special Guest, Cindy Gunraj discuss the layered and nuanced topic of cultural norms as they relate to divorce and how your family's expectations and beliefs can make a difficult experience even harder.

Cindy Gunraj is a brown woman who has tackled the difficult experience of divorce within a family construct and culture that prizes marriage and family above the individual. Her experience brought her into direct conflict with her parents and extended family in a way that made her divorce feel like a failure not only on a personal level, but on a societal one as well. The bright side is that Cindy persevered, worked to understand and appreciate the love while also challenging those cultural norms in a way that ultimately resulted in her receiving her family's support for her divorce and her parents' blessing. Cindy shares her experience and her insights to help others who are facing a divorce that collides with their family, culture, religion and more in her book, Winning Your Parents' Approval for Divorce: 7 Practices to Leave Your Marriage with Their Blessing.

Some topics that Cindy and Susan discuss:

How Cindy's parents and extended family reacted to her announcement that she was getting a divorce

The ways in which a brown woman's or man's self-image are tied to their cultural norms and challenged when those norms and broken

Why boundary setting is a necessary part of seeking family approval and support in divorce

Why "priming" is an essential tool for dealing with family get-togethers and events

How self-care is at the core of finding a way to merge your own happiness with your family's expectations

This episode is the essential starter guide for merging your family, culture and your need for personal happiness and growth - be sure to listen!

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About this week's special guest: Cindy Gunraj

Peeling away the veils of cultural taboos, Cindy Gunraj bravely left a stifling marriage and deepened bonds with her parents. She’s an ICF credited coach and certified divorce coach helping women who are contemplating divorce and are deeply concerned about cultural pressures that come into play in divorce. Cindy’s also the author of 1# Amazon bestseller, “Winning Your Parents’ Approval for Divorce. 7 Practices to Leave Your Marriage with Their Blessing.” Her most recent book “Listen to Yourself: The Brown Girl’s Guide to Trusting Your Intuition” was a 1# Amazon International Best Seller. Cindy enjoys hiking and spending time with her corgi Joy and life partner David.

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July 25, 2022

The Brown Girl’s (or Guy’s) Guide to Divorce: What to Do When Your Culture Collides with Your Divorce with Author and Coach, Cindy Gunraj on Divorce & Beyond #247

44 minutes

Some topics that Cindy and Susan discuss:

How Cindy's parents and extended family reacted to her announcement that she was getting a divorce