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Self-images are like assholes... everybody's got one! It's how you self identify, how you see yourself, the roles that you play. But unlike your asshole, you're not just "stuck" with the one you've got. You get to decide!

It's easy to get really attached to our self-image, and that can be dangerous. Because it can hold us back from exploring different possibilities. Even having a "positive" self image can be detrimental if we hold to it too tightly.

In this episode, Jo talks about some parts of her self-image that she had been holding too tightly to, and how that affected her.

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Jo, and Chad, talk about new beginnings. It's New Year's day, and it's a great time to reset and talk about new beginnings. We all get complacent and stuck in a routine from time to time, so we took this opportunity to talk about how WE both want to start the new year, and how we want to embrace the Lifestyle in 2024.

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Bonus episode
My son's dog, Maya, is a pain in the ass. She also happens to be my spirit animal, and in this bonus episode, I tell you why.
Happy Holidays!

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In this episode, Jo talks about guests she had on, and other shows she's been a guest on. She talks about her personal growth, and resources that have been super helpful for her.

My coach, Kelly Inglis
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Swinging into BDSM: The Swinger's Guide to Respectfully and Successfully Navigating the Basics: Leah, Mistress: 9798861437301: Amazon.com: Books
Swinging into submission: An Introductory Guide to Understanding Service and submission: Leah, Mistress: 9798862107487: Amazon.com: Books

Self-Compassion – Dr. Kristin Neff

Podcast - Abby Medcalf

The links for the shows I've been on was too much, so I'm sending you to my website to see that:
Podcast | The Confident Swinger

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In this episode, Jo talks about what coaching means to her, and she uses an example of a phrase that she uses is her own life, STFU a little bit.

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Sometimes, it's hard to figure out when to speak up and when to stay quiet. It happens in the lifestyle, and it happens in life. Last week, I talked about speaking up. This week, I'm talking about when to stay quiet.

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I've always known how important it was to speak up. I mean, come on, it's only logical. And I've spent most of my life being logical. But I'm also really driven to help you build your confidence and embrace your badassery. And part of the journey to help you comes from me speaking up and sharing MY journey with you. I think it will help you along the way, because you'll see bits and pieces of yourself in each episode.

So this episode is all about me speaking up, and sharing my truth, and my journey. Because  a BIG part of my journey IS speaking up and being honest, even when it's hard.

And it's about helping you understand WHY speaking up yourself is so hard, but why it's so important. I'm here to give you the WHY, so YOU can figure out your OWN how. 

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In this episode, Jo talks about the importance of setting and holding your boundaries. And she goes over the 4 steps for setting and holding boundaries.
This is a hot topic in the lifestyle, but I don't think that people always really understand what boundaries are, and how to set and hold them.
Boundaries are the standards that you set for yourself, to keep yourself safe and secure. They are NOT a way for you to control the actions of other people; those are rules, not boundaries.
As a confidence coach, Jo likes to STRONGLY encourage you to focus on boundaries over rules. You only truly have control over yourself. And when you set and hold your boundaries, you are communicating to yourself, and to others, that you know what's important to you, and you're not willing to allow anything less. You are communicating that your needs are important, because YOU are important. And there's really no more important message you can send than that.

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Happy Halloween! In honor of her favorite holiday, Jo is talking about fear. Specifically, fear in the lifestyle. She talks about the most common fears that people face, and how to manage them.
She focuses on the relationship between fear and control. Most fear comes from a desire to have control, or the fear of feeling like you don't have control. So, you spend a lot of time trying to manage things, so you regain that control. But, it's actually that desire for control that causes problems.
So, if you find yourself feeling a lot of fears, especially lifestyle fears, this episode is for you.

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Last week, we talked about single ladies in the lifestyle. This week, we're talking about single guys.
Anybody that's been in the lifestyle for more than 5 seconds has a pretty strong opinion about single guys. Either that it's challenging for a single guy, or that single guys are thirty and aggressive, or that a good single guy is hard to find. And all of those may be true, depending on your experience.
In this episode, Jo talks about single guys, and why the lifestyle is challenging for them. She talks about why single guys have such a bad reputation, and how to overcome that. So, if you're a single guy in the lifestyle, or you are a single guy that WANTS to get in the lifestyle, you DEFINITELY need to listen to this episode.

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