"What you don't do determines what you can do." – Tim Ferriss

Most midlife women I know find it very difficult to say "no" to things – to requests from family, to being on unpaid committees, to taking on extra work. But I wholeheartedly believe that quote from Tim Ferriss – what we say "no" to determines what we can say "yes" to. So if you want a life where you're saying "yes" only to the things that truly light you up, listen in!

In this episode, I talk about:

If you're wanting help establishing better boundaries in your life, book in for a free discovery call here so we can work out next best steps for you: bellareynolds.com.au/chat

Guilt is such a powerful trigger for emotional habit loops that keep us stuck doing what we think we "should" be doing.

But why? In this episode I want to talk about what's behind this guilt, and how to leave it behind little by little each day. So, let's chat about:

I also created a free downloadable of 20 simple self-care habits you can try in your own life. Download it for free at bellareynolds.com.au/self-care

After almost 50 episodes, this is my very first interview!

Today I want to introduce you to Robyn Beeston, one of the original Gutsy Ladies. In the past year or so, every one of the dreams that Robyn expressed to me has come true. She has recently published her first book, she's built a studio at the back of her new property in the Noosa hinterlands, and she's continuing to achieve and dream big goals for her midlife.

 So in this episode, I ask Robyn five questions:

You can find Robyn's book at robynbeeston.com.au/books and connect with her on Instagram at @robyn.beeston

You know how you start a new habit full of excitement? Monday morning, you're all in! You can do this! And then by Thursday, you've fallen back to your old way of doing things. I call this a Change U-Turn.

And there's a specific Change U-Turn I think we need to look out for, so in this episode, I'm talking about:

how to decide if the work required to make a change is worth the bother (and when it isn't)

three simple activities to keep yourself on track if you decide it is worth the bother

a real example of a "Why Bother" Change U-Turn that you might recognise in yourself

Don't forget to download (and complete!) your free "5 Whys" worksheet at bellareynolds.com.au/5-whys

This episode is a little pep talk based on my own observations building an online business in midlife.

Building Gutsy Ladies has been a steep learning curve, and has made me realise that we all have what I'm going to call a "tech identity". So in this episode I share:

Ready to tackle your tech identity head on? Come and join the online Gutsy Ladies community! You can claim a free 48 trial here: gutsyladies.com

My favourite "aha" for my clients is when a grinding midlifer realises she has choices.

Especially when it comes to whether she listens to her inner critic or her coach – basically, what she allows herself to think about herself. In this episode, I talk about:

If you're ready to go all in, this month's Gutsy Ladies masterclass is all about journalling, a great tool to help you understanding what you're thinking. You can access a free 48 hour trial here to check it out for yourself: gutsyladies.com

I talk about journalling a lot for a reason: it has helped every single client I've worked with!

That's a pretty strong track record, right? But I also know lots of clients have put it off for years out of confusion or overwhelm, so in this episode I talk about:

You can download a PDF full of journalling prompts for free at bellareynolds.com.au/journalling

Or if you're ready to go all in, this month's Gutsy Ladies masterclass is all about journalling. You can access a free 48 hour trial here to check it out for yourself: gutsyladies.com

Why the effing hell can't I sleep anymore?! What a great question to be asking!

Is my burnout leading me to sleep poorly or is my poor sleep leading me to feeling burnt out? Time to start befriending your biology, and work out what's going on. Sleep deprivation – either chronic or short-term – effects so many midlife women, so in this episode I talk about:

To download my free ebook on getting ahead of burnout, go to bellareynolds.com.au/burnout

In a follow on from last week's episode on "all or nothing" mindsets, I wanted to talk about the importance of self-compassion.

I see self-compassion as an antidote to things like an all or nothing mindset and even perfectionism. So in this episode, I want to share:

If you'd like to learn more about The Gutsy Ladies Club, join for a free 48 hour trial and see if it's for you! gutsyladies.com

All or nothing thinking is a tricky little habit. Rigid thinking keeps us stuck, because we think our options are either complete success or complete failure.

In this episode, I talk about:

To download my free worksheet with affirmations and journalling prompts, go to bellareynolds.com.au/journalling