The Four Sabotages, Part Four: The Wrong Support Leads To Feeling Lost And Helpless

There are four factors I see that sabotage a student's healing efforts.

These four factors sabotaged me and my efforts for over a decade, leaving me feeling discouraged, frustrated, and even hopeless.  I didn't believe I could heal because nothing was working.

Today, we focus on Factor Four:The Wrong Support Leads To Feeling Lost And Helpless

Wrong support shows up when we're seeking solutions that the support container cannot provide.

This happens when:

- We seek support about a problem that is outside the lane of expertise for the therapist, coach, mentor, or group
- A coach, mentor, therapist, or support group tries to be "everything" for a persn
- We do not know what we really need help in (this stems from wrong knowledge)
- We try to do it on our own and avoid having support all together

This leads us to feel crazy, isolated, and even helpless.  We're not able to find community that understands us, professionals that comprehend the situation and the journey ahead, and that cuts us off from right knowledge, right practices, and the right order that we need for our healing.

In my work, support is a central pillar of the work.  It is specific, too.  My support is directed specifically at:

1) Helping codependents reduce pain, increase peace and heal
2) Helping codependents identify their successes and celebrate them
3) Helping codependents identify challenges and work through them
4) Reduce codependent behaviors and increase healthy, interdependent behaviors

As well as:

1) Helping codependents recognize and see themselves and become real to themselves
2) Navigate and care for their emotions
3) Connect with each other, feel seen, and feel supported
4) Apply the tools and practices effectively to their daily life
5) Gain direction and referral to resources that address challenges outside the scope of codependency and healing

This kind of support is life-altering.  This helps students take what they are learning and make it real, build trust in their discoveries, trust in how they use the tools and trust the results they get.

They feel seen, heard, and supported. This is crucial for making healing sustainable and permanent.

This is the biggest focus and feature of the Codependency Healing System.

I provide this kind of support in four ways:

1) Twice-a-week live support calls

2) Twice-a-week homework and practice calls

3) Twice-a-month Practice sessions

4) Teach the class curriculum live once a week

And you get online community support via facebook or the learning system, along with email support with me when you need it.

So, how do you know if you've got the right support in your healing work?

Learn what these are in today's episode!

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The Annual Enrollment for the Codependency Healing System is OPEN.  We're accepting 75 individuals on this 9-month live training journey in nurturing and increasing our individual and communal safety, connection, and individual worth.

Students will leave this journey knowing how to:

- Create and nurture emotional safety, relationship safety, and physical safety
- Identify and connect with compatible, safe, healthy people
- Recognize, understand, trust, and follow their own voice
- Identify, connect to, and embody their real worth
- Recognize and embody their personal power
- Heal their pain through reduction and resolution practices
- Increase their confidence and worth through orienting to their innate value
- Communicate clearly and understand others more deeply
- Create and execute boundaries that foster connection and well-being
- Soothe pain and anxiety
- Increase peace, rest, and safety