The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show

Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of Dr. Sarah Hensley Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC.  Welcome to "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice. Episode 12: Dating in the Modern World. In this insightful episode of "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show," Dr. Hensley and co-host Raina Butcher delve into the complexities of modern dating. Recently married, both hosts reflect on their own experiences from just a few years ago, noting how challenging the dating scene was—and likely even more so today. Dr. Hensley highlights the struggles faced by those with insecure attachment styles, particularly the dismissive-avoidant. She explains how their limited emotional needs can complicate the use of dating apps, often leading to ghosting without explanation. The hosts share personal stories about their own challenges with dating apps and how they eventually met their husbands. Raina Butcher recounts her organic meeting with her husband, prompting Dr. Hensley to offer listeners practical advice on meeting potential partners outside of dating apps. Dr. Hensley provides extensive guidance on approaching someone you're interested in. She offers concrete tips for initiating conversations and gauging mutual interest, as well as advice on enhancing attractiveness on dating apps. Drawing on the science of attraction, she discusses common physical traits that tend to be appealing. Wrapping up the episode, Dr. Hensley emphasizes the importance of earning your attachment security in the dating process. She warns that those with anxious attachment often mistake red flags for chemistry and describes how avoidants may come on strong initially only to pull away later. With both issues contributing to the complexities of the dating world. Both hosts discuss how achieving secure attachment helps in recognizing red flags and avoiding time-wasters, ultimately attracting the right partner. Tune in to "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. Dr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/group-coaching Individual Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/pick-your-coach/

Couples Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/pick-your-coach-couples/. Purchase Dr. Hensley’s online course: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/courses/ Tik-Tok: @drsarahhensley Instagram: @dr.sarahhensley Facebook: Dr. Sarah Hensley Youtube: @Dr.SarahHensley What is covered: ·        The complexities of the dating world. ·       Why the dismissive avoidant does what they do in the dating phase of a relationship.  ·       Organic ways that you can meet someone.  ·       Attraction science and what makes someone attracted to you based on physical appearance alone.  ·       Why ghosting is never okay.  .       The importance of achieving your attachment security in the modern dating world.  Consider/Ask Yourself ·       Are dating apps working for me? ·       Am I putting myself out into the world in a way that would allow for me to meet someone organically? ·       Does my dating app profile reflect an appearance that someone would find attractive? .       Am I securely dating? Meaning am I showing up as my honest, unapologetic self, while also being honest with others? If not, is it time to work on healing my attachment wounds so that I can attract the right partner?

Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.

Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.

We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.

By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.

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Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of Dr. Sarah Hensley Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC.  Welcome to "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice. Episode 11: Let Them. In Episode 11 of "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show," Dr. Hensley explores the concept of "let them" and its profound impact on relationships. She begins by addressing the common question she encounters in her practice: "How do I get my partner to [insert behavior]?" Dr. Hensley emphasizes that trying to change someone else's behavior is futile. Instead, she advises listeners to "let them" show up in their chosen way and then evaluate if that behavior aligns with their needs and desires. If it does, the relationship can flourish. If not, she discusses healthy ways to move on. Dr. Hensley explains that secure individuals do not abandon their own needs or compromise their desires in a romantic relationship. She delves into how different attachment styles struggle with the idea of "letting them." Fearful avoidant and anxious preoccupied individuals often grapple with high anxiety and fear of rejection, making it difficult for them to relinquish control. On the other hand, dismissive avoidants often fail to create an emotionally safe environment for their partners. The episode underscores the importance of achieving attachment security to navigate these complex dynamics. Continuing, Dr. Hensley highlights how modeling secure behavior can positively influence a more insecure partner, sometimes bringing about substantial change. She stresses the significance of setting boundaries and then being comfortable with others' perceptions of you and the relationship you share. By "letting them" hold their own narratives, you can find peace and freedom in living your truth. This of course does not go without your own self reflection to ensure that you are also showing up in a healthy, secure way. Dr. Hensley and co-host Raina Butcher share personal anecdotes about friends and ex-partners they have had to let go, allowing these individuals to maintain their own (sometimes erroneous) narratives. The episode concludes with Dr. Hensley addressing a popular question: "How do I get my ex back?" She breaks down the science of attraction and offers practical steps to assess whether rekindling a past relationship is worthwhile. Dr. Hensley also introduces her upcoming course, "How to Get Your Ex Back," set to release this fall. In the end, both Dr. Hensley and Raina Butcher emphasize the importance of letting go of people and things not meant for you, making room for what truly is. They reflect on how finding their own attachment security and practicing "letting them" ultimately led them to a deep sense of self love and to finding their husnands.  Tune in to "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. Dr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/group-coaching Individual Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/pick-your-coach/

Couples Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/pick-your-coach-couples/. Purchase Dr. Hensley’s online course: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/courses/ Tik-Tok: @drsarahhensley Instagram: @dr.sarahhensley Facebook: Dr. Sarah Hensley Youtube: @Dr.SarahHensley What is covered: ·        The ideas and importance behind the statement "let them." ·       Addressing how the statement "How do I get my partner to" is the wrong approach when entering coaching. ·       "Let them" behave how they choose to behave, then take inventory of how this aligns with you own wants and needs. ·       The difference between how insecure attachment styles struggle with the idea of "let them" versus the securley attached. ·       Letting go of certian people in your life and the narrative they may have about you and the relationship you shared.  .       Is the effort on trying to get your ex back warrented and if so steps and advice on how to do so.  Consider/Ask Yourself ·       Are anxiety and a strong need to control things standing in the way of your true healing? ·       Does it bother you when someone thinks poorly of you when you try to set an appropriate boundary? ·       Have you stated your needs and wants compassionatley and then let them (your partner) show up, and then taken real inventory? If so, how is your partner showing up for you? .       Are you holding onto your relationship simply so you can hold onto the narrative that you feel is the right one? Sometimes it is okay to be the villian in someone else's story as long as it grants you your peace and freedom. 

Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.

Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.

We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.

By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.

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Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of Dr. Sarah Hensley Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting Welcome to "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice. Episode 10: Are They a Narcissist? In this enlightening episode of "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show," Dr. Hensley dives into the complex world of narcissism. Drawing from a rich array of perspectives, including social psychology, evolutionary psychology, developmental psychology, and clinical psychology, Dr. Hensley explores the intricate nature of narcissism and why it’s such a widely studied yet frequently misunderstood field. Dr. Hensley begins by examining the various theories that explain how narcissism develops in individuals. She highlights how the term "narcissist" is often overused in contemporary discourse, leading to confusion between narcissistic traits and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). This distinction is crucial, as NPD can be both over-diagnosed and under-diagnosed. True narcissists possess a remarkable ability to manipulate those around them, including their therapists, making accurate diagnosis challenging. A significant portion of the episode is dedicated to discussing how romantic relationships can exacerbate narcissistic traits. Dr. Hensley explains that the degree of perceived threat within these relationships can amplify existing narcissistic behaviors, complicating the dynamics between partners. One of the highlights of the episode is Dr. Hensley's in-depth analysis of attachment styles and their potential to be misinterpreted as NPD. She clarifies that attachment behaviors, while sometimes similar to narcissistic traits, are rooted in changeable behaviors that primarily manifest in romantic relationships. In contrast, true narcissism permeates all areas of a narcissist's life, including relationships with authority figures.  Dr. Hensley also sheds light on the differences between overt and covert narcissists, offering her perspective on which type she considers more dangerous. This segment provides listeners with a nuanced understanding of how narcissistic behaviors can vary widely and the specific risks associated with each type.  Throughout the episode, both Dr. Hensley and her co-host, Raina Butcher, share their  personal experiences with narcissists, adding a relatable and practical dimension to the discussion. In the final segment, Dr. Hensley addresses the profound impact of narcissism on children, emphasizing how narcissists often use their children to exert control and manipulate, resulting in deep psychological scars. Dr. Hensley and Raina conclude the episode with a message of hope, providing practical advice and resources for those dealing with narcissistic abuse. They emphasize that understanding and addressing narcissism can lead to healthier relationships and personal growth. Join Dr. Hensley and Raina Butcher for this compelling and insightful exploration of narcissism, offering valuable perspectives for anyone navigating relationships with narcissistic individuals. Disclaimer: None of the material contained herein is medical advice. The advice and perspective that Dr. Hensley suggest are strictly that of opinion with highlights of scientific research.   Tune in to "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. Dr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/group-coaching Individual Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/pick-your-coach/

Couples Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/pick-your-coach-couples/. Purchase Dr. Hensley’s online course: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/courses/ Tik-Tok: @drsarahhensley Instagram: @dr.sarahhensley Facebook: Dr. Sarah Hensley Youtube: @Dr.SarahHensley What is covered: ·        The science behind narcissism. ·       The theories that explain how narcissism develops. ·       The threat that narcisstic traits play in our romatic relationships. ·       The difference between behaviors of specific attachment styles and the narcissist.  ·       The difference between the overt and covert narcissist.  Consider/Ask Yourself ·       What are the differences between Narcissitic Personality Disorder and narcissitic traits?  ·       Is your partner a true narcissist or do they just have attachement wounding and insecurities?   ·       If dealing with a narcissitic partner how can I seek intervention for myself and my children? 

Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.

Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.

We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.

By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.

Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-dr-sarah-hensley-show--6390558/support.

Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of Dr. Sarah Hensley Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting Welcome to "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.

Episode 9 (announced as Episode 8 in audio): "Settling the Confusion between the Fearful Avoidant and the Dismissive Avoidant."

In this enlightening episode Dr. Hensley delves deep into the often misunderstood world of attachment styles, focusing specifically on the Fearful Avoidant (FA) and the Dismissive Avoidant (DA). While their names suggest similarity, Dr. Hensley reveals the significant differences in the behaviors and motivations underlying these two styles. Dr. Hensley meticulously describes how the Fearful Avoidant (FA) exhibits both anxious and avoidant behaviors due to a complex mix of fear and anxiety, often oscillating between seeking closeness and sometimes pushing away when they feel betrayed. This oscillation can be heavily influenced by various factors, including the attachment style of their partner.

In contrast, the Dismissive Avoidant (DA) maintains distance primarily as a means of preserving independence and autonomy, showing little interest in emotional closeness. Through vivid examples and detailed explanations, Dr. Hensley highlights the typical dynamics seen in FA/DA partnerships. These relationships are often marked by one partner's pursuit of intimacy and connection, which can manifest as anxious behaviors or even aggression, while the other partner retreats further into avoidance. This push-pull dynamic creates a cycle of misunderstanding and frustration, leaving partners feeling perpetually out of sync.

Drawing from her extensive experience in relationship coaching, Dr. Hensley shares how she navigates these complex dynamics in her hybrid group coaching program. She provides actionable tools and strategies to help couples achieve a balance that honors both the DA's need for autonomy and the FA's desire for intimacy. Through structured guidance and support, she helps partners break the vicious cycle and cultivate a harmonious and fulfilling relationship.

Join Dr. Hensley in this episode as she unpacks the intricacies of these attachment styles and offers practical solutions for creating lasting change and deeper connection in romantic partnerships. Tune in to "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of love and relationships in the modern world.

To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visist the links below and follow her on social media.
Dr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/group-coaching

Individual Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/pick-your-coach/

Couples Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/pick-your-coach-couples/.

Purchase Dr. Hensley’s online course: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/courses/

Tik-Tok: @drsarahhensley
Instagram: @dr.sarahhensley
Facebook: Dr. Sarah Hensley Youtube: @Dr.SarahHensley 

Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.

Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.

We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.

By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.

Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-dr-sarah-hensley-show--6390558/support.

Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of Dr. Sarah Hensley Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting Welcome to "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice. Episode 8: Be Kind but Take No Shit. In this compelling continuation of our two-part series, we dive deeper into the critical topic of how to cope when someone wrongfully  hurts you. While the previous episode centered on the Faith perspective—emphasizing forgiveness, kindness, and holding strong to scripture as a way to stay out of the spirit of revenge and bitterness—this episode shifts focus to the essential practice of setting hard boundaries when someone wronfully hurts you. Join Dr. Hensley as she explores the art of being kind while taking no shit. She delves into the importance of establishing boundaries, recognizing when it’s time to set them, and understanding what these boundaries look like. Drawing on both psychological insights and biblical teachings, Dr. Hensley illustrates how even Jesus advocated for lovingly setting boundaries. With raw honesty, Dr. Hensley shares her personal journey of dealing with a recent painful experience. She explains how she enforced consequences for the wrongful actions of others toward her and her family, embodying the principle of being kind but firm. As the episode continues, Dr. Hensley touches on why setting boundaries can be particularly challenging for those with attachment insecurities and how fear can hinder a persons ability to set, and stick to a boundary, sometimes resulting in them being unable to protect themselves from being hurt over and over.  She explores why boundary setting is so important for both the person setting the boundary and the person that the boundary is set against. She gives concrete, real life examples of what a boundary looks like, and even what to say in particular situations within romatic relationships. Prepare to be empowered by this authentic episode, which will inspire you to establish your own personal boundaries, enabling you to live a life where you remain kind but uncompromising. Tune in to "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visist the links below and follow her on social media. Dr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/group-coaching Individual Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/pick-your-coach/

Couples Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/pick-your-coach-couples/. Purchase Dr. Hensley’s online course: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/courses/ Tik-Tok: @drsarahhensley Instagram: @dr.sarahhensley Facebook: Dr. Sarah Hensley Youtube: @Dr.SarahHensley What is covered: ·        What it looks like to stay kind, while also taking no shit. ·       Ways in which Jesus and scripture spoke about setting firm boundaries. ·       When is the right time to set a boundary and what does a firm boundary look and sound like. ·       Why setting boundaries for specific attachment styles is so difficult.  ·       Why boundary setting is so important in all of your relationships.  Consider/Ask Yourself: ·       Are you able to set the correct boundaries with the people in your life? ·       Are you being your partners doormat and in turn enabling your partner's behavior by not setting firm boundaries? ·       Are you setting boundaries out of bitterness, rebellion, or as a way to seek revenge against someone who hurt you? ·       How committed are you to your boundaries? Are you setting them and staying stedfast in your follow through, regardless of the natural consequences? 

Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.

Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.

We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.

By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.

Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-dr-sarah-hensley-show--6390558/support.

Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of Dr. Sarah Hensley Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting Welcome to "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice. Episode 7: How to Cope When Someone Wrongfully Hurts You (Part 1)  In this heartfelt episode of The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show, Dr. Hensley dives deep into the faith perspective on coping when wrongfully hurt by someone. Drawing from a current, profoundly painful personal experience affecting her family, Dr. Hensley shares candid real-life examples of how she navigates the challenging emotions of hate, fear, and the desire for revenge. She emphasizes the importance of transcending these feelings by embracing the spirit of God. Dr. Hensley delves into specific Bible verses that have provided her solace and guidance during times of heartache and loss of control. She also integrates a psychological perspective, offering practical tools to manage your thoughts and regulate your nervous system during distressing situations. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to deepen their faith and find spiritual strategies to cope with pain. Dr. Hensley’s insights help listeners move from the flesh to the spirit of the Lord, fostering inner peace and resilience.  **Disclaimer:** Dr. Hensley’s practice encompasses both spiritual and secular approaches. She welcomes all faiths, including those without religious beliefs, and is committed to providing perspectives tailored to individual preferences. Tune in to "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. Dr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/group-coaching Individual Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/pick-your-coach/

Couples Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/pick-your-coach-couples/. Purchase Dr. Hensley’s online course: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/courses/ Tik-Tok: @drsarahhensley Instagram: @dr.sarahhensley Facebook: Dr. Sarah Hensley Youtube: @Dr.SarahHensley What is covered: ·      The right ways to cope when someone hurts you.  ·       How to escape your flesh and move into the spirt and word of God to heal.  ·      Psychological perspecitves of how to cope when someone hurts you.  ·       How the different attachment styles deal with the pain of when someone wrongfully hurts them.  ·       How to overcome feelings of hate, fear, and wanting to seek revenge.  Consider/Ask Yourself: ·       How are my thoughts contributing to feelings of hate and fear when someone wrongfully hurts me? ·       Am I seeking the word of God in my healing journey? ·       Have I had ruminating thoughts around seeking revenge against the person who hurt me? ·       How is my attachment style contributing to me staying in my flesh instead of seeking the word of God? 

Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.

Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.

We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.

By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.

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Episode 6: Understanding How You want to be Loved Through Your Attachment Style. Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of Dr. Sarah Hensley Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting Welcome to "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice. In this insightful episode of "How Do You Want to Be Loved," we delve into the profound ways people seek and experience love based on their attachment styles. Drawing from our personal journeys in marriage and past relationships, we reflect on how each relationship has been a stepping stone in understanding our own needs and desires, ultimately leading us to our wonderful husbands. Dr. Hensley, expands the conversation by emphasizing that truly loving your partner goes beyond the five love languages. She explains that these languages are just the beginning, a surface-level understanding. To genuinely connect, one must delve deeper. For example, a Fearful Avoidant might cherish gifts, but not just any gift—they desire something unique that mirrors their individuality, showing that you truly see and understand them. Dr. Hensley highlights the importance of studying your partner, gathering insights, and learning to avoid their triggers. This attentive approach, focused on meeting your partner's specific needs, is essential for a thriving relationship. She underscores the necessity of earning attachment security, which involves a radical self-discovery journey and a mindset shift from "how do I get them to" to "what is it about me that accepts this circumstance." Further, Dr. Hensley discusses the power of "speaking life" into your relationship. This means actively communicating with your partner about how they wish to be loved, what feels good to them, and how you can love them better. Co-host Raina Butcher wraps up the episode by affirming Dr. Hensley's insights and sharing the tangible results her clients have achieved through her guidance. Dr. Hensley's expertise in teaching people how to love one another authentically is not just theoretical; it's transformative. Join us for this episode to explore how understanding and nurturing attachment styles can lead to deeper, more meaningful connections in your relationships. Tune in to "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. Dr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/group-coaching Individual Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/pick-your-coach/

Couples Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/pick-your-coach-couples/. Purchase Dr. Hensley’s online course: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/courses/ Tik-Tok: @drsarahhensley Instagram: @dr.sarahhensley Facebook: Dr. Sarah Hensley Youtube: @Dr.SarahHensley What is covered: ·       How each attachment style prefers to be loved.  ·       Why Attachment Style is the number one predictor of people's love needs.  ·       How the five love languages are only the surface of understanding how someone wants to be loved. ·       The deeper meaning behind all the love languages.   ·       How to avoid your partners triggers so that they feel more loved.  ·       How to gather data and take inventory on your partner so you can discover on a deeper level how they prefer to be loved.  Consider/Ask Yourself: ·       How is that you prefer to be loved? ·       Is your partner willing to understand how it is that you prefer to be loved? .       What is the deeper meaning of your love language?  ·       Are you actively working on avoiding your partners triggers as a way to show them that you see and understand them.  ·       Are you speaking up to what your needs are, so that your partner is aware of how you want to be loved? ·       How important is it to me that I achieve my attachment security so that both mine and my partners love needs are met? 

Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.

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Episode 5: Living in Victimhood Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of Dr. Sarah Hensley Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting Welcome to "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice. Episode 5 “Living in Victimhood," is where we delve into this profound and often painful topic. Join Dr. Hensley as she draws from both her extensive coaching experience and her deeply personal journey to explore why some people get stuck in a state of victimization while others rise above it to experience post-traumatic growth. In this emotional and revealing episode, Dr. Hensley opens up about her own struggles with victimhood. She shares intimate stories of her past, candidly discussing how she played a role in her own victimization and the steps she took to break free from it. Her vulnerability offers listeners a rare glimpse into the person behind "Dr. Sarah Hensley Relationship Coaching Services," showcasing her resilience and determination to transform her pain into a powerful tool for helping others. Dr. Hensley also dives into the psychology behind victimhood, explaining the pathologies that keep individuals trapped in a cycle of suffering. She explores the factors that lead some people to experience post-traumatic stress, while others find a way to grow and thrive after trauma. Through real-life examples from her coaching practice, Dr. Hensley illustrates common patterns of victimhood and provides actionable strategies to overcome them. This episode is not just about understanding victimhood; it's about empowering listeners to recognize and break free from their own cycles of self-victimization. Dr. Hensley's personal triumph story serves as a beacon of hope, demonstrating that it is possible to heal, grow, and transform even the deepest relational traumas into a source of strength and purpose. Tune in to Episode 5 of "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show" for a heartfelt, insightful, and inspiring conversation that will challenge you to look within, confront your own victimhood, and embark on a journey towards healing and empowerment. Don't miss this opportunity to connect with Dr. Hensley on a deeper level and gain valuable insights that can help you or someone you love break free from the chains of victimhood. Tune in to "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. Dr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/group-coaching Individual Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/pick-your-coach/

Couples Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/pick-your-coach-couples/. Purchase Dr. Hensley’s online course: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/courses/ Tik-Tok: @drsarahhensley Instagram: @dr.sarahhensley Facebook: Dr. Sarah Hensley Youtube: @Dr.SarahHensley What is covered: ·       Victimhood and why some people get stuck in it. ·       Why some people experience post traumatic growth versus post-traumatic stress after a traumatic event. ·       How victimhood is an antidote for our pain. ·       The difference between being a victim and a volunteer. ·       How the different attachment styles live in victimization. ·       How to overcome victimhood within your own relationship. Consider/Ask Yourself: ·       How have a contributed to my own victimhood? ·       Am I looking within to understand and evaluate my own choices to stay in a perpetual state of traumatization? ·       Have I been using victimization as an antidote to my pain? ·       Am I shaming myself into healing? (Shame and healing do not mix) ·       How is my attachment style contributing to me staying in a place of victimization?

Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.

Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.

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Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of Dr. Sarah Hensley Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting Welcome to "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice. In this enlightening episode Dr. Hensley delves into a controversial topic that many couples struggle with: the decline in sexual intimacy over time. She begins by exploring why attraction and sex come so easily during the dating phase of a relationship, but often wane as the relationship matures. Dr. Hensley highlights a significant gender difference in sexual experiences, focusing on the primary reason many women lose interest in sex with their husbands. She explains that unmet attachment needs lead women to feel emotionally unsafe, which in turn affects their desire for sexual intimacy. To fully understand this episode, listeners are introduced to key concepts of attachment. Dr. Hensley details how different attachment style dynamics, such as Fearful Avoidant/Dismissive Avoidant and Fearful Avoidant/Fearful Avoidant, impact sexual intimacy when it comes to their individual needs. She also discusses why both men and women seek sex for validation, albeit for different reasons. The episode covers several critical points: - The challenges women face in experiencing pleasure during sex. - The roles of feminine and masculine energy in sexual intimacy. - The characteristics of the wounded masculine energy versus true masculine energy, emphasizing the importance of a man being a trusted decision-maker, who deeply understands and sees his wife. Dr. Hensley provides a broad perspective on what a happy marriage with a healthy sex life looks like and concludes by offering specific insights into what each female attachment style needs for sexual intimacy and emotional safety. While acknowledging the controversial nature of this topic, Dr. Hensley aims to help couples achieve true sexual intimacy, leading to a beautiful and healthy sex life. Tune in for an episode filled with valuable insights and practical advice for rekindling the spark in your long-term relationship.  Tune in to "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. Dr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/group-coaching Individual Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/pick-your-coach/

Couples Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/pick-your-coach-couples/. Purchase Dr. Hensley’s online course: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/courses/ Tik-Tok: @drsarahhensley Instagram: @dr.sarahhensley Facebook: Dr. Sarah Hensley Youtube: @Dr.SarahHensley What is covered: ·       The gender difference with sexual needs.   ·       One of the main reasons why wives won’t have sex with their husbands. ·       The different attachment style pairings when it comes to sexual intimacy needs. ·       How feminine and masculine energy play a role in sexual intimacy. ·       What the wounded masculine looks like versus the true masculine. ·       What each female attachment style needs to experience sexual pleasure and emotional safety.  Consider/Ask Yourself: ·       Am I contributing to my partners emotional safety to keep our spark alive? ·       Have I ever used sex as a band aid to avoid bigger problems in our relationship? ·       What does it mean for my wife to experience true sexual pleasure? Hint: it is more than just a physical need. ·       For husbands: am I being the emotional leader in my household? ·       For wives: am I allowing my husband to take on a leadership role or am I criticizing him too much? ·       What are my partners attachment needs and am I contributing to meeting them?

Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.

Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.

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Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of Dr. Sarah Hensley Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting Welcome to "The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice. In a profound exploration of relationship dynamics, *Dr. Sarah Hensley Relationship Coaching Services* podcast presents Episode 3: "How Does This Hurt You?" Dr. Hensley embarks on a transformative journey into the heart of conflict resolution, revealing how a single question can hold the key to unlocking deeper understanding and connection in romantic partnerships. The episode opens with Dr. Hensley's poignant reflection on the transformative power of asking the question, "How does this hurt you?" Drawing from her own personal experiences, she shares a compelling real-life example of how this simple yet profound question allowed her to dismantle her own trigger cycle with her husband, leading to breakthroughs in communication and emotional intimacy. Listeners are invited to explore how this question serves as a catalyst for empathy, compassion, and curiosity within relationships, offering partners the opportunity to truly see and hear each other's perspectives. Through vivid storytelling and insightful analysis, Dr. Hensley illuminates how embracing vulnerability and openness can pave the way for resolved conflict resolution and deeper emotional connection. Delving deeper into the complexities of relationship dynamics, Dr. Hensley unpacks why so many couples find themselves trapped in never-ending conflict cycles. She shines a light on the destructive nature of defensiveness and the tendency to perceive one's own reality as the only truth, ultimately leading to stagnation and disconnection in relationships. As the episode unfolds, Dr. Hensley offers practical strategies and tools for breaking free from the cycle of conflict and forging a path towards lasting resolution and harmony with your partner. From fostering active listening skills to cultivating a mindset of empathy and understanding, listeners are empowered to navigate conflict with grace and compassion. By the episode's conclusion, listeners are equipped with a newfound understanding of the transformative power of vulnerability, empathy, and open communication in romantic partnerships. Through Dr. Hensley's expert guidance and heartfelt wisdom, *Dr. Sarah Hensley Relationship Coaching Services* podcast Episode 3 serves as a beacon of hope for couples seeking to heal, grow, and thrive in their relationships.   What is covered: 

• Dr. Hensley’s real life experience on how she used this question with her husband.
• How this question translates into showing empathy towards your partner in the mist of conflict.
• How this creates space to show love and compassion towards your partner versus defensiveness.
• How this question creates space for introspection and growth with you and your partner.
• Letting go of offensiveness.
• How conflict should create more closeness and trust in your relationship.
• Why so many couples get stuck in the never ending conflict cycle.

  Consider/Ask Yourself:

• What is your level of offensiveness/defensiveness within conflict?
• Are you considering how the things you say may hurt your partner?
• Are you willing to apologize within conflict?
• Be the change you want to see in your relationship.
• Why does being right within conflict matter so much to you?
• Reality is subjective.
• How can I be non-defensive enough to ask my partner the question of “how does this hurt you”?
• Am I allowing my thoughts to ruminate and make me more defensive with my partner?

  Dr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/group-coaching Individual Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/pick-your-coach/

Couples Coaching: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/pick-your-coach-couples/. Purchase Dr. Hensley’s online course: https://doctorsarahhensley.com/courses/ Tik-Tok: @drsarahhensley Instagram: @dr.sarahhensley Facebook: Dr. Sarah Hensley Youtube: @Dr.SarahHensley

Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.

Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.

We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.

By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.

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