The Confidence Chronicles

Hola, hola! It’s my BIRTHDAY!!!! 

That’s right, I’m getting older. And I’m filled with deep gratitude for every single moment of it.

We hear so much about fighting the signs of aging, trying to look as youthful as we can and aging gracefully. But screw that, none of that matters. 

I’m gonna age GRATEFULLY.

In this episode, I talk about the miracle of being alive and how losing my first husband at the age of 23 made me see getting older as something to be grateful for. 

Being alive is a gift that not everyone gets.

It doesn’t matter how young you look, how much money you make or how many followers you have. You can’t take any of that stuff with you. 

It’s time to flip the script on what aging means to you. What really matters in your life?

Forget age gracefully. Age GRATEFULLY.

Where To Find Erika:

• Want all my confidence secrets for $39? Grab a SIGNED copy of MY BOOK (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/confidencebook/)
• Instagram: @thequeenofconfidence (https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/)
• Facebook: @Theconfidencequeen (https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen)
• YouTube: The Queen Of Confidence (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzgN7oWfbMJVj41xfJLA5Yg)
• LinkedIn: https://au.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-ab695571
• Coach with me - The Sistahood Program: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/sistahood/
• Website: www.thequeenofconfidence.com (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/)

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We’re in lockdown in Melbourne. Again. 

Is it a pain in the ass? Yes. 

Am I gonna stay in the problem? Hell no.

Because I’ve conditioned myself to become solution focussed. 

It got me thinking about how when shit hits the fan, how do you respond?

Are you focussing on the problems and the challenges in your life or are you searching for the opportunities and solutions?

I thought this would be a good topic to talk about because we all face challenges in life. Nothing is ever perfect. 

It’s about how you respond in those pain in the ass moments. That’s how you build resilience and get into solution mode.

In this episode I talk about leaving the problem mind and getting into the possibility mind. 

Because when you’re not focussed on the problem, anything is possible.

Where To Find Erika:

• Want all my confidence secrets for $39? Grab a SIGNED copy of MY BOOK (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/confidencebook/)
• Instagram: @thequeenofconfidence (https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/)
• Facebook: @Theconfidencequeen (https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen)
• YouTube: The Queen Of Confidence (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzgN7oWfbMJVj41xfJLA5Yg)
• LinkedIn: https://au.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-ab695571
• Coach with me - The Sistahood Program: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/sistahood/
• Website: www.thequeenofconfidence.com (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/)

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So you know you’ve got some areas in your life that you need to deal with? (Don’t we all!)

But are you feeling overwhelmed just thinking about it?

I have a lot of women tell me they don’t know where to start when doing the work. 

It’s all too terrifying to face and they're worried about what they may find buried beneath the surface.

But what happens if you decide NOT to start the inner work?

A lot happens.

Because if you don’t face the things that mess with you head on or deal with the issues that are causing you pain, unhappiness or anxiety, they will keep happening...

Over and over again. 

The trick is to tackle the biggest problem first. 

In my latest episode of the podcast, I talk about how I look at my life from a bigger picture and  work on the big stuff first.

I talk about making time to be with yourself, asking questions and being okay to sit with uncomfortable feelings and have difficult conversations. 

If you don’t have the kind of life you want right now, my love it is your responsibility to change it.

We all have something to work on. 

So what’s your biggest thing?

Episodes mentioned in this episode:

Breaking Out Of Your Comfort Zone with Endurance Athlete, Samantha Gash (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/breaking-out-of-your-comfort-zone-with-endurance-athlete-samantha-gash/)

Life changing conversations you're missing out on
(https://thequeenofconfidence.com/life-changing-conversations-youre-missing-out-on/)

Where To Find Erika:

Want all my confidence secrets for $39? Grab a SIGNED copy of MY BOOK (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/confidencebook/)

• Instagram: @thequeenofconfidence (https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/)
• Facebook: @Theconfidencequeen (https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen)
• YouTube: The Queen Of Confidence (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzgN7oWfbMJVj41xfJLA5Yg)
• LinkedIn: https://au.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-ab695571
• Coach with me - The Sistahood Program: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/sistahood/
• Website: www.thequeenofconfidence.com (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/)

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I’m talking about women supporting women today. And I mean ALL women. 

So what does that mean? What does that look like for you?

I see a lot of cute quotes and hashtags and t-shirts going around saying there’s no competition and that we need to support each other. 

But are we REALLY supporting women?  

Are you supporting the women who frustrate you? The women who are mean? What about the women who aren’t cool or fashionable or the women who are a pain in the ass? 

This episode is a challenge to us all to look closer at our lives and businesses and to think about what supporting women really looks like on a daily basis. I talk about what real supportive relationships look like and how we attract what we are willing to cultivate. I talk about lifting up every woman in your life and not making room for jealousy, mistrust or competition.

ALL women need to be held, seen and heard. And it starts with you. Only when you are a stand for yourself can you be a pillar for someone else.

Where To Find Erika:

• BUY MY BOOK (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/confidencebook/)
• Instagram: @thequeenofconfidence (https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/)
• Facebook: @Theconfidencequeen (https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen)
• YouTube: The Queen Of Confidence (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzgN7oWfbMJVj41xfJLA5Yg)
• LinkedIn: https://au.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-ab695571
• Sistahood Program: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/sistahood/
• Website: www.thequeenofconfidence.com (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/)

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Attention business ladies: You have so much opportunity right now. The power that small business has over big business is that you have the ability to build genuine relationships with people. 

You have the superpower of being able to humanize your business. 

That is your unique ability and people don’t buy products or services - they buy YOU.

And that’s powerful.

I really wanted to talk about this topic in particular today because I see so many small businesses out there not making the impact they could be making on social media. 

In this episode I talk about using social media as the relationship building tool that it is, about sharing your story and why that’s so powerful when it comes to building community and ultimately trust with your clients. 

If your audience isn’t seeing who you are and what you’re about and why, I can tell you right now that your business isn’t going to create the true impact it can.

So sis, what are you doing to build your community and foster great relationships?

Where To Find Erika:

Want all my confidence secrets for $39? Grab a SIGNED copy of MY BOOK (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/confidencebook/)

• Instagram: @thequeenofconfidence (https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/)
• Facebook: @Theconfidencequeen (https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen)
• YouTube: The Queen Of Confidence (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzgN7oWfbMJVj41xfJLA5Yg)
• LinkedIn: https://au.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-ab695571
• Coach with me - The Sistahood Program: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/sistahood/
• Website: www.thequeenofconfidence.com (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/)

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Everything in my life is my responsibility. This is my mantra and it has served me my entire life.

I talk openly about my past; about the sexual abuse, growing up with a mother with bipolar, being in the foster system, my husband dying. It’s a lot... and none of it was my fault. But I've learned that I have the opportunity to choose how I respond to the things that were out of my control. 

This topic has been coming up a lot with my clients lately and it’s something I feel so passionate about. This episode is all about taking responsibility for those terrible and horrible things that have happened to you and turning them around for your good. This is the work that I constantly do and teach to my clients. Those things are never our fault, but they are our responsibility.

So my challenge to you today is, what area of your life can you take responsibility for? Maybe it’s managing your emotions and not flying into a rage when things go wrong. Maybe it’s looking at the state of your relationships, your bank account balance or things going wrong in your business.

In life, things will happen that are completely out of your control. You don’t get to choose what happens, but you DO get to choose how you respond. 

It’s not your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Be encouraged, my love.  You can make your life whatever you want it to be, no matter what has happened. 

Episodes we mentioned in this episode:

Life Lessons Series: 

Losing My Husband (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/l-l-s-4-losing-my-husband/)

Growing Up With A Bipolar Mother (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/l-l-s-3-lessons-learned-growing-up-with-a-bi-polar-mother/)

Reuniting with my Dad after 20 years (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/life-lessons-series-reuniting-with-my-dad-after-20-years/)

Why I’m having surgery (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/life-lessons-series-why-im-having-surgery/)

Post Op (http://life-lessons-series-recovery-post-implant-removal-surgery-2)

My journey with Lichen Sclerosis (http://my-journey-with-lichen-sclerosus)

Where To Find Erika:

• BUY MY BOOK (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/confidencebook/)
• Instagram: @thequeenofconfidence (https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/)
• Facebook: @Theconfidencequeen (https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen)
• YouTube: The Queen Of Confidence (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzgN7oWfbMJVj41xfJLA5Yg)
• LinkedIn: https://au.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-ab695571
• Sistahood Program: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/sistahood/
• Website: www.thequeenofconfidence.com (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/)

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Lastly - THANK YOU for listening, I APPRECIATE YOU!

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You guys, we have hit 1 MILLION downloads! 

I was trying to decide how I wanted to celebrate this milestone and to be honest, I really just wanted to hear from the listeners.

I wanted to hear from you. 

What episodes really resonated with you and what action did you take to change your life as a result?

So I decided to host a Clubhouse room to have a party so that I could spend some time and hear from anyone that wanted to jump in and chat about the podcast. 

We had people join in from all over the world and it got me pretty emotional I have to admit. It is hard for me to take compliments and really soak it up when I get praise, so this definitely had me out of my comfort zone.

For those of you who couldn’t make it on Clubhouse, we recorded everything so you can be a fly on the wall!

Thank you to all of my amazing listeners out there. 

I really genuinely want people to change their lives with this content, and I want you to know that I appreciate every single download.

I love you.

Episodes we mentioned in this episode:

Stop Thinking Start Doing (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/stop-thinking-start-doing/)

Why Don’t We Love Ourselves (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/why-dont-we-love-ourselves/)

Growing Up With A Bipolar Mother (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/l-l-s-3-lessons-learned-growing-up-with-a-bi-polar-mother/)

Losing My Husband (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/l-l-s-4-losing-my-husband/)

The Work with Byron Katie (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-work-with-byron-katie/)

The Cost of Playing Small (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-cost-of-playing-small/)

Where To Find Erika:

• BUY MY BOOK (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/confidencebook/)
• Instagram: @thequeenofconfidence (https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/)
• Facebook: @Theconfidencequeen (https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen)
• YouTube: The Queen Of Confidence (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzgN7oWfbMJVj41xfJLA5Yg)
• LinkedIn: https://au.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-ab695571
• Sistahood Program: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/sistahood/
• Website: www.thequeenofconfidence.com (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/)

👑 Want to request a podcast? Have a question for me? Click here to request a podcast! (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcasts/)

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Lastly - THANK YOU for listening, I APPRECIATE YOU!

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This is an episode that I never meant to be an episode.

I was listening back through my old voice memos on my phone, and I found this one where Hamish and I were talking through the last chapter of my book. 

I wanted to take you behind the scenes with me, back to the moment where we decided what the last chapter needed to say.

By this point, I had written so much. I had stayed up so late for so many nights in a row just ferociously writing, editing, reading, and I was exhausted.

But I was also so on fire knowing that this book was going to get done, and it was going to be everything that I hoped it would be.

To have the support of my husband Hamish through writing this book was so incredible. He is so thoughtful, patient and reframes things for me when I need it. You’ll hear how we bounce ideas off each other in this episode and the moment that I had my most powerful breakdown.

Thank you for being on this journey with me.

Where To Find Erika:

• BUY MY BOOK (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/confidencebook/)
• Instagram: @thequeenofconfidence (https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/)
• Facebook: @Theconfidencequeen (https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen)
• YouTube: The Queen Of Confidence (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzgN7oWfbMJVj41xfJLA5Yg)
• LinkedIn: https://au.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-ab695571
• Sistahood Program: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/sistahood/
• Website: www.thequeenofconfidence.com (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/)

👑 Want to request a podcast? Have a question for me? Click here to request a podcast! (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcasts/)

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Lastly - THANK YOU for listening, I APPRECIATE YOU!

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I have a lot of women in my programs, clients of mine that are single and looking for love. They've been healing from a shitty relationship and they've lost their confidence in getting back out there. They want to know how to overcome it.

My love, I have been there too. It's not my current reality obviously as I'm with the man of my absolute dreams, but that wasn't always the case. I have been in some terrible relationships with men that have treated me so badly, and I stayed.

I stayed until they broke up with me. I was the damaged goods. I felt like I had done something wrong, I wasn't good enough and that's why they left.

These men weren't right for me and yet when we would break up, I would feel horrible. My confidence was through the floor and I thought I would never find love.

So, how do you heal after a break up?

How do you gain your confidence back?

It all starts with you.

Take a look at the relationship. Was it really that good? What were you seeking that you'd hoped you'd find in that relationship? Who were you possibly pretending to be, to fit into what they wanted.

Breakups are always hard, but there is so much to gain from looking at it as an opportunity for growth.

There is love out there for you but the love for yourself must come first.

Where To Find Erika:

• BUY MY BOOK (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/confidencebook/)
• Instagram: @thequeenofconfidence (https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/)
• Facebook: @Theconfidencequeen (https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen)
• YouTube: The Queen Of Confidence (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzgN7oWfbMJVj41xfJLA5Yg)
• LinkedIn: https://au.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-ab695571
• Sistahood Program: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/sistahood/
• Website: www.thequeenofconfidence.com (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/)

👑 Want to request a podcast? Have a question for me? Click here to request a podcast! (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcasts/)

👑 Loving this podcast? Please leave me a review so other women who needs this can find this show (https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022)

👑 Are we friends on Instagram? If not come say hello @thequeenofconfidence (https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/)

Lastly - THANK YOU for listening, I APPRECIATE YOU!

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We all have those people in our lives who no matter what you do, no matter how much you bend over backward to try and help them, it’s never enough. They are simply unpleasable. 

And you know what? It’s not your job to please them.

I’ve certainly encountered some unpleasable people in my life so I thought this episode would be a great invitation to you to start letting go of the need to please. Because the more you try to please other people, the less you please yourself. And YOU are the most important person in your life. 

It all comes back to your mindset. Are you going to live your life based on other people’s expectations? Or are you going to fuck what other’s think? 

#FWOT

Where To Find Erika:

• BUY MY BOOK (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/confidencebook/)
• Instagram: @thequeenofconfidence (https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/)
• Facebook: @Theconfidencequeen (https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen)
• YouTube: The Queen Of Confidence (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzgN7oWfbMJVj41xfJLA5Yg)
• LinkedIn: https://au.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-ab695571
• Sistahood Program: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/sistahood/
• Website: www.thequeenofconfidence.com (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/)

👑 Want to request a podcast? Have a question for me? Click here to request a podcast! (https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcasts/)

👑 Loving this podcast? Please leave me a review so other women who needs this can find this show (https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022)

👑 Are we friends on Instagram? If not come say hello @thequeenofconfidence (https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/)

Lastly - THANK YOU for listening, I APPRECIATE YOU!

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