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Jealousy happens. It's a normal human emotion. Some people like to say that if you feel jealous you don't belong in the lifestyle. And that's bullshit. Jealousy itself isn't a problem. Just like sadness or anger isn't a problem. But, it can become a problem if you don't know how to deal with it.
In this episode, Jo talks about how some of the things that cause jealousy. And she talks about to manage those feelings.

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We all have insecurities. And some people are insecure about their naughty bits; they don't like the way they look, or they are insecure about the size. As swingers, we also like to get naked with new people. So, if you have insecurities about your naughty bits, it's going to affect you getting naked with new people. We get all up in our own heads, and it gets in the way of a good time.
In this episode, Jo talks about being insecure with your naughty bits, and gives some tips to help you overcome those negative thoughts.

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Last week, we talked about when one partner wants to be in the Lifestyle more than the other, and Chad came on the show to share his perspective (thanks Chad!). And it's an important topic. People can say that you need to be on the same page, and while yes, I agree, it's also unrealistic to expect both people to want the same thing, the same amount, for the entirety of your relationship. So there are going to be times when one person wants it more. 
This week, Jo talks about reasons why one person may want to be in the LS more than the other. And she talks about how to talk about it when you're not on the same page. Effective communication is the key, but it's also a skill that takes time, so if you don't know HOW to communicate effectively, it's going to be damned near impossible to get on the same page.

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In this episode, Jo talks about when one partner wants to be in the lifestyle more than the other. And who better to have on the show, talking about his topic, than her hubby Chad. We kind of ARE that couple... I am the one who wants to be in the lifestyle and play more than he does. So Chad (finally) comes on the show and talks about his thoughts and experience.
The truth is, it's very likely that one partner is going to like, enjoy, WANT the lifestyle more than the other. So, how do you come together and get on the same page when that happens.
Jo and Chad talk about that and give some tips to help.

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In this episode, Jo talks about getting laid in the LS, when you don't think you're super attractive.
The hard truth is, some people are more physically attractive than others. Even if you're not "classically" good looking, with a perfect face and a perfect body, you still want to get laid.
Attractiveness and attraction aren't mutually exclusive. There are a lot of things that people are attracted to beyond looks. 
The problem is, if YOU have a negative self-image, if YOU are insecure about the way you look, you are going to have a hard time putting yourself out there. Confidence has nothing to do with how you look, it has everything to do with how you feel about yourself. There are 10's with shit for confidence, just like there are 4's who are confident as f*ck!
Jo gives some great tips for getting laid, even if you think you're only a 6.

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In this week's episode, Jo interviews Jennifer Kaylo about how to set yourself up for success with online dating, particularly lifestyle dating.
In this day and age, a lot of people are meeting and connecting online. It's a great tool, if you know how best to use it to get the results you want.
First, you need to find the right app or site to use.
Second, need to get clear on what you want, and what your dynamic is.
Third, you need to make sure your pictures are telling the story of who you are and are current and accurate.
And fourth, you need to make sure your profile specifies who you are, what you want, and is interesting so it catches peoples' eye.

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In this episode, Jo talks about a common misunderstanding...the difference between being cocky and being confident.
People are attracted to confidence. It's the one thing that draws people in more than anything else, more than a pretty face or a nice body. But many people confuse cockiness with confidence, when the truth is, they are VERY different.
Cockiness comes from a feeling of superiority, a feeling of being better than others. It lives in the world of comparison. Confidence, on the other hand, comes from a place of self-trust, honesty, and self-acceptance. It comes from a place of self.

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The Difference Between Confidence & Cockiness - Coach and Athletic Director (coachad.com)
Rising Strong, book by Brene Brown

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In this episode, Jo talks about flaws. Our own personal flaws. She talks about what flaws are, and why they really aren't nearly as negative as we think.
Our flaws actually make us relatable; they help us connect with others. They help us become more accepting of ourselves, and of others. And we see our flaws way differently than other people see them. And really, nobody actually LIKES perfection. It's boring and intimidating, and it causes a shit-ton of resentment.
So instead of seeing your flaws as a negative thing, as something that holds you back, see your flaws as EARNED rewards, as rites of passage, and as strengths. You have the power to change your perceptions.

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We all have things that we want to do, but we feel like we just aren't ready. We tell ourselves that we need more time, or more information, or more support, or more... something. Most of the time we aren't really sure WHAT we need more of, we just know that we are scared, and we don't feel ready to move forward.
In this episode, Jo talks about that Not Ready feeling, and how to get out of that rut. It could be getting started in the LS, or talking to your partner about something, or going after your passion, or starting a new project or a new job, or WHATEVER you want to do, but the not ready feeling is holding you back.
Are YOU waiting to feel ready? Is that holding you back from going for what you want? This episode is for you!

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In this episode, Jo reviews and reflects on the past year. And she talks about what she's learned from doing The Confident Swinger Podcast for a full year.

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