Betrayal doesn't just hurt.
It rewires your nervous system, shakes your ability to trust yourself, and makes you question everything you thought you knew about your relationship.
In this episode, Joe Sanok shares what happened when his marriage ended suddenly on an RV trip, how he navigated the shock of becoming an unexpected single dad, and what it actually took to rebuild his life without replaying the same patterns.
Joe talks openly about waking up in a camper next to someone who was already gone, the nervous system chaos that followed, and why he built a "support committee" instead of white-knuckling his way through alone.
We also get into dating after betrayal, how to show up for yourself when everything feels uncertain, and what it looks like to trust again without abandoning the parts of you that are still healing.
This conversation is for anyone who's been blindsided by betrayal, anyone who's had to rebuild their sense of safety from the ground up, or anyone who's wondered if they'll ever feel solid in a relationship again.
Topics covered:
- What betrayal trauma does to your nervous system
- How Joe's marriage ended and what the early days looked like
- Why building a support committee matters more than going it alone
- Dating after betrayal without repeating the same patterns
- Learning to trust yourself again after your judgment feels broken
- How to parent through your own crisis
- Rebuilding safety in your body and relationships
Download Joe's new book: Dating After Betrayal: A Guided Healing and Re-Entry Experience here.
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