When was the last time you asked yourself what truly turns you on, emotionally, creatively, and sexually?

That is exactly what Mary Phillips does in the documentary The Flamingo. After ending a 23-year marriage, Mary begins to explore her sensuality and confidence through the world of kink and BDSM. What started as curiosity became a journey of freedom, healing, and self-acceptance.

Filmmaker Adam Sekuler spent six years capturing Mary’s story with humor, tenderness, and courage. In this conversation, we talk about what it means to start over, how desire can become a path to self-discovery, and why community and trust are essential for healing after divorce.

You will hear about how Mary’s journey changed her relationship with her body, how Adam used art and symbolism to tell her story, and why embracing your edges can bring you back to life in ways you never expected.

If The Flamingo sparked your curiosity or moved something in you, here are a few ways to support this beautiful and courageous film:

Visit the film’s website

Learn more about The Flamingo, watch the trailer, and explore filmmaker notes and behind-the-scenes insights at mspfilm.org/show/the-flamingo.

Connect with filmmaker Adam Sekuler

Reach out to Adam directly at [email protected] to learn how you can host a screening or bring The Flamingo to your city.

See it on the big screen

The Flamingo is the opening-night selection at SECS Fest in Seattle, running November 7–9, 2025 at The Beacon Cinema. SECS Fest celebrates sex-positive, artistic, and community-driven films from around the world. Details and tickets are available at strangertickets.com.

Watch from home (coming soon)

The film will be available on Vimeo On Demand next year. Stay tuned for release details — I’ll share them as soon as it’s ready to stream.

Feeling inspired to explore kink more? Join the Happily Divorced Club on November 10 for a live session inspired by Existential Kink. We will explore how turning toward what feels uncomfortable can unlock freedom, empowerment, and even pleasure.

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Your Free Invitation to the Happily Divorced Club

Ready to show up for yourself in a fun, empowering way? Enjoy a one-month complimentary pass to the Happily Divorced Club and connect with a supportive community of people thriving after divorce.

Your pass includes access to our Book Club with Amber Rae on October 30 and our Fall Retreat on November 1 and 2.

Be sure to RSVP to both by October 28 to save your spot.

🎟️ Click here to claim your pass and start your month: https://bit.ly/HDCfriendlink

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