The Hello Someday Podcast For Sober Curious Women

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November 12, 2020Ep. 30: The Enneagram and Transformational Habits
The Enneagram is a tool of self discovery. It can help you understand yourself and why you respond and act the way you do.

Today my guest is Jim Zartman. Jim is a certified Enneagram coach who walks us through the Enneagram types as well as transformational habits that can change our lives.

Since Jim has done Enneagram work and typing interviews with over 50 women who are on the alcohol-free path, I asked him to talk about how the Enneagram work can be viewed through the lens of women who have relied on alcohol as a coping mechanism and are now leaving it behind.

If you’re stepping away from alcohol the Enneagram can help you understand your unique core drivers, core needs, beliefs and patterns that have been influencing your choices and decisions.

Jim shares that your core drivers can show up as superpowers or as a shadow that can sabotage the best parts of you.

Jim shares, “The best of you is permanent. The worst of you is temporary. You never want to be less of yourself. You want to be the best of yourself with fewer sabotaging patterns. The Enneagram can help you uncover the best parts of you.”

In Jim’s Enneagram work with clients he sees that:
Understanding your Enneagram type can help you gain a better understanding of your core motivations, driven by your desires and fears
Your Enneagram type is not a landing place, but a launch pad - it’s a tool in your growth, not the list of behaviors you are now held to
Your Enneagram type doesn’t put you in a box. Rather it gives you a framework for your tendencies and the lens through which you interact with your surroundings
In this episode, Jim and I chat about:
What the Enneagram is and how you can use the Enneagram as a tool to help you stop relying on alcohol as a coping mechanism
Transformation habits that can make a big difference in your sobriety
How you show up + being consistent
Acceptance
Curiosity
The three types of the main intelligence centers: the body center, heart center, & head center

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/30
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To get the full guide of the best quit lit for women go to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/quit-lit

About Jim Zartman
Jim is a certified enneagram coach and the co-founder of The Art of Growth, which is a team of coaches and consultants who work with individuals and organizations to help them achieve the transformation they want in themselves, their work and their relationship.

Connect with Jim Zartman
Website: www.theartofgrowth.org
Listen to The Art of Growth Podcast

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson
Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com
Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HelloSomeday
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1 hr 13 min
November 05, 2020Ep.29: How is Coaching different than AA with Dennis Berry
What is the difference between Life, Recovery and Sober Coaching and a 12 step program like Alcoholics Anonymous?
Most people who are trying to stop drinking have preconceived notions about what goes on in 12 step recovery programs such as AA based on what they’ve seen on TV and in movies and are also confused about what exactly “life coaching” or “sober coaching” involves.
Some people wonder if a life and recovery coach is just a private paid AA Sponsor (spoiler alert - it’s not!)

Going through a 12 step program, like Alcoholics Anonymous, typically involves attending meetings where members follow the 12 steps laid in the Big Book of Alcoholic Anonymous as a process that recovering alcoholics work through to successfully achieve and maintain sobriety. Many of these steps are ideally taken with the help of a sponsor, an individual who has gone through the AA program and helps others who are new to AA as they navigate early sobriety.
Unlike AA, most life and sobriety coaches use a flexible approach to identify your personal goals around not drinking and succeeding in other areas of your life and create a plan to achieve them based on individual needs, motivations and preferences.
I think that hiring a coach to stop drinking is similar to the decision you might make to hire a personal trainer or a nutritionist to increase your fitness levels or refine your eating habits.

I’ve invited my guest, Dennis Berry, to have this conversation with me because he’s not only a skilled life coach who is passionate about the benefits of coaching, but he is also in recovery and found recovery in AA and for many years was an active participant in the program. He both sees all the benefits of 12 Step programs and the difference between AA and coaching.

In this episode, we discuss:
How life, sobriety and recovery coaching differs from the approach used in 12 Step Recovery Programs such as Alcoholic Anonymous.
Why most people need layers of support to stop drinking which may include a combination of coaching, therapy, exercise, 12 step programs, podcasts, books, online support groups and other hobbies, habits and healthy pursuits.
How coaching differs from the work done by sponsors in AA or therapy in being goal and future-focused.
The benefits of the Alcoholics Anonymous as a program which is widely available (with an estimated membership of 2 million people around the world), free of cost and offers fellowship, support and a structured program of steps to take to stop drinking.
The limitations of AA as a program created 85 years ago, in 1935, by two white men. In 1939, the Fellowship published its basic textbook, Alcoholics Anonymous and in 1953 AA’s 12 steps (the guidelines by which to get sober and recover) and 12 traditions (the principles behind the steps meant to keep members focused on the primary purpose) were written. Criticisms of AA have been that it can be seen as a one-size-fits-all approach that is rigid and antiquated.
The importance of developing independence in sobriety and why Dennis believes AA’s philosophy and approach can foster dependence on the program.

About Dennis Berry
Dennis is a Life Coach based in Colorado, who has been working with people recovering from addiction worldwide for over 15 years. Dennis has been in recovery from drug abuse for 17 years. His recovery has helped him find his mission in life, which is to help others on their journey through sobriety and achieve inner peace and success in every area of their lives. Dennis is also the host of The Funky Brain Podcast.

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/29
Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking
Get the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups

Connect with Dennis Berry
Website www.dennisberry.com
Listen to The Funky Brain Podcast

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson
Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com
Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)
59 min
October 29, 2020Ep. 28: Healing Codependency In Family Relationships - Breaking Unhealthy Patterns Established in Childhood
How can you heal codependency in family relationships and break unhealthy patterns established in childhood?
That’s what we’re here to talk about today.
Codependency is a buzzword you might hear often, but it can be confusing and misunderstood.
My guest today is Brandi Merrill, she’s a life and recovery coach, a She Recovers coach, a licensed clinical social worker and a “boundary boss”. Brandi’s going to help us understand what codependency is (and is not) and how to break unhealthy patterns that may be sabotaging your health and happiness.

Codependency is an excessive reliance on other people for approval and sense of self.

It can cause you to worry about the lack of response from people, to feel anger about what you said or didn’t say in situations because you are relying on others for approval, not honor your own opinions and thoughts, and believe that putting yourself first is rude or selfish.
And codependency can make it challenging to set healthy boundaries, or cause guilt or anxiety when you do set them.

In this episode, Brandi and I are going to dig into:
The 4 steps to healing codependent behavior
7 signs of healing from codependency
Why overly harsh or loose boundaries can cause you to avoid close relationships
How and why codependency manifests in many family relationships
How to break unhealthy patterns established in childhood as an adult
The complicated relationship between codependent feelings and boundaries
About Brandi Merrill
Brandi lives in Idaho and is a single mom to three amazing daughters. She's a life and recovery coach, a She Recovers coach and a licensed clinical social worker who has provided counseling services for many years. Brandi is passionate about coaching and the transformations that are possible with the use of positive psychology and spirituality.

Her personal journey has been one of forgiveness, self love, becoming a boundary boss, and single parenting in recovery. She's in recovery from alcohol and codependency and believes that anything is possible. Brandi is passionate about inspiring her clients to make the changes they desire and to live their best lives. Brandi also works closely with moms in recovery that have experienced loss, including time with their kids, divorce or death.

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/28
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Get the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups

Links and resources mentioned:
Books mentioned:
Codependency by Melody Beattie
The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner

Connect with Brandi Merrill
Website: www.thepassionatepath.com
Instagram: @thepassionatepath

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson
Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com
Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HelloSomeday
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1 hr 1 min
October 22, 2020Ep. 27: What’s Next in MidLife - Creativity, Change + Finding Your Purpose
‘What’s Next?’ is a huge question for midlife women who have quit drinking or are working on quitting drinking.

You're evolving, you're changing, your coping mechanisms are changing.

Lots of times when you stop drinking, suddenly you have a lot more free time and energy than you used to.

When you were drinking and recovering from drinking. You are sort of in a holding pattern.

You were stuck. And now you're wondering what to do with all that time.

In today’s episode, I’m speaking with Sondra Primeaux. Sondra is a multi passionate maker, a photographer, a sustainable designer and seamstress, a writer, a coach and a podcast host. She hosts the Unruffled Podcast through a private Facebook group for the podcast.

Sondra started the Unruffled Podcast to talk about the intersection of creativity and recovery in what she terms the midlife solution, which I absolutely love. Sandra says midlife is only a crisis if you make it one.

Sondra was 45 when she quit using alcohol as a means to cope with life. And in the last six years, she's figured out through intensive learning, trial and failure, and loads of practice to answer ‘now what?’

We are discussing:
The intersection of creativity and recovery helps midlife women not only survive, but also thrive.
How conscious journaling can give you the momentum and creative space to explore more internal thoughts and how this process is a good tool to have during early sobriety
The transition into your mid-life and why you should dig deep into what you’ve done or haven't done. And it's also a time to take a glimpse into your future self.
Being honest with yourself and with others and how to set boundaries.
Using the enneagram to learn about yourself and what motivates you
Why creativity is a important part of your recovery and how to find different ways to bring joy and creativity to your life
How to find the middle space or sweet spot where you can create
Intersection of your personality type and going to AA and realizing there are other successful ways to recovery

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/27
Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking

Get the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups

Links and resources mentioned:

Book mentioned: Artist Way by Julia Cameron

Connect with Sondra Primeaux
Website: www.theunruffled.com
Want to work with Sondra, check out her Change your Story Program
Go to Sondra Talbert Primeaux Facebook page and message her to join her secret Facebook group
Listen to Sondra's podcast The Unruffled Podcast

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson
Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com
Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HelloSomeday
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42 min
October 15, 2020Ep. 26: The Wine O’Clock Myth with Lotta Dann
My guest today Lotta Dann, recovery advocate, blogger and author of three books: the best-selling memoir Mrs. D is Going Without, her second book Mrs. D Is Going Within, and the just released The Wine O’Clock Myth.
Lotta’s personal memoir of drinking, quitting drinking and living alcohol-free in a drink-filled world is witty, funny, and uplifting. Many memoirs are raw and gritty, but Mrs. D Is Going Without is both charming and real. I loved her book and completely related to Lotta’s experiences in early sobriety.
Today Lotta and I talk about The Wine O’Clock Myth, and why alcohol occupies such a privileged position in our society.
It’s almost universally represented as a magic elixir to all our problems which makes life both fun and glamorous. And the fact that alcohol also negatively affects the lives of people is practically invisible in conversations about or representations of drinking.

In this episode, Lotta and I discuss:
The truth that if you are struggling to moderate drinking, you are not alone and you are not the problem: alcohol is the problem.
The way the liquor industry has targeted women and the damaging 'Wine Mom' social media culture.
The importance of reframing the treat and reward concepts we’ve been taught (and internalized) around wine. That drinking is our treat at the end of the day and a much needed reward for hard work.
Why after the initial hit of dopamine wine is a depressive substance that is numbing and cuts you off from yourself and the people around you.
How to find other rewards and ‘sober treats’ that will nourish and ground you and that will actually make you feel better.
How to intentionally create a social media feed that inspires you to see all the awesome ways to enjoy life without alcohol rather than one that glamorizes drinking at every turn.
Why it’s critical to tap into a positive sober support community that shares the full picture of drinking - not just the one marketed to you. One that highlights both how good life can be without alcohol and shares truthfully the messages you will not see in popular culture, marketing or your social media feed - that drinking isn’t always harmless and fun. It can be dangerous and suck a lot of women (and men) into an unhealthy and unhappy cycle.

About Lotta Dann
Lotta built a successful career as a TV reporter, producer, and director, while simultaneously developing a remarkable aptitude for drinking a lot of alcohol.

Lotta began an anonymous blog called “Mrs. D is Going Without” when she was first stopping drinking - as a way to work through her thoughts and feelings, and keep herself accountable when she was starting her journey without alcohol.

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/26
Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking

Get the guide on How to find and join my Favorite Private Sober Facebook groups

Get the Guide to The Best Quit Lit For Women (Including Lotta Dann’s Mrs. D is Going Without)

Connect with Lotta Dann
The Wine O'Clock Myth: The Truth You Need To Know About Women and Alcohol: https://www.amazon.com/Wine-OClock-Myth-Truth-Alcohol/dp/1988547229
Mrs D is Going Without: A Memoir: https://www.amazon.com/Mrs-D-Going-Without-Memoir/dp/1877505390
Mrs D is Going Within: https://www.amazon.com/Mrs-Going-Within-Lotta-Dann/dp/1877505862
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrs_d_alcoholfree/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mrsdisgoingwithout
Lotta Dann's Blog: http://livingwithoutalcohol.blogspot.com/
Mrs. D's Blog on Living Sober: https://livingsober.org.nz/category/mrs-ds-blog/

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson
Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com
Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HelloSomeday
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1 hr 6 min
October 08, 2020Ep. 25: Gray Area Drinking With Jolene Park
What is Gray Area Drinking?

It describes the space where most drinkers live: a place between being able to ‘take or leave’ alcohol and hitting some kind of a ‘rock bottom’ where you are experiencing external consequences associated with being on the alcohol use disorder spectrum or identified as signs of alcoholism.

In a world where everything seems to be black and white, where either you have a problem with drinking or you don’t, there are so many of us who try to moderate our drinking and struggle to do so.
You might not experience outward consequences from drinking, but struggle internally.
You have silent conversations with yourself about your own drinking.
You intend to have one glass of wine, but then find it easy to finish the whole bottle.
You stop drinking for days, weeks or months, but then start drinking again and find yourself back in the same place.
It’s a really confusing place to live when you realize that the way you drink isn’t helping you have the life you want but you live in a world where drinking is all around you.

So how do you know if it’s time to make an “early exit” from the drinking life?
And what does that even look like and feel like?

Those are the questions we're digging into today with my guest, Jolene Park.
Jolene is a functional nutritionist, a health coach, a TEDx speaker, a former gray area drinker and the creator of the gray area drinking recovery hub.

Jolene describes the term “gray area drinking” as the kind of drinking where there’s no rock bottom, but you drink as a way to manage anxiety and then regret how much and how often you drink.

In this episode, we discuss:
What gray area drinking is. How to determine if you’re a gray area drinker and what to do about it.
Why so many of us use alcohol to downshift and calm down at the end of a busy, stressful day.
Jolene’s personal alcohol and anxiety story and why she decided to make an early exit from the drinking life.
What drinking does to your body.
How to eliminate alcohol and sugar cravings and reduce anxiety by using real food, high-quality nutrients and cutting-edge mind/body techniques.
The functional impact of food, emotions, environment and movement in relation to our physical bodies.
The importance of replenishing our neurotransmitters and nourishing our nervous systems in a comprehensive and consistent way.
The missing pieces that have been overlooked in traditional recovery programs such as neurotransmitters (GABA, serotonin, dopamine), blood sugar imbalance, and nutrient deficiencies like B6 and zinc (pyroluria).
Specific supplements that boost your GABA
Holy basil
Lemon balm
Passion flower
Inositol
L-theanine

About Jolene Park:
Jolene Park coaches high achieving professionals who want to eliminate alcohol and sugar cravings and reduce their anxiety by using real food, high-quality nutrients and cutting-edge mind/body techniques.
Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/25
Grab your Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking

Connect with Jolene Park
Visit Jolene’s Website: https://www.healthydiscoveries.com/
Follow Jolene on Instagram @jolene_park
Watch Jolene’s TEDx talk: https://www.healthydiscoveries.com/tedx-talk/
Listen to the Editing Our Drinking and Our Lives Podcast with Jolene Park & Aidan Donnelley Rowley

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson

Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com
Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HelloSomeday
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1 hr 1 min
October 01, 2020Ep. 24: Ann Dowsett Johnston - Wine as the Modern Women’s Steroid
Ann Dowsett Johnston, the best-selling author of Drink: The Intimate Relationship Between Women and Alcohol, has described the positioning of wine in popular culture as “The modern woman's steroid, enabling her to do everything she needs to do or tries to do”.
And there’s one problem with that description of alcohol. It’s not true and it doesn't work.
Instead of helping the modern woman do everything she needs to do - wine is a mal-adpative, and highly addictive coping mechanism that’s exacerbating stress, anxiety and depression for the modern woman.
On the podcast today Ann and I unpack the complicated and intimate relationship between women and alcohol.

We talk about:
How drinking after a long day of work has become a universal practice. It’s being repeated in house after house as women are standing at their kitchen counters in the evening and pouring themselves a glass (or a bottle) of wine.
How successful, professional women are increasingly struggling with drinking even as they rise high on the corporate ladder.
How women are using alcohol to self-medicate anxiety, depression, loss and loneliness - including suffering through events like empty-nest syndrome and depression in menopause.
How the messaging that “Mom needs to drink to get through her day, life, kids and work” is being pushed on us - in surround sound - in popular culture and by our alcogenic society.
Why are you able to move forward in a healthy way only once you get out of the drinking cycle. You’re finally able to work through underlying issues of anxiety, codependency, trauma, depression, and other factors that are driving you to drink.
Why the growing movement of women telling their stories of drinking and quitting drinking, with pride and not shame, is helping other women recover in a way that the culture of anonymity in AA does not.
Why it’s so important for women who want to stop drinking to develop many layers of support to heal - which can include connecting with women on the alcohol-free path, reading books and memoirs of women who have stopped drinking, learning about the science of alcohol and what it does to your body and mind, joining support programs and creating new coping mechanisms through psychotherapy, counseling or with a sober or addiction coach.
How you can build layers of support to help you change your relationship with drinking - through psychotherapy, coaching, other women in private free Facebook groups online or in person, books, exercise, nutrition and more.

About Ann Dowsett Johnston
Anne Dowsett Johnston is the best-selling author of the book Drink: The Intimate Relationship Between Women and Alcohol. It was named by the Washington Post as one of the top 10 books of 2013. Ann is a psychotherapist who provides trauma informed relational care to clients with a focus on women in recovery, and works from a holistic perspective using the principles of focusing oriented psychotherapy, to bring awareness and compassion to the mind-body connection. Ann also offers an online eight week course on Writing Your Recovery based on her decades of experience as a journalist and a best selling author on memoir and writing your recovery.

Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

Stephanie Wilder-Taylor article on A Heroine of Cocktail Moms Sobers Up

Connect with Ann Dowsett Johnston
Website: http://www.anndowsettjohnston.com
Book: Drink: The Intimate Relationship Between Women and Alcohol
TEDx talk on drinking and how it changed Ann’s life: http://www.anndowsettjohnston.com/media/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anndowsettjohnstob/

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson
Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com
Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

Connect with She Recovers
https://sherecovers.co/together-online/
https://sherecovers.co/our-retreats/
The SHE RECOVERS Intentions & Guiding Principles
56 min
September 24, 2020Ep.23: Feeling Bored In Sobriety? Things To Know + What To Do
Are you worried that life without drinking will be boring?
Or are you currently in early sobriety and feeling bored?
Are you scared that you’ll never really have fun or let loose again without alcohol?
Or wondering if you’ll lose all your friends and favorite activities if you don’t drink?
Here’s a secret: Almost all women who love to drink worry about being bored (or boring) without alcohol.
In this episode I’m going to talk about all the tips, tricks, suggestions and advice I have to make life without alcohol fun, comforting, interesting and gratifying.

I’ll talk about:
Why drinking is actually keeping your life small, isolated (and boring).
Why all of us have tunnel vision when we’re drinking. We see only the people and activities around us that are centered around alcohol (and look past all the other activities hiding in plain sight).
What to do if you're feeling bored in your first 15, 30 or 40 days and how to reframe your mindset about the important work you’re doing.
Why there is NO CHANCE you're “doing nothing” in early sobriety. Even if you feel like you are just taking baths, reading books, going to bed early and taking long, slow walks you are doing big, important work and emotional heavy lifting.
Why part of the work of early sobriety is learning to sit with feeling “blah”.
Why to ask yourself “What do I love MORE than wine?” [and why it’s OK if you can’t think of anything at all to answer that question].
Why you should give yourself “assignments” to find joy and pleasure after you quit drinking.
Examples and ideas of new passions, activities, pastimes and hobbies from other women who have stopped drinking & found joy and excitement without it.
Why vision boards of future adventures and travel (Coffee in Paris? Bike tour in Amsterdam? Hiking in Greece?) can be a powerful way to get excited about your fun life in sobriety.
How to edit your social media accounts to inspire you about how good life can be without alcohol vs. making you feel like you’re missing out on something (or everything).
How to meet new friends who don’t drink and have new adventures without alcohol.
And why it’s up to you to make things happen in your life. It’s both a responsibility and an invitation.

You’ve got this.
Life without drinking is not smaller. It’s not boring.
It’s big and exciting and beautiful and you will have the time and energy to go after your dreams.
And if you’re not there yet I’m here to hold your hand and walk you through the quiet times until you’re ready for good stuff ahead.

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/23
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Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

Check out my previous episode with the authors of The Sober Lush: A Hedonist's Guide to Living a Decadent, Adventurous, Soulful Life--Alcohol Free, Amanda Eyre Ward + Jardine Libaire here

Listen to my episode on how to find friends in sobriety.

Download the Guide to my Favorite Secret Facebook Groups For Women Quitting Drinking.

Download The Vision Board Starter Kit.

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson
Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com
Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)
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49 min
September 17, 2020Ep. 22: Reduce Money Stress- Financial First Aid With Linda Parmar
Who doesn’t carry around some emotional baggage around money?
Most people have a complicated relationship with money that can show up in different ways.
This may look like:
A constant weight on your shoulders or guilt about carrying debt
Buying things to get a short term hit of happiness
Fear of maintaining financial stability in an uncertain job market
Staying in a job that isn’t making you happy because you feel trapped by the “golden handcuffs”
Worries about putting your kids through college or paying your mortgage
Or not being on the same page as your partner on spending
Money is a loaded subject and one we rarely talk about with friends and colleagues.

And often our “money story”, what drives our fears, guilt and avoidance around money, is unconscious. It’s something we picked up in childhood and from our parents.
You may not even be aware of the patterns you’re repeating or the thoughts that are not serving you.

Unresolved issues, tension or stress related to money is something that can keep us drinking (to bury our heads in the sand) or a trigger to drink.

And that’s why I’m so excited to bring you today’s episode!

My guest today is Linda Parmar, she’s a financial recovery and money coach.
Linda specializes in helping women in recovery heal their money, thoughts and behaviors.

Linda learned in recovery, that money (like alcohol and drugs) can be just a symptom of negative patterns and behaviors.

Fear around financial security, fear of not knowing how to manage money or “adult”, fear around being able to take care of ourselves or making the wrong decisions financially can be a big source of stress in our own lives, as well as with family and in relationships.

There’s a lot of shame and self-judgement around debt, financial missteps, not having as much money as the people you know or not being able to provide your kids with the same vacations and gifts that their friends may be getting.

A few years into recovery, Linda was ready to look at these patterns and behaviors, which led her to become a certified money coach.

Linda has worked in the financial industry for 20 years, and has made a career from helping people with their finances.

In this episode, you will learn:
How to uncover your money story
What values you have around money
Why spending money can be addictive behavior
How to forgive yourself and start to understand how money is a trigger driving you to drink
Why both Linda and I hate the word “budget”
How to create a spending plan that is aligned with your dreams and needs

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/22
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Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

Apps Mentioned:
https://moneyminderonline.com
https://www.everydollar.com
http://imdonedrinking.com

Connect with She Recovers
https://sherecovers.co/together-online/
https://sherecovers.co/our-retreats/
SHE RECOVERS on Facebook: facebook.com/sherecovers
The SHE RECOVERS Intentions & Guiding Principles

Connect with Linda Parmar
Grab your Financial First Aid Kit at www.lindaparmar.com
Facebook Group: Your Money, Your Recovery
Podcast: Your Money Your Recovery Podcast

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson
Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com
Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)
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1 hr 7 min
September 10, 2020Ep. 21: The Truth Behind Those Online Drinking 'Highlights'
The Truth Behind Those Online Drinking “Highlights”. Getting Real With Emily Lynn Paulson.
How “real” are all those images you see online?
The perfect Instagram families? The fancy business trips? The carefree Mom’s Night Out?

Today my guest is an author, a speaker and my friend, Emily Lynn Paulson.
In our conversation Emily and I dig into the truth behind the “Online Drinking Highlights” you see as you scroll through your social media feed.
Emily and I know that so many women struggle with their drinking, quietly, in private, and in their own heads - just like we did.
You might look around and see everyone else is posting a photo of the sophisticated cocktails at a bar on a date night, the pictures of friends all drinking together around the firepit, or the vacation pictures with the margarita at the beach.
And the truth is, you have no idea what anyone else’s relationship with alcohol looks like, or what their marriage feels like, or how well they’re coping with being a parent and with their jobs.

In this episode Emily and I talk about:
Why Instagram, Pinterest and Facebook set expectations so high for what a successful woman, mother and wife is “supposed” to be that most women inevitably can’t measure up.
The reality of what our lives, our jobs, our marriages and interactions with our children looked like as compared to the pictures we posted online.
Why posting your highlights on social media is such a draw. As Emily says “In those Instagram squares was the life I wished we were living: a happy marriage, a healthy wife, a happy motherhood. Behind the scenes though, we were barely surviving.”
How you can both love your kids and feel grateful for them, and also feel that motherhood is hard, draining and (yes) unfulfilling.
And why finding a safe space of women to share your struggles and honest experiences - both good and bad - can be a game changer in living a happier life.
In this episode, you learn:
How to navigate the drinking culture of parenthood and “mommy juice”
How to connect with your partner again after quitting drinking
Why it's hard to quit alcohol when it has become part of your love language
How not to gravitate toward the pretty images on Instagram and take those photos as real life because the hard stuff is hard to look at both on Instagram and in our own lives.

Emily Lynn Paulson is the author of a powerful memoir about her life, her family, her successes and struggles, excessive drinking and disordered eating, and her realization that drinking wasn’t working in her life anymore.
Emily is a certified professional recovery coach, She Recovers Designated Coach, This Naked Mind Certified Coach, founder of Sober Mom Squad, and a member of the long-term recovery community.
She has appeared on media outlets including The Doctors, Parade, Today Parents, and USA Today, discussing how to end the shame and stigma of mental health by and substance abuse disorder.
Emily has been sober since January 2, 2017, her recovery path is focused on ruthless honesty, grace, self-love and is documented in her memoir, Highlight Real: Finding Honesty & Recovery Beyond the Filtered Life. Paulson’s resources include one-on-one coaching, to help others evaluate whether or not alcohol is serving them in their lives. Paulson resides in Seattle with her husband and their five children.

Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

Connect with Emily Lynn Paulson
Book: Highlight Real: Finding Honesty & Recovery Beyond the Filtered Life
Website: www.highlightreallife.com
Instagram: Highlight Real Recovery

Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson
Website: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com
Instagram: Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)
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Are you worried you might be drinking too much but can't seem to cut back or drink less for very long? I'm Casey McGuire Davidson, a Sober Coach for high-achieving women, and I'm here to help.